without it, there will be no grave on the headstone.
I need to write another letter sending another form, his possibly got lost in the post, the irish postal service is not known for it’s reliability, in complete contrast to the Royal Mail in the UK. 4 years ago
I’ve got 3 forms back, waiting for the last one, he left a voice mail message for me :-D
I’m very happy!!!!!!
things are moving!
Next is to finalise details for the headstone, and forward the paperwork to the local council!! 4 years ago
I posted out the letters with the forms, and with copies of family photo’s I’ve scanned in :)
This has taken me over a year to achieve, and I am so proud of myself for doing this. I don’t care what the result will be, I’m just happy for now that I’ve done what I needed to do. 4 years ago
that I’m happy with, it’s direct to the point and is the same for each of them.
I now need to find the form that I need to post with them, tomorrow morning, the 5th Aug- my Mum’s birthday they will be posted out 4 years ago
into my consciousness quite a lot over the last week, and this morning I had a conversation about it again.
i’m going to write those damned letters to my siblings. sod the outcome, that’s out of my control! 5 years ago
or sent it.
The last week I was under the weather physically, so didn’t get a lot done.
I’ll focus on this again over the next few days :-) 5 years ago
a letter to send to my siblings, I’ll leave it until monday then edit if necessary and send out next week.
I feel anxious about this, but I have no control about how they’ll react, I just hope it won’t delay getting a headstone erected. 5 years ago
to the Funeral Director today, he was very helpful adn suggested some good wording for letters I’m going to send out. FIngers crossed there will be no objections and we can get a headstone erected in memory of my mum and dad.
As I was talking to Jon, the funeral director I realised how much this really means to me. I want a headstone my dad would be happy to see, and I really think that means including either the cap badge, or british legion emblems on it. 5 years ago
hit a snag on this one. The grave is registered in my mum’s name, because my dad died years ago. now I can’t have the headstone erected until the grave is transferred into somebody (living) else’s name. No problem, but to do that all of the next of kin have to sign forms of no objection, which I think my be a problem!!!!! I need to just send out the forms and see… 5 years ago
cemetry yesterday to look at the traditional wording and get some ideas, I want it to be something my dad would be happy with. I also thought about putting an engraving of a poppy on it, but now I’m not sure… possibly his cap badge or the badge of the British Legion, I really don’t know. I think it would be nice on one hand, on the other hand my mum wasn’t in the army, and my dad was more than just a soldier… mmm… I need to be thinking about this one, because I can’t change my mind once it’s done, it literally will be carved in stone! :-) 5 years ago
yesterday, looking at options for headstones, he was the guy that helped me organise my mother’s funeral and he wa brilliant, my family aren’t the easiest to deal with and he really helped me through a really really difficult time. The estate is finally being settled so now I just need to get the headstone right, it is after all going to be there for a very long time. 5 years ago