get over my ex-boyfriend

People change so you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so that you will eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes, good things fall apart, so better things can fall together.

As many of you already know, the rebound just leaves a bad taste in your mouth. I don’t want to disregard the need for a rebound, but after you’ve been in love, casual sex just…isn’t what it was in college.
But now that time has passed I have succeeded in letting go of a lot of the bitterness and forced hatred. You can’t force yourself to hate someone anymore than you can force yourself to love someone…or stop loving someone. I loved my fiancee. I thought I could make a life with him. And all the hurt and bitterness and failure is okay. I don’t have to force myself to get over it at record speed anymore.
I’m focusing on my 43 things. I’ve been checking things off the list in this past six months. The most significant of which is that only a few days ago, I moved to South Korea to teach English. Talk about a clean slate.
And though he’s treated me with disregard and disrespect, and thrown away all the forevers we promised eachother. I’m no longer full of fury and rage. He still tries to keep contact. And I absolutely LOVE that he has no idea where I am now, that from the tone of his e-mails, he wonders about me. That’s petty I know. But significant growth is slow. If I live for every moment here, all of the things related to him will fade and I’ll be ready to wish him well and leave it at that. And maybe I’ll find love again. A much better, truer love, that doesn’t punk out when the chips are down.

We’ve together for a year and I was in love with him. I actually thought he will be my partner for life. Then he declared his love for someone else on the phone while I was there, I kicked him out. I demanded a commitment from him. Then he broke up with me because he needed to sort his life out. I am so angry right now but I know deep in my heart that this is the best thing to happen to me but I just can’t handle the pain. I have to forget him!!!!!!!

I have been dating this guy for 2 maybe 2 1/2 years and he is the sweetest guy i know and he is so cute and we got along perfectly
but when he had to move away it made it difficult for us to see each other and be together so we told each other that it was impossible to keep this up and i told him to find someone new i had no idea that when he found someone new that i would hurt this much. Everytime i see Kyle Loves Jessica On msn or facebook i wanna cry but i know that i should be over it and when i go to find someone else its impossible where i live and go to school. im not the most popular person so i dont even bother tring to find someone new because its near impossible, but one day when i find someone i really love i know i will be over him and never look back.

We were together for 4 wonderfull years and one sunday it all ended.This was 4 weeks ago than one day after all the pain i had suffered and after i was trying to cope without him he called and wanted to see me he totalled his car(this was his priced possession) He and i talked and than yelled until i said idk how you can stop loving someone in 3 weeks and he said it took two. that completely shattered me. I also found out he was hangin out with one of my friends eventhough in my heart i know it was just in a friendly way i feel she should have told me i feel betrayed.

Anyways that day he called me all night and we started talking however when i asked if he wanted us to be together he said he didn’t know. The entire last week we played phone tag he called when i wouldn’t and i called when he wouldn’t. Finally on friday he looked for me and went to my house i asked if he was seeing anyone and he said no he just had a friend but he hadn’t kissed her or anything however he was still talking to my “friend” eventhough her bf and she are back together that made me mad. On sunday he texted me to leave him alone so i need to move on. I had hopes for him and I b/c i thought what we had was great. we were each other’s first and were together for a while but i guess not. now i don’t know how to do it. I dont know what to do to get him out of my mind. Specially because i feel he will come back. But logically i know he won’t. He’s probably with someone else i know this b/c i check his account and know he’s been going places. What to do? i’m goig to fla this weekend but i’m not even lookig forward to going almost as if i won’t have fun.

I really dig what alchemii had to say about this. Living well IS the best revenge. And that’s a big part of my furied effort to keep busy and move abroad. But life keeps kicking me when I’m down and I think I have to acknowlege that I’m a little depressed. That doesn’t mean I won’t keep trying and keep thinking positively. I just get so frustrated with myself for not waking up and maintaining a sunny outlook all day with no hitches. It’s like I’m telling myself, okay you’re gonna be over it starting,......”NOW!”... oh wait, no…..”NOW!” ....damn. “OKay Now!”... “Now?”....”How ‘bout Now?” And yet I check my e-mail compulsively for something from him. I still feel bitterness when I think of him. I still hate to hear that he’s dating. And though I found a new and (honestly) more skilled rebound lover, I miss the hell out of him. (sigh). “Okay, how about NOW?!” DAMNIT!

I’ve always wanted to live abroad. But now, it feels like my plans to leave my home country have more to do with my inner-sense of vulnerability than my dream. It’s like I’m running away in terror, tearing my hair out. “Have to move on. Have to move on. Don’t stop and feel this grief and rejection…it’s too unbearable. Just move on. Go. Go. Go. GO! GO!” Stupid Ex. I hate/love him still. I’ll feel over it when I can appreciate what we were worth to eachother honestly and sincerely wish him happiness again. For now I settle on sullen bitterness and a yearning for a rebound to distract me.

i have been doing so well with this goal that i am marking it done. i’m over him enough to where i don’t think about him everyday, or look at his myspace/facebook page online, or try to come up with an excuse to call or see him. i know that i’m not 100% over him and that will take time but the important thing is that my life has moved on without him and i’m dealing with everything in a healthy manner. the rest will come in time.

also, my heart belongs to someone else now, and even if my ex tried he’s never be able to get it back.

i dreamt about my ex the other night so he has been on my mind the past few days. i actually started crying. i’ve been so caught up in the happiness with the new guy that i almost forgot about the pain. but it’s still there, still lingering.

Okay, so he was never really my boyfriend but heres the story. last november (07) this guy started working at my job and we became friends. i had been with my boyfriend since august of 06. anyways, we started being friends and eventually it turned into more. i thought i didnt love my boyfriend anymore and wanted to be with this guy. so finally it got to the point where he was just like i cant keep doing this are you going to break up with him or what. so in the beginning of january i finally did it. for the past month or so it had been great. i could hang out with him 3 times a day and never get sick of it. anyways, after i broke up with my boyfriend everything went shitty. we didnt work together anymore which ended up being good but we just fought all the time. my ex ended up talking to a new girl not 3 weeks later and it was driving me crazy. i “realized” that i loved him the whole time and we eventually got back together around february. so me and the other guy would still talk behind my boyfriends back. some months more than others. we would hang out late at night and mess around a lot. however, this is weird for me but im not a really sexual person. well i am but i can realize that hooking up with him was completely not about the sexuality of it as much as i think it was for the attention. so ive always naturally been confused about my feelings towards him. i am still with my boyfriend but the fact that i havent gotten over this relationship that never really started is really affecting my feelings for my boyfriend. so the other guy joined the navy a couple months ago and he is moving across the country tomorrow to start boot camp. this whole week i have been so emotional and have had a constant stomach ache that will not go away. it is really affecting me to the point i feel like i am depressed. i have no one to talk to about it because no one understands and i cant exactly tell anyone because it is a secret. i just wish i could sift through all of the emotions and realize what this is all about. do i love him? or is it that i cant have him? i would think the latter but this really has me torn up inside and i feel like a part of me is dying when he moves tomorrow.