marry myself

It might be a little silly (it is a yarn ring) but I’ve been wearing it for the past month or two, and it really helps remind me to be true to myself. It’s also eccentric, and even challenges me to be myself in the simple wearing of it in public or new social situations. I love it. : )

I read a book called “The Love Spell” by Phyllis Curott, which a fictionalized memoir about her journey to finding herself and a soulmate. The writing was annoying at times, but I really resonated with her longing for a deep, meaningful spiritual and physical companionship.

The part that really struck me was towards the end when she performed a marriage ritual for herself, making a commitment to love, cherish, and honor herself. It made a lot of sense to me – if I didn’t honor and cherish myself, how would I know how to do it for others, and how could others do it for me? I have to admit that I tend not to keep promises to myself – e.g. writing a to-do list and then ignoring it if I don’t feel like doing something. I put myself down and dismiss my feelings and insights as if they weren’t important. I have self-esteem issues and often have a hard time “owning” my gifts and talents and acknowledging my intrinsic value.

So I’d like to make up and perform my own marriage ritual. It’s not necessarily going to “fix” all these issues, but more of a promise to honor and be kind to myself no matter what.

The ritual itself is kinda like wedding planning for one, and since I’ve been busy I haven’t started researching things I’d like to include in it. Definitely a goal to complete within the year though.

I’ve read two different accounts of people actually having wedding ceremonies – inviting friends and family and throwing a party and everything – and marrying themselves. Not a legal marriage, obviously, but spiritually marrying their own self.

For myself, I plan on having a private ceremony (by myself) somewhere out in nature with vows and a ring and a meditation session, then some kind of celebratory dinner or desert afterward.

This isn’t some conceited or humorous goal for me. It’s serious. It’s about empathy and compassion. It’s about treating myself with respect and love. It’s about listening to my intuition to guide me, instead of listening to outsiders and what they think I should like or do. It’s about promising to help myself achieve my goals and dreams. It’s about loving myself first so I can then love others and receive love – whether that is in a romantic relationship or friendship or other kind of relationship.

Because the only person I can really count on to love me unconditionally, respect me unconditionally, and help me in times of trouble is my own self – just as it is for everyone else!

More people should start committing to their self. : ) Love yourself!

When I think about it,it’s like I’m married to myself.
After all,I’m with myself till death and beyond!

I get along with myself most of the time.
I do everything with myself. Even eating,sleeping,and showering!

When I think about it,I trust myself much more than most
married couples do!

The only thing is,there is no real reason to get legally
married to myself. After all,nobody can separate us as it is!

Does any of this make sense?

later ;)

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