He wants me to trust him, and I’m miserable when I don’t. I always worry that he’s lying to me about something. I don’t even really think he would cheat on me…but I worry that he’ll like another girl more. He’s friends with his ex and she sends him flirty messages, and she also told him that it’s complicated now that he is in a relationship because she can’t call him as much and she wanted to travel with him. She has a boyfriend, herself, so I don’t know why it isn’t ok for MY boyfriend to move on, too. She is very possessive and selfish, and he doesn’t see it! He holds her on some pedestal. He doesn’t seem as interested in me as I am in him. At first he was SO into me, and now he isn’t as much. I know that can be normal, but I need more. I think about breaking up with him every day. Especially while I’m at work. Then when I get home and see him, I feel better. I love being around him. I just need him to tell me that he loves being around me, too. He isn’t expressive enough about his feelings. I should just end it.
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I was trusting and it didn’t work out. But that doesn’t mean that people don’t deserve being trusted. It just means that I need to change the type of people that I decide to trust.
My boyfriend and I were together for about two and a half years when he cheated on me and broke my heart. We didn’t talk for about 7 months after I found out. We slowly started talking again and got back together. The hard part is we are now two hours away, both at different colleges. We always get in stupid fights because I do not trust him because of the past. I’m afraid my problem is going to ruin our relationship…
I told the truth… we talked. He said “Don’t read me feel me.” Ever since I’ve shifted I’ve been happy!!
I was starting to fall in love. Had to use his phone. LAME text message popped up… girl I’d never heard of. Said “Sorry love, my sinuses were killing me.”
WHAT does that mean?
I want to trust him. I want to ask him. I don’t want to be crazy girl.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and It’s mind blowing how well matched we are.
Yet the only reason for our arguments are my lack of trust.
I know he hates the act of infidelity, he is the most committed and trustworthy man. I know it’s stupid for me to think he is going to cheat as it is so unlike him, he isn’t attracted to the other women his age as all they do is get drunk, go clubbing and smoke.
He is completely different to them. He understands I am the best for him, and him for me.
Yet I’m just so scared of losing what we have. It’s an amazing thing and we have so much planned. He always reassures me, I just need to be less of a pessimist and actually believe that there are men out there who will be faithful, and that he is one of them.
I’m going to trust more, as it is upsetting him.
As if to help me through this rough patch, when i went to the library to day and i found a book that for some reason gives me the confidence to try harder to trust him. I know it’s not going to happen quite that easily but I have a good feeling that it will happen.
Ok so my situation is probably a little different than everyone else’s. However, my problem is the same. I have fallen for someone who is 16 years older than me and he fell for me first. We live about 45 mins away from eachother and only get to see eachother about every other weekend. None of my relationships have ever worked out with guys even within the family. I mean, my mom’s on her third husband and I have never really trusted amny people at all since I was born especiually men, becuase they have always let me down. Thorughout my relationships this has only been proven more true. Guy after Guy has done nothing but lie to me. The funny thing is, that’s the only thing I have ever asked for. Honesty. And no one has been able to give that to me. I am a very forgiving person. I could have someone cheat on me and i would forgive them if only they would tell me. but anyhow, back to the current guy. I have known him for over a year now and we have been there for eachother. He used to work for my grandmother and that’s where I met him. We have a common interest in computers so I began to work on computers at his house. He is married and has a son. One night while we were working on computers, some stuff happened and at first I didn’t really know what to do becuase this guy was kinda my boss and he was married. I know, shame on me! But the thing is, him and his wife are swingers and the married as more of a business arrangement and not for love and both of them will admit this. At this time he also had a girlfriend who his wife knew about but when he said he loved this girl (Ingrid) the wife (stacy) got mad and they broke up and it was one of those long drawn out processes. Well, we were just mostly having fun, we comforted eachother, I was there for him to vent to and visa versa and he always would end up seducing me. I don’t think i ever came on to him because i wa afraid of someone finding out. At some point in time, he told me he loved me and i didn’t know what to do but then a few times later I knew that I loved him to. I have been in love before but only once. I never really like to say I love you until I know I mean it. And I knew I meant it because i felt that if I went another second without saying it i would burst. After this, he stopped swinging and him and his wife don’t sleep together anymore the only other person he slep with was Ingrid and then one day he told me Ingrid was mad at him because he told her he was taken but he didn’t say by who. I hate not being able to tell anyone any of this because it’s technically illegal for us to be together. Well, anyhow, he said he would never lie to me and so far that I know of he hasn’t. The only thing is that he doesn’t immediatley tell me stuff which bugs me. This last week or so I guess he moved out of his wife’s house and moved in wiht Ingrid, by choice, he tells me this is to cut the apron strings early which we have talked about and could be the truth and probably is but it bugs me that he doesn’t call me and tell me right after stuff like this happens. IOt bugs me that I only see him like once every other wk and in between those times i don’t really know wat’s going on. Which isn’t all his fault. we can’t rly talk on the phone a lot because nobody can know about our relationship. Anyway, this weekend was the last notch, i went to stay with him and this is when i found out that he was living wiht Ingrid, a woman he said he loved previosly but when i asked him aobut it this time he said he was just lonely then and he never rly loved her. but something inside me makes it so hard to believe him. i don’t like to be jealous but for some reason i go insane when i see him wiht her. and it’s only her for some reason. i don’t rly get jealous over anything else. He’s going through nursing schol right now and he said the only reason he’s living with her is because he needs a place to sleep basically. He also said if this doesn’t work out he will go ahead and move back in with his wife. He says no matter what he will always wait for me but I think it’s going to be so hard because he lives in Indiana right now and I live in Illinois which isn’t that bad but after this summer I am moving to Iowa. I know that he can’t move until he’s out of school so I know there will probably be about a year that we are really far apart. We’ve talked about our future plans together it’s just so hard for someone to earn my trust. I don’t know if I should go ahead and open up a little more and talk to him about all this which I probably will eventually because it’s just eating away at me but the only reason I won’t is becuase he’s got a lot on his mind already without having one of the few stable things in his life to become shaky. I feel like I’m letting my emotions get out of control so that i can help him keep his in control but I’m starting to not sleep well at all and it’s all i can think about all day but i won’t be able to tlak to him about it for a little while becuase we hardly ever get real alone time. It’s so hard to go on like this without anyone to talk to. I mean as they say “who do you go to cry on when the one who made you cry is the one you always go to.” I’m sry I’m just babblin on. I don’t mean to. I just don’t know how to trust him more. I just don’t want to get hurt again. I already hurt so bad. And that’s basically the only thing holding me back. anyone iwht the least bit of advice, plz help.
