In my last entry, I asked if it’s possible to be fiesty and classy at the same time. When we think of fiesty, we think of quick comebacks, cheekiness, and sarcasm, and someone who doesn’t hesitate to tell someone where to go. I admit I admire all these things. When we think of classy, we think of politeness, sweetness, gentleness, grace and sophistication. I like all of these things, too. It would seem they are contradictory. But are they?
Classy to me means not going on websites and calling other people dumb, emo, preppy, nerdy, weird or pathetic. It means not gossiping about Trish in the corner cubicle at work, what she did last Saturday and with whom and wasn’t it SO lame? It means not yelling insults at strangers in the mall or muttering jokes about passers-by outside McDonalds. It means not backstabbing your best friend, not stealing another girl’s boyfriend, not making a scene to a girl who has supposedly stolen your boyfriend, not turning your nose up at peope, not belittling people, and basically not treating people like crap. It is being able to relate to other people, being a good listener, being an honest, loyal friend, forgiving others and being generous, loving, and compassionate.
Why then, can’t you be all of those things and still say, ‘Oh just SHUT. UP already you ridiculous cow’ when you need to? Or saying to that guy, ‘If you don’t stop saying those disgusting things to me and whining, I’M going to cut it off for you!’
I believe we can be classy and also feisty, because to me, classy does not really mean refraining from swearing, having a gentle voice, and ignoring the rudeness and ridiculousness of others. You can say shit in casual conversation, speak with your true accent (however ‘common’ it may be), and tell the giggling young woman behind you who’s laughing at your hair to look in the mirror and fix her own problems, before turning back around and resuming your conversation like nothing happened. AND you can wear sneakers, AND you can wear a bright orange t-shirt with a duck wearing sunglasses print. 16 months ago