be less awkward

i don’t want to be that guy

Its not really that im not awkward around the people i know and love. im awkward around them the most out of anyone, its the fact that these people appriciated and dont mind my awkwardness as much as a stranger would. i seem like a smiling blabbering idiot around new people. i dont know how it happens, and the worse is if im interested in someone, i might say or not say so many things that make me seem super awkward. i dont think ill complete this goal but learn to live with it and find people who can live with it and still love me

When I talk to someone, even a friend I always feel awkward. It’s not that person that’s making me awkward. I’m always afraid of how I come off to people and I focus way too much on what I’m doing. I try so hard not to be awkward and I end up looking more awkward.

i donno if i can be less awkward. maybe different awkward but i cant really do it less lol. still working on it i suppose.

i am really awkward when i am leaving a place. i’m always not sure if i should say things to people like “take care” and “have fun” or just say bye or just go.. and i always worry that i stayed too long or not long enough. and then, sometimes, when all this is on my mind, i have trouble opening and closing the door. really!

the second one is (i think?) maybe more common. when i know a guy likes me, whether or not i like him back, i want him to keep liking me.. and i can tell i’m acting really weird but i can’t help it!

but i think i need help more with the first one because i think it is more unusual :)

If I’m with people who I’m good friends with I’m totally me and feel super comfortable. I don’t feel awkward or uncomfortable at all. But when it comes to meeting people for the first time I’m so awkward, I have no personality and people don’t stick around for long. I have lots of personality but somehow can’t show it around people I don’t know. So pretty much what has happened is I’m not really friends with alot of my friends and now I can’t make new friends because I’m just so awkward…

This seems a bit like a confidence issue and a ‘being comfortable in my own skin’ issue. Also, it could be a ‘I cared too much what other people think’ type deal. I really only put this down because I had an incident where I ran into some folks I knew from college/high school which I made a bit more awkward then it needed to be.

However, sometimes I avoid talking to people I know when I see them in public. Could this be because I’m afraid of the possibility of awkward conversations? Sure, sometimes that’s the case. But sometimes I just don’t want to be bothered with questions about what I’m up to now.

I’m something of an introvert but don’t like the idea of being labeled a loner, so I try to work on these things.

i’m not shy. im loud, obnoxitous and brutaly honest. But for some reason when im talking to guys by myself its just really awkward. like i just over think it or something. i can never think of anything to say besides generic questions. but, i will like talk to anyone as long as i have someone next to me like a friends or someone. HELP!

Yesturday, I was in line waiting 8 hours to meet my hero (Gerard Way). In front of me, was a a really cute guy, and he was flirting with me. I was so stupid and became incapable to answer the most basic questions like, “who are your favorite bands?”, “what high school do you go to?” & even “what is your name” Looking back on this makes me want to punch myself in the face. Luckily I still got his myspace, and I can still talk to him, without it being awkward.

Now lets see if i can be less awkward in person!

Awkwardness encompasses many things. Most of the time it’s shyness. But it can be a lot of other things. Trust me, before trying to overcome a hurdle as Awkwardness in general, see if you have shyness first. it might stem from that.