get the love of my life back

Right before I left college, 8 years ago, I dated a guy for a short time who completely rocked my world to the foundations. Before I started spending a lot of time with him, I had planned to kill myself, but he distracted me from that. I probably owe him my life. It was his first relationship, and I had a huge drinking problem & was dropping out of school, so of course it didn’t work out.

After I got sober I really looked forward to apologizing, but never thought I’d get another chance with him. I didn’t dare to hope. It turned out I couldn’t even make amends, as he refused to speak to me at all.

For a long time my goal was “forget about the one who got away,” not win him back. I tried very hard to do that for over seven solid years. It took about five years to stop thinking of him every day, but finally I did and thought “I’m over him.”

Last fall he friended me on Facebook out of the blue. I was so overwhelmed, I realized that I wasn’t over him at all. My long-term relationship with my best friend was already shaky, and once I realized how much I still loved this guy, I finally left my relationship.

Now we’ve been talking, and I’m trying to take things very, very slowly. But I’m so excited, and for the first time in a long time, I feel hopeful about the future. I will wait for him, or stay single, which is also a first for me. I couldn’t be happier. 22 months ago

she took my heart. I broke hers. I made a mistake. went to some therapy/group stuff. i am more confident with myself, less insecure, and an all around better person. I want her to see this, treat her right.. i want her back 1 year ago

I met the love of my life about 2 1/2 years ago. We met randomly at a bar; he was an out of towner, just here for fun, and I was out with two girlfriends trying to come up with a kickball team name. I didn’t pay much attention to him at first, just said I and kept with my convo. But he came over as we were about to leave and asked for my number. When I saw his smile, I wanted to melt, and of course, I handed over the digits. We actually met up at a bar later that night and then the next night. When he went back home, we talked every Sunday night and emailed throughout the week. He was everything I wanted, but not in the package I expected. He visited a few times, and then I ended up pregnant. Scared sh**less, and so was he. So much so that when I told him he ran to the bathroom and threw up! We decided an abortion was the best option, as we were both in school and living a state apart. I will say now that was the worst decision I have ever made. Anyway he stuck by me, and we were doing great until, we got too close to each other. He freaked out and broke up with me. At first he said he just didn’t have feelings for me anymore, then 6months later tried to get back with me, and then 1 year later tells me his feelings never changed, the distance was the problem, but he has a gf. Well, I know he still has a place in my heart, and I believe that he is my soulmate. Maybe its wishful thinking, but the fact that he tells me he still thinks about me and contacts me, makes me believe that he feels the connection too. If we don’t reconnect now, I know we will; it’s fated. 2 years ago

Well his name is Jarriett and he is everything I want in a man. He is my ex bf god brother, and that is the only thing that is slowing us down. Me and Jarriett have been friends since kindergarten, and now we are in the 10th grade. We broke up on July 22,2009, because I was trying to stop his god brother which was my ex. He told me that if I take him back he would stop cutting hisself. So I didn’t want to leave Jarriett, but I did, and our friendship took a huge toll on my decision. So I felt bad on how I did Jarriett, even though Michael was deep in love with me I was deep in love with Jarriett. So I wrote Michael a letter saying that I was leaving him. So he went back to cutting himself but I just didn’t care anymore because I just had the feeling that if he crazy enough to cut himself, one day he might get crazy and cut me. so I gave up that pyscho pathic love and I told Jarriett and we became friends again. But the thing is that I want him back so let me tell you I was so close of having him back, but since he want to be a phycologist he started playing mind games with me. He started acting like he was talking to ther people so I stepped back and left him alone. I texted like 1 person and he was like he don’t want me back and other bull crap. That crushed me because if he wasn’t playing mind games o well I let it go but I really wanted him back, so this is basically an overview of what is going on. 2 years ago

I met the love of my life 2 1/2 yrs ago. At the time though my sister was interested in him and he was interested in me. He was known to be somewhat of a man whore so i wasnt interested, but we started talking a month or so after we met. A week or so after we started talking his ex started drama so i told him we shouldnt talk or anything. He tried to see me and talk to me everyday for a month after that. When i finally came around he told me he liked me and someone else. So for the next 2 years we talked on and off because of the age difference and stupid drama people would start.

Well i guess i kind of cheated on him recently and i told him because i felt guilty and he usually tells me when something happens at a party with him. He started talking bout marriage and having kids after i confessed so i pulled back because im only 18 so im not ready for that. Well when we finally started talking again a month after that he made us “official”. But now he just wants to be friends because “hes tired of the stress and the acting weird bullshit” but yet he still says he loves me.

Weve tried being just friends before and it never works. We’re either talking and together or we have nothing to do with eachother at all because its to hard for us. And i want to be with him. Hes the only one that matters to me. So what should i do because i cant lose him…..id be devastated.? 2 years ago

I met the love of my life and waited three years just to be with him. When we were finally together, nothing went right. I ruined everything, because I had changed… It only lasted three MONTHS before I broke up with him. Now he’s all I want…
He says we’ll be together in the end… But he doesn’t want me back because I hurt him so badly… How can I prove to him we should be together? 2 years ago

I met the love of my life last year! He is so kind and generous, I love him with all my heart…I however cheated on him when we first met and told him the truth a few months down the road. We stayed together then with many trust issues though. Recently we broke up, he can’t trust me but says he loves me,I really want him back and in my life. He is my whole world and more and I would never hurt him again. 3 years ago

My love and I met at a fitness club and we hit it off right away. He asked me out and we started dating for about 2 months until I wanted to commit and move forward to a serious relationship and he didn’t. I told him that I couldn’t do this anymore and we became friends.
It’s been 1 1/2 now and I still want him back. I have made the effort to tell him that I still have feelings for him but he just isn’t ready for a relationship. Will I ever get him back? or have him at all? Will he ever commit?
When we are together we have this attraction that I have never felt towards anybody before. 3 years ago

So i met the love of my life the first day of high school. We were super good friends until our senior year when i told her i had feelings for her. She told me she didn’t share those feelings for about 3 weeks until when she told me she was just scared of a relationship. We started dating shortly afterwards and were planning on getting married.

After 10 months of dating she told me she claimed God told her we needed to take a break. I loved her so much a reluctantly said ok then two weeks later we broke up but she said she still wanted to be really good friends. And i know her friends gave her a nudge in this direction.

Its been 4 months since then and we havnt talked in person or on the phone once. Ive tried to talk to her just as friends through emails but she just dismisses me.

Even on the day we broke up she said she still loved me.

Just recently she moved away about a hour from me. I feel like shes running from me.

SHES NOT ACTING LIKE A EX WHO JUST WANTS TO BE FRINEDS.

Its hard because i dont just love her as a lover i love her as a frined to, but i dont have her either way..

Please some give me advice!!! 3 years ago

the love of my life and i met in 7th grade we have been off and on ever since, a year before his mission we dated very seriuosly and when he left to india for a two year missionn for our church he wrote me and broke up with me becasue it was to hard to serve 100% and be thinking about me. he comes home in one year and I want to get him back he is the only boy i have ever loved. 4 years ago

I met him when I was 19 years old. He was 24. The year was 1996.
Met him driving my ex’s car (he was kind enough to lend it to me. I was waiting at a red light, when a really cute guy asked me to pull over that he wanted to talk to me. I laughed at him and he stood in front of my car. I thought “he is insane” but my gf made me stop. LOOOOOOOOOONG story short, we exchanged numbers and started dating right away. The only reason we weren’t perfect for each other was that I am 5’9 and he is 5’7 (lol I know) but his confidence won me over.
We dated for 6 months and I stopped seeing him because 1) I wasn’t ready and 2) I knew he was too good to be true.
Well a year went by, I dated another dude, and ran into Eddie again on the same spot we met (it was odd because neither one of us lived around around there anymore). In 1998 we decided to go out again, and 2 weeks later I KNEW I WAS IN LOVE and I freaking spilled it when I was hanging up the phone!(I said Te Quiero which is like I love you but sweeter, well to me at least) ANYWAY…3 months later we moved in together. We lived 3 VERY happy years. But he is a VERY good looking dude and I was very insecure and I’d fight with him all the time. He got tired and we broke up. 3 months later, we got back. We lasted another 3 years. He wanted to get married but I wasn’t ready and I broke up with him. I KNOW! INSANITY! We broke up for two years. I dated and met VERY nice men, but my heart and mind was still with Eddie. About 2 weeks ago, we decided to date again and now we both want the same thing! We are planning a summer wedding. 11 years later and I get to marry the man that still gives me butterflies when I see him.
So to those that have been thru similar situations, IF YOU TRULY believe that THAT person is the ONE for you, then live your life, let them go, and if they are the ONE for you, they’ll be there when you LEAST expect it. Good luck and happy life to all. 4 years ago

I couldn’t really help anyone with this, but here’s my story. My boyfriend and I decided to go on a break because of long and thoroughly discussed circumstances. I didn’t want to be friends with him anymore, I didn’t want to talk to him it hurt too much! And then one day I came home and had to find out through freaking Myspace that he had a new girlfriend. I called him up crying and and told his mom to wake him up. He told me that he hadn’t done anything with her, he hadn’t even kissed her yet. He’s never given me a reason not to trust him, so he calmed me down and told me to get some sleep. He still laughs about it because they were really more like friends than anything. Then he even told me he wasn’t sure if he loved me… I’m not easily deterred though, so I made the arguments and told him how I felt. Apparently it worked because the next day it was as if nothing happened. A couple months down the road we were talking about my trip to AZ and he pretty much said “Screw it! I want to be with you.” That’s the Cliff’s Notes version of our story. We’re together happily, he asked me to move in with him. I’m scared out of my mind to do it, but we’ll see what happens. 5 years ago

you’ll have the same problems you had before. don’t do it! 5 years ago

I want Will back but im not sure how to get him back..any advice??? This is what I dont understand…he said that he loves me and wants to be with me but he cant be….so there is a good chance that I can get him back…so any advice??? 5 years ago