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Him 7 months ago

I have this awesome guy who’s been with me for 4 years, however, we would end up fighting each month or so. Every fight starting because of my emotions and insecurities. All these while, I still feel as if I am not suitable for him because of my looks and character.

And instead of getting mad at me each time, he just holds me in his arms as tight as possible and tells me that everything will be alright. For all these years he has been doing this… Recently when I asked why, he says “we’ve been together for almost 4 years, you think this kind of thing would affect our future? I Love you.”

I know this is 4 years too late, but I am working hard to be more confidence about myself and rather than thinking or trying to be his “fantasy” girl, I would make every minute and second together with him special always…



ambytbfl88 can't wait to marry him

Learning that not all love is equal 9 months ago

Eros has been wreaking havok on my relationship. :(
It seems lacking in true substance.
So, I told eros to take a hike, and I felt kind of depressed when it did.
I really want to figure out how to have a godly relationship, especially with this specific man.
I also want to have intellectual/conversational chemistry with him.
I want him to be a godly spiritual leader.

I have this theory. If I quit forcing myself as the leader, he’ll naturally feel more inclined to pick it up. In all areas, not just spiritual aspects.

I want him to plan dates.
I wish he’d surprise me every now and then.
I want him to make me feel special and feminine.
I want him to call me before midnight and have a meaningful (or at least interesting) conversation while we’re both still conscious.
I’m really tired of hinting and whining and being silently resentful.

I’ve tried the “if you want something done, you have to do it yourself” approach.

I’m going to stop doing what I want him to do.
I’m not calling him.
I’m not planning dates.
If he doesn’t ask me out on a real date before wed. for friday, I’m making other plans! I don’t care how long its been since we’ve “hung out”
If he doesn’t call before midnight, we’re not talking.



ambytbfl88 can't wait to marry him

I've realized 14 months ago

Being a great girlfriend is something that comes from being a godly girlfriend, and being a godly girlfriend is something that follows from being a godly person in all areas.



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i love him 19 months ago

I’m writing this to remind myself when I feel like being a mean girlfriend.
My parents fight horribly and continually. They never act like they love eachother and they are always cruel to each other.
When they started going at it yesterday, my sweet bf turns my face towards him in the yelling and smiles at me and tells me he loves me, and tells me to go to a happy place.
He always tries to get them to make up.
this weekend, he took me aside to pray for them.
He’s amazing.
He also encouraged me to tell the truth on a small matter.



ambytbfl88 can't wait to marry him

The more I learn 19 months ago

the more I try to change, the worse I become.
I keep trying to figure out what typical males want and apply it to my boyfriend.
I learned this weekend that that is demeaning.
Treat him like an individual, unique man..because he is.
Make it personal.
I figured out what my boyfriend wants in a girlfriend;
ME!!!
He doesn’t want to change me. He doesn’t want me to perform better. He wants me in all my weakness, and all my strength.
He really loves me for who I am. :D
This is mind-blowing.

So what I’ve learned this week about being a great girlfriend:
1. Don’t fake it
2. Don’t force it
3. Don’t underestimate your boyfriend; have high standards for him and always expect the best from him.
He loves me and will rise to meet my expectations if I don’t lower them to accept less than who he really is.
4. Realize that your parent’s relationship isn’t YOUR relationship and you aren’t doomed to be the sequel to their horror story.



ambytbfl88 can't wait to marry him

askmen.com's Top 10: Traits Of A Great Girlfriend 20 months ago

10. She’s independent

No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can’t seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit.

On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you - while still missing you, of course - then she must be a great
girlfriend.

9. She’s intelligent

I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. A woman who can meet you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what she’s really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers—or if she’s actually thinking at all.

An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.

8. She’s sexual

While we’re on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance, if you’re into S&M and she’s more the “fluffy lingerie” type, that’s a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page—or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time.

Of course, this doesn’t imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction towards each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the dryer—whatever the case may be.

7. She’s beautiful

I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together—matching lingerie is a definite plus.

You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn’t mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you’re allowed.

6. She respects you

This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape, or form.

A great girlfriend won’t ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.

5. She lets you be a man
do not - I repeat - do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. If she’s a great girlfriend, she’ll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.

She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn’t deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn’t expect you to give up the guys for her.

4.She’s nagless

There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak-up and when to let it slide. You don’t want a girlfriend who will give you the heights of hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally.

However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide—not even a great girlfriend.

3.She gets along with friends & family

A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds.

She’ll actually empathize with your brother’s getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

2.She loves you

If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, everyone has their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.

Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn’t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.

1.She makes you want to be a better man

Stop making that face… Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.

So in review…

Be Independent
Be Intelligent
Be Sexual* unless you’re shooting for purity. You can give off a sensual vibe without doing anything. Don’t be grossed out by sex as an idea. be excited. It doesn’t mean you have to have it.
Be Beautiful
Be Respectful
Let him be a man
Don’t be a nag
Get along with his friends and family
Love him
make him want to be a better man



Untitled 2 years ago

start from love him more



When I get a boyfriend (hopefully it's... him...) 2 years ago

I’ll be the best girlfriend I can ever be to him! I’ll be loyal to him, hug him, kiss him, ooh! I just can’t wait to have a boyfriend!



humph 2 years ago

I think I’m a terrible girlfriend.
Honestly, if I ever say to him “I’m gonna tell everyone what a bad boyfriend you are” he says “You do anyway” but I dont!!! I tell everyone how much I love him!!! But…I dont know. I’m paranoid and possessive, and crazy.
Ugh.
At least I got him good birthday presents.




 

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