be happy at work

Work is the single most depressing aspect of my life. My aim is to reap the benefits (salary, insurance, vacation) without allowing myself to be frustrated, angry and despairing. It might be much worse – unemployed!

I did this and have been doing it – wicked. balance.

Ok I need the skinny on this because I’m not sure its me or the work place? And advice is a good thing right?
Well I have never been officially trained at work. My co-workers and managers are so busy they didnt have the time to to formally train me. I have learned things on the job or learning the hard way.

My resume is strong TV Production. I was told by one of my managers that I was not educated or trained the right way in TV Production. I was really insulted by that comment and have taken offensive to it. This same manger has told me not to eat at my desk because sometimes when I’m so busy I cant finish lunch. Hence I leave it on my desk. But its ok for him to eat like a slob at his desk everyday. The nimrod, even told me because I went to vacation and I left a cup spores where going to get into the AC and cause a wide-spread illness.

I have been told I can write professional emails. I write simple direct emails that get to the point. I feel so useless and criticized at work I feel like quiting. But I’m so better than that. I have not stuck up for myself to be honest. I just sit there and take it but its getting beyond anything I have expericenced. I feel like a joke. Advice Anyone???

Spent half of today working on an operational problem with some nice people – just nitty gritty, tangible stuff around data entry. Instead of the hateful and pointless daily wrangle around acute commissioning rubbish. Now if that side of things could grow… I think there might be scope for something in that area.

Things are starting to look up for this goal. I’ve been able to reassign a lot of the everyday tasks that come up to someone working under me. I’m not sure if it’s I feel more confident in this person or they have been working enough to understand the system at work. Probably a little of both.

This freed up more time to concentrate on programming, which is the reason I’m in the computer field. I really don’t like doing hardware stuff.

It’s the same story most likely told by others. I was truly happy for the first two years at my current employment, but because of the needs of the department my role has been shifted. Really there is no one else to blame but myself on that. I was about to graduate, and with my internship ending I would be looking for a job within 3 months. The job opened up, and I needed my first IT job. It wasn’t so much the switch from intern to full staff, but from software development to hardware / software research and deployment.

I try not to complain about something and not do anything about it. So I’m fulfilling my need to create by taking a little time each day and doing some coding. I also positioned myself in a part time role of leading some conceptual designs of software systems we are working on. Little things help.

A couple of weeks ago, I went to my manager and had a long talk with her about how I was feeling. Although she is under a lot of pressure she really took the time to listen to how I felt. We made plans for what I could do to improve things for myself.

I have been trying to follow her advice coupled with the advice that Princessjane gave me (thank you) I have relaxed and just got on with my job. The past two days have been the happiest I have been, yet the problems are still happening and work hasn’t slowed. My colleagues are changing as well. The woman who I had had the original arguement with hugged my goodbye for christmas. I was happy at work today!

I have studied for a year for a promotion and I have spent the last year trying to convince myself that I am happy in this job.

On friday I was told by my mentor that my team think I am sensitive and weak (i cried in front of one of them the other day after I asked her to do something and she had a go at me! I am a silly billy) – really I am unhappy with no confidence – but they can’t see that.

Over this wekend I have decided that I have to refocus my life. All I ever wanted to do is to travel and work with people who need help. Well from tomorrow I have decided I have nothing to lose – why do I need to be unconfident when I can change the way I think and be the person I am, not a weak little sad person in the corner. I will be happy at work and if I am accepted for being me all the better. I want to travel and see things and have stories to tell and meet new people.

I don’t want to be the person I have been for the past year. I want to have fun fun fun!!!! And I want to not cry when I am stressed

To many people myself included, go to work everyday, waiting for it to be over. Then we go home do whatever it is we can do in the little time we have to ourselves, fall asleep dreading tomorrow as it is a day that is all to simialr to today. I have for the past 13 years worked at the same work place i work now. The first 10 were summers only, but none the less i have seen 13 different years role by here. Im not entierly unhappy here but i also dont wake up every morning running to my desk. The problem i have is that this is all i know how to do, and i am comfortable here, the very thought of leaving is uncomfortable but perhaps nesissary. Has anyone here found a way to make there work place more pleasurable?

...of dreading coming to work.