stop yelling at my kids so much

I get aggravated at the littlest things. Mainly because Im a stay at home mom with three children (3yr old, 2yr old, 13 week old). I know that’s not an excuse for the way I act. But it’s stressful when it seems like every thing they do is to try to get under my skin, like they are testing my patience to no extent to see how far they can push me. I need to take a step back and realize they are only children. Before I know it they will be in school, college, married, with children of their own. And I dont want to be one the people that look back and regret the decisions I made and how I lived my life wayyy too stressed out all the time. I want to be the mother that looks back and has all these stories to tell about my amazing children and how much I enjoyed every minute of my hectic life!

I’ve really focused on this one lately…kids say I am doing much better….

it was just my son and i for a long time. I dont remember one problem… but hes 7 now and i have a new baby who is not an easy baby! but i feel my life has slipped out from under me. my odest son honestly seems to be dumber than he was two years ago, he does not listen he lies he talks too much at school he throws tantrums, anyway, I yell at him daily….everday I say i wont but everyday he pushes me till i do..its like no matter what he will no stop till i yell. he just makes me so angry. what happened to my sn who was sooo good before. and how can i change things in my house.

I did not yell/scream at the boys once yesterday. Today is a new day, and I prqay again for strength and guidance to lift up my children to Lord. They are so good and deserving.

I have already started this morning. Shame on me to do that to the boys before school. I pray for this moment for God to fill my heart with HIS loving Grace, as only HE can. Let me be the mother they deserve, and PLEASE no more yelling… just for today!

Somehow I have to break this cycle of yelling at my boys when I lose patience and don’t know what else to do. They are truly sweet boys who try to please my husband and me while at the same time enjoying life. They’re funny and sweet and very bright. I think I need to start meditating again for 15 minutes or so a day. Maybe that will help me to get grounded and de-stress so that I’ll have more patience and better ideas for handling situations with the boys.

Am a stay at home mom with two beautifull little girls, the oldest just made 3 and the youngest just made 10 mouths. I keep praying that God will help me to stop yelling at my 3 year old and I know He doing just that but more offeten than I care to admit my I bypass His grace and yell anyway. I hate myself for it and I don’t want my babies to remember me as the screaming mommy. the 3 year old is very smart and she talks and acts more like a 5 year old so I guess some how am expecting her to understand like a 5 year old but that is not the case. She is also very strong willed and it takes more then a few tries to get her to lisen and do what I ask her to do, I think this is one of the things that drives me crazy and it seems that only when I yell at her something get though. there most be another way to get her to behavior better without having to scream at her all day long her also have more energy than I know what to do with. if anyone have any Godly ideas that will help me be a better and more softer spoken mom please let me know.

I don’t know what happened, but I started yelling at my 2 1/2 year old a couple of months ago. Not all the time, but it’s rarely necessary (other than for safety’s sake occassionally). With the new baby around it seems like I’ve used it to get my toddler to fall in line quickly, rather than me taking the time to work through it with him like I used to. It’s lazy parenting on my part, and it’s unkind. It breaks my heart to think of him being scared of me. I believe in a certain level of firmness if a kid needs it, but yelling and using fear as a motivator just doesn’t work—I’m an educator, and i should know better! I don’t even yell at my husband when we argue, so how did I ever justify doing it to my toddler???? It’s crazy in hindsight.

I read Playful Parenting, a book about how to use play to connect and even discipline your kids. But really, it’s about lighting up and enjoying your children. It’s helped me a lot and now I’m practicing what I’ve learned. I also want to learn more about connection parenting.

It’s also made me more aware of the damage yelling does. It seems so silly, but it really is a crappy way to control your kids. It makes you and them feel bad, and there are better methods. Still, it’s a hard habit to break.

yelling, you need to beat their ass. They’ll learn to A) Not misbehave or B) Hide their misbehaving better. Either way, its a win win. They learn how to be good or be smart.