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1. When I start to get overwhelmed by “feeling fat,” instead of dwelling on my appearance, ask myself how my life would be better if I were thinner. What would I have then that I don’t have now? Friends? Self-confidence? Love? Control? The admiration of others? Their acceptance? Success and status?
2. Then realize that being unhealthfully thin will bring me none of these things, only a fragile illusion of success that has to be constantly reinforced with even more weight loss. All of the items listed in the preceding paragraph are legitimate goals of healthy people, but working to achieve them directly is much more effective than trying to be successful by losing weight. If weight loss brought happiness, then starving Third World children would be ecstatic with joy. They are not. They are miserable and depressed, just like people who have anorexia.
3. Accept that my body shape is determined in part by genetics. Accept that I may never have a totally flat stomach. Even if I am very thin, my internal organs will give my belly a certain roundedness, especially after I eat. That’s normal.
