get rid of soul sucking people in my life

I was raised by an extremely toxic mother. She chose to make me her scapegoat instead of dealing with her issues in life. I left home at age 16. She is now in her 70’s and in need of constant care. I moved her in with me… HUGE mistake. I feel like I am the child/scapegoat all over again. It has completely destroyed what relationship we had left. I am now in the process of placing her in a nursing home to preserve my sanity. I have some guilt but can not continue on listening to her blame and verbal abuse. Instead of responding to her I keep a journal of how I feel when she attacks me. If I didn’t keep that journal I am afraid that I might physically harm her. I am 48 years old and she treats me as if I am 15.

Anyone have any suggestions? There has never been a parent/child relationship between us. She has always seen me as a competitor. It is a very sick relationship and I really want it to be over.

Actually, I did this goal once. I went for seven years without talking to my mother, and frankly, it did not hurt me one bit. During that time, I went to school, raised a young daughter, held a few jobs to help pay for my education, and remained married to my husband. Though there was stress, at no time did I go insane or have any major problems.

You could say that I “fell off the wagon” when I found out that I was pregnant with my son 6 1/2 years ago. In a moment of desperation, I called my Mother, and we’ve been talking ever since.

At first, this was great. After seven years we had plenty to talk about. But lately, Mom has been more aggravating than ever. All of the issues that pissed me off years ago – Mom’s depression, alcoholism and non-stop whining – are back with a vengenance. And I have good reason to believe that my Mother is a lesbian, though she has never come out of the closet to me. Frankly, I wish that Mom would come out. Her sexual prefererence is really the least of my problems, and honestly, I think that “coming out” would take a lot of pressure off of her, and she would become more bearable in the process. At the very least, it would make my Mother more honest.

But my husband does not want me to give up on Mom again. Why? Because she will soon be 75 years old, and he is convinced that I will feel guilty about mistreating Mom after she dies. Who hasn’t heard that line before from an old person? I think that it’s manipulation, a dirty trick elderly people pull on us to get their way. They do it because it works. (Let’s face it, an old person can’t exactly challenge a young one to a wrestling match and expect to win. But the guilt trip works in the elderly one’s favor all the time.)

Actually, I did this goal once. I went for seven years without talking to my mother, and frankly, it did not hurt me one bit. During that time, I went to school, raised a young daughter, held a few jobs to help pay for my education, and remained married to my husband. Though there was stress, at no time did I go insane or have any major problems.

You could say that I “fell off the wagon” when I found out that I was pregnant with my son 6 1/2 years ago. In a moment of desperation, I called my Mother, and we’ve been talking ever since.

At first, this was great. After seven years we had plenty to talk about. But lately, Mom has been more aggravating than ever. All of the issues that pissed me off years ago – Mom’s depression, alcoholism and non-stop whining – are back with a vengenance. And I have good reason to believe that my Mother is a lesbian, though she has never come out of the closet to me. Frankly, I wish that Mom would come out. Her sexual prefererence is really the least of my problems, and honestly, I think that “coming out” would take a lot of pressure off of her, and she would become more bearable in the process. At the very least, it would make my Mother more honest.

But my husband does not want me to give up on Mom again. Why? Because she will soon be 75 years old, and he is convinced that I will feel guilty about mistreating Mom after she dies. Who hasn’t heard that line before from an old person? I think that it’s manipulation, a dirty trick elderly people pull on us to get their way. They do it because it works. (Let’s face it, an old person can’t exactly challenge a young one to a wrestling match and expect to win. But the guilt trip works in the elderly one’s favor all the time.)

38 YR OLD MONSTERS DIE.

yeah piss off

So it’s done, i have a step sister from HELL!She is a person that thrives on controversy,wanting to stir the shit at every moment. have nothing to say to her and visa versa, Emotional vampires,I even had to crash my own nephews wedding last august! didn’t make her happy, Ha.when the photo of all the Aunties and uncles from both sides came. Guess which sister/Auntie was the only one in the photo, Little old me.My younger sisters were tending wee ones.she does the dirt on all us girls.I’m the only one that said enough is enough!So for the last 6 years she has been making up stories, glad to see some one in my family
enjoys fiction.me i prefer non-fiction and biographies!

I have a few more years until I can get rid of my parents

I know a small group of people. They are at the mercy of soul suckers. These people have this amazing energy and people are drawn to them because of it; could fill whole rooms with their energy and still have more to burn. I’m ashamed to say that I am not one of those people. I have been lucky enough to be their presence though; and the feeling is amazing. They could take your breath away, I promise you.

Me? I just want to keep what light I do have.