become a better mom

I have a beautiful 3 year old son, he is the sunshine in my life and he’s is such a smart little guy. The problem is I don’t know what to do with his complete melt downs. He screams at the top of his lungs and everything inside me freezes up. I can usually determine if he lacks sleep or if something is hurting him. I’ve even paid attention to my attitude during the day….. Any suggestions from anyone on how to handle his melt downs?

I’m a stay at home mom and I’m with my son all the time. I do take time out for myself with my friend and go out and do small things to pamper myself. I just don’t know what to do for him…..

Tori is my little girl. She’s 5 years old and I love her more than anything in the world! She’s cute & SO smart…she’s got the coolest way of thinking things through and makes me laugh at least 5 times a day. BUT she refuses to play by herself. She is afraid of her room & the hallway leading to her room (which by the way is also the way to the bathroom…we’re having scary monster issues)...so Mommy or Daddy have to walk her to her bedroom & bathroom EVERYDAY. She will not play by herself, she constantly wants me to play with her and I do for a little while but I just cannot do it all the time…and I wonder, is that wrong? If I make her play by herself she cries and whines and says, “You ruined my life”...and I get scared she’s going to have psychological issues…(I know…I need to grow a backbone!)...but she’s ALWAYS been a high maintenance kid , from the day she was born she has required almost constant attention. If I tell her to go play and entertain herself she just stands by me & talks nonstop…I’m at a loss, but I’m ready to take a strong stance and become a better mom. I need to be more consistent and do what I say and say what I mean. I’m a great mom actually…I love her, she gets lots of attention but there are days when I feel like I’m such a bad mom. Because she bugs me to play with her all the time, it makes me not want to play with her AT ALL because no matter how long I play with her its not enough. She’s the most well behaved child you will find outside the home, but at home she’s like a little maniac! She yells & back talks…when I reprimand her for that she says its my fault & she hates her life….!!!!!!!! SHE’S 5!!!!!!! (God only knows what I have to look forward to in the teen years!) I think what I have to do is be stronger & more strict (even though my husband and I already are pretty strict I think)...my problem is…I don’t know what the right thing to do is…I really don’t. Maybe becoming a better mom is figuring that out.