Let my guard down

i have the same problem i love my boyfriend to death but its like the love i have for him is behind this brick wall and the only way to break it down is by arguing after we argue i am just less reserved and i feel i can be my true self which is loving and nurturing i just want to be this way all the time

I do something odd. I’m pretty open to everyone but once I start to get close to someone, my wall goes up. I have trust issues.

I want to… I just can’t. I’m frozen.

another one of those things that,
whenever i do it….

i just get hurt.

not a good pattern for improvement.

but for the most part.
I have let my guard down.

& if my guard stays up, it’s there for a reason and I should learn to accept it and maybe even appreciate it for protecting me against intimidating people.

that I wouldn’t want to be myself with anyway.

life is interesting like that !

we spend our lives trying to force things or overanalyze them and finally we realize that usually the easy, simple way is the best way.

like, if someone makes you feel uncomfortable, just don’t be around them.
don’t force it.
be with those who make you feel good.

and in physiology, people have spent years trying to figure out how much water one should have in a day in order to be “healthy” for example, and now people are recommending that you just listen to your hypothalamus and higher centers (your thirst!) and drink when you want to.

your body will let you know when you need something.

i think life is simpler than we think.
there’s no need to complicate things
don’t worry, be happy.
i like it.
:]

i dont know whether i suffer from psychological defects but i have a tendency to have my guard up! i dont know what i could do, i think i’m scared that when i let my guard down people will start to judge me which is wierd b/c i’m very confident in myself….. i’m confused.

my problem is complicated, my sister says i push people away, but thats actually not the case, people push me away because my guard is up all the time, ive been screwed so many times in life cuz i wasnt expecting the world to be as evil as it is…no one ever told me….so my mind needs to have its guard up, cuz it doesnt want to be hurt, makes sense right? i think so, so its tough to do something that your mind knows it shouldnt do. but my hearts telling me i need to put the shield down a little bit and let people in cuz life is fuckin hard without being able to share some laughs with people…only people are so used to me having my guard up that they cant joke with me,

Everytime I let my guard down I end up getting hurt. I’ve really tried over the last few weeks, but, as usual, it ended up backfiring because someone really got to me and now I feel like it’s just not worth letting any1 in

I was talked to a girl I’m dating last night about this. She says she has “trust” issues. I reflected on this realized that I had left a relationship that lasted a year and I never really “let my guard down.” I’m not saying that it’s not worth trying or unachievable, but when you’re dealing with people I think sometimes the closest you can get is to be “more open” not “drop your guard”

It’s just so difficult! I obviously have trust issues, since I always think the worst of people and never give anyone a chance. Last night a friend told me that I’m going to end up a lonely old cat lady, because I never let anyone in and she’s completely right