be more tactful

I’m a 21 year old single mother who works full time. I am constantly going and never have time to just sit back. I have very little patience with stupid remarks and people who say things that they aren’t knowledgeable about.
I work in a customer service position and I have a very aggressive straight forward personality.
I would love to learn how to become more tactful, especially if I can make it an instinctual thing. I just don’t know what to say and I don’t know how to say it. Any suggestions?

Gotta learn to think before I say. My relationship is too precious to ruin it just because I’m too straightforward and tactless.

I’m typically save and charismatic. What the hell happened?!
I’m becoming less and less tactful and it’s really becoming a problem for me.
I’ve also taken into consideration that perhaps the people I used to make crude jokes with have changed. I’m not sure which way this is going. I guess it doesn’t really hurt to be more tactful anyway.

I also want to be a polite and classy woman. Not that I can’t ever be crude and goofy and have fun and what not, but…I see so many women who just lower their standards so easily. I guess I don’t know exactly what classifies lowering standards, because that could mean so many things, but…I guess men and women alike settle for less in being courteous, in helping others, in being conversational, in truly being interested in what other people are saying, and well…even when it comes to the birds and the bees 0_o

I want to be the kind of woman who is a role model for other young women out there. I want to take others into consideration and not think only about myself. I want people to enjoy talking to me, and not feel awkward around me. I want to be humble and not haughty. I want to know when to keep my mouth shut, and when I should say something. I want wisdom. I want beauty and class, but I also don’t want it to seem like I have a stick up my ass all the time.

It’ll all take work, and it’ll take a lot of soul-searching. I guess you have to really understand yourself and other people in order to do this, but…it’s something that I really want to aim to accomplish, because I think it’s so worth working towards.

find myself talking about or saying something inappropriate…it’s either inappropriate or I misinterpret the way people are taking my stories/comments, and I am extra hard on myself…one or the other. but either way, I don’t think this is a bad goal to have….I want to be someone that people enjoy talking to and being around. and I don’t want to say awkward or inappropriate things.

A few years ago i met a man that turned my life upside down! He taught me the real lmaning behind truth, bravery, wisdom, and the importance of doing things RIGHT!!! Unfortunately for me i was still young and took some his teachings to heart, and others let slip away. I am in the Army now, and i have this bad habit of pissing the wrong people off for what i say and how i approach the situation. I am too bold, to honest, to confrontational! Help!!

I want to learn Tactfulness, and better time managment and organizational skills!!

I know that my honesty is a good thing but at times I’m too blunt and frank. I need to find a way give advise/opinions in a way that doesn’t crush the recepients morale (sometimes). I’m definately the kinda gal who doesn’t sugar coat anything and some people need that. I’m slowly learning to be more sensitive as well.

I said something awful to a guy I grew up with last night after a couple of drinks and he was really offended.

I apologised, but I really, really want to learn to be more tactful and find strategies to help me think before I speak, since I make these kind of blunders way too often.

Too harsh. Too rushed. Too straightforward.

Tactfu