Elegance is TIMELESS, whether you’re 18 or 80, you would still be able to look beautiful and give off a aura of elegance. To be simple yet sophisticated, THAT is the true meaning of ELEGANCE.the Victorian Era is a PERFECT example. To truly achieve elegance, 3 main things must be changed,
1: Personal Grooming
2: Personal Tastes
3: Public Conduct
personal grooming is how you manage your wardrobe and how you take care of your appearance. a elegant lady wears well-taylored clothes, noting baggy or too small or TORNED. clothes must also NOT be revealing in a vuglar way and one must NEVER lots of chains, pins, PLASTIC tacky ascessories.
Makeup must be LIGHT and not too gaudy, and please, i beg of of you ldies out there with very fair skin, do NOT wear lipstick that is BRIGHT RED! It may not seem so to you, but improperly chosen red shade of lipstick simply causes your facial features to be distorted! Dark wine red is good and so is dark mascara.
Try to wear skirts and dresses as often as you can. a properly pressed suit is aslo very flattering. skirts must not be shorter then the knee. dresses should be dark, one piece color. other colors are cream, dark blue, black, and dark violet. white is also good if you are very slim.
shoes should be comfortable, NO stilettos or sandal-theme wedges unless they are in a suitable quiet color. you should try to make your shoes match your dress. there is not need for shoes to stand out, they are there to make your LEGS stand out. ballet flats in black or creamy color is also acceptable.
please don’t paint you’re finger nails RED. if you have short finers, it makes it SHORTER. nails should not be too long nor short. apply cream to your cuticle every night to aviod chapped fingers. nails should always be clean and if you want to paint it, pick light green, light pink, or any light color but green or yellow, those make you’re fingers look dirty from a distance.
hair should always be clean and properly condition and groomed. i prefer hair to be long.
to wear you’re hair if you’re at home or casual places, pull back into a neat bun. for going out, bun is good but half up half down is very elegant. tie half you’re hair up and leave the rest down. invest in a beautiful flowery hairclip tat isn’t plastic and attach it to bak of the head covering the part where the pony tail is tied. make sure yuo’re hair is brushed and neat. use spray for flyaways. curls are also very beautiful if you know how to make them. do not put TOO much curls, simple curls on the sides is a nice touch. if you want a classic Victorian look, curl the ends of you’re hair and tie them up in a high pony tail.
Personal tastes:
I’m apologize to the teens that may be reading this but, if you want to be elegant, it also means to drop your “kyoot” items. Plastic hair clips, zillions of plastic bangles, bright plastic beads on necklaces simple must GO. it may be “ghetto” or “chic” in some areas but it’s simply not elegant. one must’nt wear too many acessories, in fact, the fewer the better.
another thing is to get rid of LOUD hobbies, such as heavy metal and start listening to CLASSICAL MUSIC. playing a instrument very well is a bonus.
also for the teens reading this, if you have Myspace and want to seems elegant, choose a back ground that’s a simple LIGHT color, such as white, cream, avacodo green, caramel, or light light blue. then add flowers. choose somthing you like that’s gentle and pretty.
there are no rules on what you must choose for you’re background but there ARE rules on what NOT to choose
1: Create you’re OWN. choose a background from photobucket, this will make you’re background UNIQUE
2:the WORST WORST WORST background i’ve EVER seen was a black ground ground with NEON HEARTS all over it tat’s FLASHING repeatedly. i could BARELY make out the words, needless to say, the person copy that from some website.
3: KEEP IT SIMPLE. mae things EASY on the eyes. make your background give off a dreamy faraway feeling.
and one more thing, cartoon backpacks are NOT “cool” nor elegant. nor is cute things with PINK all over it. that’s just CHILDISH. try sewing or embrodering instead.
personal conduct:
this is most important besides grooming. to be elegant in public, you must change
1: you’re tone of voice. an elegant person is NEVER EVER LOUD. speak in a soft CALM voice. if you are voice-talented, make you’re vioce a bit low, rich and soft. speak SLOWLY, not too slow, but clear.
2: POSTURE: shoulders must be slightly thrown back, spine erect and head staring straight ahead. don’t be like a zombie, but keep your back straight. when you walk, walk at a moderate pace, there is no need for putting your feet straight in front of the other when you walk, it’s walking not runaway fashion. instead of putting you’re feet right in front of the other, put it ALMOST right in front, you will still be slightly crossing legs when walking but this is more natural and would keep you from tripping over. move FLUIDLY, think WATER.
3: CONDUCT
i don’t know how to explain it, but when you move you’re arms to get somthing, connect you’re movements together and move gracefully at a slightly slower pace instead of hastily snatching somthing, keep you’re fingers together, slightly bent, pinky bent the most and slightly raised.
always keep you’re knees together when sitting.
when you laugh, put you’re hand gracefully near you’re mouth.
other behaviors will have to be extracted from etiquette books. it is too long for me to write, but DINING and SOCIALIZING is VERY important.
be cheerful and gracious. no one likes a stingy cold person.
that is all i have time for to write. so this is all for now. i suggest you to read books about them.
