forgive my ex

I left him. He was abusive. He has (I hear- we don’t speak) been diagnosed with schizophrenia…I hope the way he treated me was due to his mental illness and not general assholery. A few months after I finally ended it he sent me an “I’m so sorry blah blah blah” e-mail. I replied with “Thank you, but I can never really forgive you”. I don’t want to go into detail, but living with him was the closest thing to Hell I have ever been through. Now, years later, I’m not so much trying to forgive as I am accepting the past for what it is; the past.
It’s so very Modern Love but I didn’t want him to be able to look at me or harrass me so I deleted him from facebook. After that semi-friendly e-mail exchange, he requested to be friends again. Not wanting to shut him down totally, but also not ready to trust him and remember him, I have left that request in my inbox for almost a year.
That’s all I want. To have the strength to say “I’m past that”. To have the soundness of mind to accept my happiness, even though he seriously screwed me up. Just to accept his request. I can’t forgive him…that would just let him win. All I can do is move on entirely.

Today I went to see the movie The Duchess with Keira Knightley.It’s a fantastic film and everyone should go see it but it made me sad because most of what her life with her husband was like was what my relationship with my ex was. I ended up crying at work when everyone had left. I don’t know if I miss him or hate him more.

I don’t know how. He’s not a bad person. Just doesn’t know what he wants after 7 years together.

after 7 months of being together he said he just doesn’t have the same feelings for me. this was exactly a week ago. it came out of nowhere and broke my heart in a million little pieces. the next day he called and wanted to be friends. i told him it was a lot to take in after only one day. i said i would rather be civil and then work our way into friendship (if it works). yesterday was my birthday and he told me happy birthday and at the end of the day asked how it went. today he called and asked for help on homework. we joked about things but it wasn’t too awkward. my heart is still broken but i want to see if we can make this friend thing work. its nearly impossible but i’ve seen it happen….and in the process,i want to forgive him for crushing me and maybe, just maybe,i can still keep one of my best friends

Was very abusive physically and mentally. I have forgiven him. Many years ago. I was a happier person for it. Now the man Im with my ex fears,lol.

I considered getting over my last terrible, self-centred, arrogant idiot of an ex.

When the relationship ended he said I was “envious of his looks and money.” HA!

So, I wrote a book about what a prick he was www.narcissism.ca

Who’s got the last laugh now?

Check it out.

accepting what he has done, who he is, and who he isn’t is as close to forgiveness as I can get

I cannot forgive him right now.
I want to, but… every time I think about it I get so pissed off that I just want to scream and cry. I am STILL trying to be a regular ordinary person and have a good life and I am STILL trying to figure out how to have a healthy relationship. I know it’s a constantly changing living thing, but… I can’t even see where to begin!

No, no forgiveness today.

but I forgave her immediately. It would have hurt worse to hate her for it.

i forgave him, altho he made me cry so much…u really can’t force a relationship when it just won’t work out…my broter’s girlfriend told me: “dawn, like him because u still really LOVE him not because you are afraid that u will not find another guy to replace him”

i don’t hate him for doing this to me, i just wish he hadn’t made that much promises…b/c now they’re just all lies.