...2 year anniversary at 43Things…Wow, can’t believe it’s been 2 years already…time flies when you’re having fun… 13 months ago
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One of the things I’ve struggled with over the past 8-ish years is maintaining balance. I take on many responsibilities or jobs and say yes to more things than I have energy for. I may actually have time for the things I say yes to, but…in reality, it just cuts into my personal time. And has generally meant less sleep, less seeing friends and family, fewer meals, less/no hobbies… all things that are actually really important. I guess you could say this is a case of misplaced priorities. Just because I can do something doesn’t mean that I should. Just because the opportunity arises doesn’t always mean that I should sieze it.
Today marked the end of one of my jobs. I’ve worked part-time at my university for the past few years. That’s been my main PT job; the other one is less regular. I now have eight more hours free each week (where I do not need to sit at a desk). What to do with this time? How can I use this extra time to live a more balanced lifestyle? 14 months ago
...I like in a way because the day goes by so fast. But it’s tiring at the same time. The last couple nights, I passed out as soon as I got on the bed. Man, time really flies. We’re in May already. Gotta remind myself to slow down sometimes and smell the roses…
Cheers ~ 15 months ago
...I’ve been crazily busy at work this past week. Our office moved to another building, and we spent a great deal of time preparing and making the move happen.
But now that we’re at the new building, things have settled a bit…though it won’t be a week or two before things go back to normal, if there’s such a thing…
But yes, going thru my list on 43Things again reminds me to live a balanced life and for that, I’m very grateful…
Cheers ~ 15 months ago
Just couple weeks ago, my wife and I were cooking in the kitchen and out of a blue, our daughter started walking. For a while, she was able to stand and grab herself up. But that moment was entirely different.
We both saw it in her face and we knew that was that special moment I’m sure all parents knew. We knew she had that mental block and was afraid to try. But for some reason that night, she couraged up and walked. It was a really touching moment and my wife and I almost cried. One of the many joy of parenthood, I’m sure…but very exciting!!! And since, she’s all over the house and she doesn’t even crawl anymore. If we didn’t have our hands full before, we certainly do now…hahaha 16 months ago
...picture of our daughter while we were in Hong Kong. I absolutely LOVE it. Look at her, she’s so happy!
I’ll look at it for years to come…
Cheers ~ 17 months ago
...I was quite enthusiatic coming back at work yesterday, but today seems different…perhaps I did not sleep well last night. I woke up in the middle of the night. My daughter did as well. And I was never quite able to go back to sleep though I was tired as hell.
Anyhow, I’ll take it easy at work today and hopefully get a full night’s rest tonight.
Cheers~ 17 months ago
...time to start training…Go Niners!!! 18 months ago
...I got a call from my wife, but when I picked up, no one answered. I’m afraid it was an emergency, so I called back. And when I call did, my daughter picked up and she started babbling…this is the sweetest thing. She made my day! 18 months ago
The Niners are back at it…they finally made it to the Superbowl after 18 years of drought…the whole city is going bananas…and that seems to be the topic of choice at work these days…
Go Niners!!! 18 months ago
on getting healthy again, “S” is mostly on board too:) I hope that I can make this work well:) 18 months ago
...superstorm Sandy, Sandy Hook Elementary shooting, what’s with “Sandy”?! I hope you’ll find peace, bliss, and joy in this holiday season.
Today is Christmas eve. As a new father, I can almost sense how tough it would be to go through what is supposed to be a joyuos Christmas without your love one.
Life has no guarantee, and Obama is right, we need to hug each other just a little tighter this Christmas. Happy holidays!
Cheers ~ 19 months ago
I used to blog.. alot. They were written in better times.. different times – I guess one could say. I guess I take pause because as much as I was grateful for my life then and as wonderful as it was, I have many things to be grateful for:) I have a few people in my life who love me, my health is improving, I have a good job, a car, a wonderful pet. The area I live in is amazingly beautiful and offers much. However day to day I forget amongst all the wonderful things in my life I have spent much time feeling sorry for myself, wasting away happiness and opportunity. Nearly two years. It’s time to move past wallowing in my own self pity and begin to live instead of allowing myself to merely exist.
I recently came across a post from another blog which I wanted to share. When I read it I knew these were things I was letting get in the way of living a fulfilling life.. 9 reasons I am stuck where I am.
Life is change; it is forever moving. Staying stuck is a choice.
For it is a choice, not a chance, that determines your destiny. The road may be long, but it’s wide open. As Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” If you don’t like the way your life is at the moment, you have the choice to change it. Actually, you owe it to yourself to change it. But you can only shift your current situation one small step at a time.
In other words, to get through even the most difficult times and circumstances you need to take baby steps, and you must keep on stepping.
So if you feel stuck right now, it means you aren’t stepping. And it’s probably because…
1)You haven’t taken responsibility for your circumstances. – Too many people have a habit of blaming their circumstances or mistakes on bad fate or bad luck. Too few will admit that their situation is a direct outcome of the choices they’ve made. In life, this is the foundation you need to correct in order to grow. You must accept your current situation, take responsibility for it, learn from it, make the necessary changes, and move forward.
(I accept that yes, I am doing this.. whether or not it is all my actions that caused it or not is irrelevant. The choices I have made in the past have led me to where I am today- and I don’t just mean physically. I need to make better choices and I am starting that choice today.)
2)You’ve given in to your fears. – If you’re doing big things and pushing for your dreams, you are bound to encounter situations that scare you and make you feel uncomfortable. So what. Move forward with gusto. Remember that the extent to which we sometimes allow fear to rule our lives is truly startling and unnecessary. Especially when you consider one very important fact about fear: It’s a total figment of your imagination.
(Pushing away my dreams… I have become an expert at. Although I currently don’t really have any “dreams”, but I have allowed myself to be stagnant and not find another dream worth following)
3)You continue to ignore your calling. – What you seek, whether you realize it or not, is the actual feeling of being ALIVE and LIVING your life your own way. You don’t have to satisfy everyone else. You just have to find something to believe in – something that anchors you and keeps you looking forward, regardless of what others are doing or saying. For it is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.
(Again very true. I do spend all my time trying to satisfy everyone else instead of myself. All the things I used to be passionate about have faded into the past.)
4)You’ve become accustomed to negativity. – It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see. The biggest wall you must climb is the one you have built in your mind. If you don’t control your attitude, then it will control you. Negative feelings are like weeds; if you don’t fully extract their roots, they will keep coming back. So take control of your destiny. Believe in yourself. Ignore those who try to discourage you. Avoid negative people, places, things, and habits. Don’t give up, and don’t give in to consuming the garbage these negative sources are trying to feed you.
(When I first came to my new way of life I was quite depressed, and I let it consume me. Spent time with the wrong people, doing the wrong things. I had people trying to support and encourage me but it either fell on deaf ears or I pushed them away. I didn’t believe in myself even when other people did.)
5)You don’t appreciate what you have. – Pause for a moment. Breathe in slowly and deeply. Exhale. Feel the miracle of your breath. And say, “Thank you.” You probably woke up with a few aches and pains this morning, but you woke up. You’ve seen better days, but you’ve also seen worse. You might not have everything you want right now, but you have everything you need to move forward. Life isn’t perfect, but it sure is good.
(Absolutely. I don’t have everything I want right now.. but there is no reason I can’t make that come to fruition)
6)You keep worrying about a time that no longer exists. – You can’t have a better today if you’re still thinking and worrying about yesterday. Whatever could have been or should have been, doesn’t matter. This moment is here and now for you to live. It’s okay to not have all the answers yet. In fact, you’ll never have ALL the answers. Just continue the journey, focus on the present, do you best, and trust the process.
(Yuppers… the past is the past, it was great while it lasted, but I cant keep dwelling there wondering what I coulda, shoulda, woulda done. Time to move on, even if some days it is hard.)
7)You keep looking for happiness outside yourself. – Enlightenment is not the accumulation of knowledge; it is the full realization of who you already are. True wealth has nothing to do with material possessions; it is the surrender to an abundance that has no limit. What you seek is not somewhere else at some other time; what you seek is here and now, within you. The more you look for it outside yourself, the more it hides from you. Relax, remember the source of your deepest desires, and allow yourself to know their fulfillment.
(I have always done this. Waiting to be made happy, at peace or to be rescued. When I am not waiting to be rescued, I rescue others.. usually at my own detriment.)
8)You’re still looking for the easy road. – Someday you will look back on your life and realize that everything worthwhile you’ve ever accomplished initially challenged you. And that is as it should be, because big challenges often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary success. Every struggle arises for a reason – for experience or a lesson. A great journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is ever a waste of time if you learn and grow from it.
(Probably… not within life’s daily challenges per se.. but someone to save me and make me happy so I take what I can from people on a mental level hoping they will make me happy, instead of creating my own happiness for myself)
9)You need to let go and move on. – Sometimes being strong and moving on are the only choices you have. There are some things in life that you may never completely get over. The best you may be able to do is get through them slowly. But that’s okay. The struggle forward is worth the effort. There’s still a lot of beauty left to be seen on the road ahead.
(Always working on this.. always) 19 months ago
...our daughter crawled!!!
Yes, she started crawling. For a while, she was able to sit upright and reaching…we knew she would crawl any day. Seeing that happened almost brought tears to my eyes…
What a major milestone, she’s really growing up right before our very eyes…kind of like that commercial about a dad handling over a car key to his baby daughter, and the next thing he knew she’s an adult…wow! 20 months ago
...life is beautiful and very often the most beautiful things in life are FREE…our creater is amazing…
Cheers~ 20 months ago
...it’s a competition where teams design and build man-made flying machines and see who can fly the furthest. It’s a silly-fun event really and this year is it’s anniversary. I can’t believe how crowded it was…but most everybody was civil except for a few people smoking weed and public drunkenness. But it got so crowded that we left shortly after it started…
http://www.redbullflugtagusa.com/ 20 months ago
...I donated $20 to help with the hurricane relief effort. I donated via my wife’s church…I wanted to do this couple weeks ago, but was undecided between Red Cross (where I normally donate) or some other organization.
I decided to go with my wife’s church…and luckily, it’s very easy, she doesn’t even have to do it on Sundays. Anyone can donate anytime online…if in case anyone is interested, here’s the site:
Cheers ~ 20 months ago
...I took a day off yesterday and joined the crowd for the Giants Victory Parade…it was so very crowded, but we had a blast…by the time we got there, the streets were packed…
We couldn’t get anywhere close to the parade, but simply absorbing the good energy was good enough fun for us…I just couldn’t resist, this might be a once-in-a-lifetime kind of deal…how could we pass it up? Plus, it was Halloween…just another excuse…lol…but we did not go trick-go-treating because our daughter is just too young and it was raining!!! I guess that explained why no one showed up either…hahaha…
Cheers~ 21 months ago
...and we ran the infamous Dipsea Trail. The Dipsea Race is an annual race that occurs every June. The course goes from Mill Valley in Marin all the way to Stinson Beach. It’s about 7.5 miles.
We didn’t do race, of course, since it’s just Oct. But we ran the course just for fun. While it’s the same as B-2-B distance-wise, it’s 3x as hard because of the hills. And they’re steep hills. Plus, it’s mostly dirt trail and some of part of it can be muddy.
We had a blast, except that today my legs are sored. Hey, no pain no gain, right?!
Oh, and the Giants won the World Series…double happy!! 21 months ago
...so excited and Game 1 is today (at home!!!)...
The whole city is cited…cheers ~ 21 months ago
The series is now EVEN. Looking forward to Game 3 on Wed. Cheers~
Go Giants!!! 21 months ago
...when everyone wrote them off, including myself, somehow, they held it together and overcome the unimaginable…I mean, they were down 0-2 and playing on the road…winning 3 straight after being defeated two times is tough enough, but on the road?!
Wow, this makes a believer out of me…”impossible is nothing.”...I’m quoting Addidas…
Cheers~ 21 months ago