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One of the secrets of legendary NBA coach Pat Riley’s success is his commitment to gradual, consistent improvement. In 1986 he was faced with a major challenge: his team thought they’d played their best, but the championship had still eluded them the year before. To inspire them to move to the next level, he convinced them that if each enhanced thier performance by a mere 1 percent in 5 key areas, it would make all the difference.

The genius of this plan was it’s simplicity: Everyone felt certain they could achieve it. Each player only had to dedicate himself to a 5 percent increase, but, multiplied by 12 players, it produced a 60 percent improvement for the team- their best season ever!

Could you imagine what you could accomplish with small but steady improvements?

Yes i feel that if i put only 10 minutes a day into my horse revision- that’s 60 hours over the space of a year. More than enough to pass my exam. 7 years ago

The only true security in life comes from knowing that every single day you are improving yourself in some way. I don’t worry about maintaining the quality of my life, because every day i work on improving it.

I think this is a great philopsophy to live by. 7 years ago

In order to be happy, human beings must feel they are continuing to grow. And in order to succeed in today’s business world, organisations must constantly be improving. Clearly, we must adopt the concept of continuous improvement as a daily principle rather than as a goal to be pursued only occasionally.

In Japan they have a name for this: kaizen, which means to focus on constantly improving the quality of products and services. I propose that we americans commit ourselfs to the process of contant and never-ending improvement, or CANI. If we habitually focus on how to improve things that are already great, can you see how this spirit can transform our organisations, families, and communities?

How could you put the philosphy of CANI into practice immediately?

I can start working on my tarot development and not critize myself about my errors, just see it as CANI. 7 years ago

All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. How do you replace limiting beliefs? The most effective way is to destablize your old belief- shake your certainty- by questioning it.

Remember that your brain is always trying to move you away from pain, so think about all the negative consequences this belief has caused.

Ask yourself:

1. As i reconsider it, what’s actually silly, ridiculous, or stupid about this belief?
2. What has this belief already cost me? How has it limited me in the past?
3. What could it cost me in the future if i don’t change now?

Answering these types of questions will help you associate painful feelings to the old, undesired belief and provide you with the oppotunities to replace it with an empowering one.

I am going to use this to take away my fear of being alone, monophobia. 7 years ago

Optimists see failures as leaning experiences, as challenges to modify their approach. Pessimists take failures personally, interpreting them as evidence of some deep-seeted charator flaw. Because thier identity is so closely tied to the problem, they feel overwhelmed. After all, how can they change their entire lives in one stroke?

Avoid this belief of the problem being ” personal” at all costs, Begin to use problems as valuable feedback to help steer you a straighter course toward your destiny, and be grateful for these gifts.

I do tend to get personal about my failures. I’m going to try stop this. 7 years ago

The ability to keep problems in perspective enables achievers to avoid falling prey to the “pervasive problem” mindset. Instead of saying ” because i overeat , my whole life is destroyed,” they might say ” i have a bit of a challenge with my eating habits,” and focus on how to improve their behavior. On the other hand, those who believe thier problems are pervasive figure that because they’ve failed to achieve in one area, they are failures- a generalization that leaves them feeling completely helpless.

To overcome the false belief that a problem is all encompassing, you must take control of some part of it immediately. It doesn’t matter whether you tackle even the smallest part of the problems; just get started now.

I have abit of a problem with being alone, i’m going to take small steps, the first is to move out into my own place! 7 years ago

How we deal with adversity shapes our lives more than almost anything else. Achievers usually see problems as transitory, while those who fail usually see even the smallest problems as everlasting. Adopting the latter mind-set is the first step into the trap of what Dr, Martin Seligman calls learned helplessness, which is caused by following three perceptions:

1. The problem is permanent ( rather than temporary)
2. The problem is pervasive( instead of affecting only one area)
3. The problem is personal, evidence that something is wrong with us ( rather than an oppotunity to learn).

For the next few days , we’ll concentrate on the antidotes to the debilitating beliefs. For today, remember “this too shall pass” to counter the first belief. If you keep persisting, you WILL find a way.

I did once think that i would never get rid of my agoraphobia, thank goodness i dropped that belief! 7 years ago

If you’re going to make a mistake, often it’s better to err on the side of overestimating your capabilites. Why? Your success may depend on it. One of the differences between pessimists and optimists is that, after attempting a new skill, pessimists generally assess their performance accurately, whilst optimists view their behavior as more effective than it actually was.

As a result, pessimists give up, seeing no intelligent reason to continue a fruitless endeavour. Yet optimists positive perceptions provide them with the emotional support and drive to persist and eventually master the skill. Thus seemingly unreaslitic evaluations become a reflection of the actual skill.

Remember, the past does not equal the future. What is the first small step you could take towards a dream you once thought was impossible?

Well i’m tempted to say that passing my horsecare exam is bordering on this. However i think that if i get out my revision book and revise now for 30 minutes a day and test myself and get the 14k sales job that fits around my hours, i feel that i would possibly be able to achieve this! I will definately be able to pass given more time! 7 years ago

Most people who say ” be realistic” are living in fear. Often because of past disapointments and their own perceived failures they are afraid of being let down again. The limiting beliefs they’ve developed to protect themselves cause them to hesitate, shy away from risk and avoid giving their all; consequently, they get limited results.

Great leaders are rarely “realistic” by other people’s standards. They are, however, accurate and intelligant. Mahatma Gandi believed he could gain autonomy for india by peacefully, non-violently opposing great britain, something that had never been done before. He wasn’t being realistic, but he was certainly proved to be accuarate.

Which so called realistic beliefs should you shun? What are some exciting new, unrealistic but entirely possible expectations you can embrace?

Well for me becoming a millionaire within a year is entirely possible, yet unrealistic based on my current circumstances. I think that building my business should be my main priority, i can then develop that unreasonable passion i have that it is possible for me to achieve this goal this year. When in a month time i’m living in a houseshare building my business, it will seem more realistic, yet still unrealistic by other peoples standards. By my cashflow and some good commision only reps, i can achieve the target. I would be happy though with 20k profit this year just to show me that it’s entirely possible to achieve my dreams!

“Far away there in the sunshine are my aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them and try to follow where they may lead.” 7 years ago

Perhaps Einstein said it best: ” Imagination is more powerful than knowledge” Time and again it’s been proven that our brains cannot tell the difference between something we vividly imagine and something that we actually experience.

Once you understand this, it can transform your life. For example many people are afraid to try something just because theyve never done it before. Yet the very foundation of leaders success is that, despite past experiences to the contrary, they repeatedly imagine obtaining their desired results. In this way they forge the sense of certainty that guides them to tap into their true potential.

Do you have a goal that excites you but involves doing something you’ve never done before? When would now be a good time to start imagining yourself succeeding?

My goal of become a millionaire may seem extravagent to some. To me it’s sincerley possible! I believe too that my imagination hold the key to my success. I am ready now to take control and forge my future in my mind so that i can create my reality externally aswell as internally. I can’t wait to see the results. I am going to use this technique for driving lessons and to pass my horse exam. 7 years ago

What’s the secret of success? Often we assume that it’s genius. Yet I believe that true genius is the ability to marshal our most potent resources simply by putting ourselves in a state of absolute certainty.

Billionaire Bill Gates’ career was launched when as a college student at harvard he promised to deliver software he hadn’t developed yet for a computer he’d never seen! Because of his sense of certainty ( which was completely unfounded), he was able to tap all the resources he needed to succesfully co-design the software and begin to build his fortune.

Clearly, we are more likely to succeed in any arena if we are not only commited to achieving a result, but also absolutely certain we can do so. How often do you train yourself to feel this empowering emotions?

I think determination is one of the most important keys to success!I actually try to live in empowering states on a daily basis and try to change my negative emotions quickly. 7 years ago

The power of beliefs is dramtically demonstrated by case studies of people with mutiple personality disorder. Because of the strength of their belief, the utter certainty that they have become someone else, their mind alters their phisology in measurable ways. Their eyes actually change colour, physical marks disappear and reappear, and even diseases such as diabetes or high blood pressure come and go. All of this is based on a patient’s belief as to which personality- which belief- is being manifested.

On a less sensational yet just as powerful level, what transformations have occurred in your life when you’ve changed a belief?

I believe that i can be succesful running my own business and have gained the capacity, simply through this conviction to achieve my dreams. I would love to do the fire walk. I didn’t think i could overcome agoraphobia, but i changed my beliefs and i did! 7 years ago

Think of the far-reaching effects on your life if you only had a stronger sense of certainty to back up your empowering beliefs.

Use the following exercises to boost your level of commitment.

1. Select a belief you wish to raise to the level of a conviction.
2. Add new and stronger references to this belief. For example, if you’ve decided never to eat meat again, talk to people who lead vegetarian or vegan lifestyles to discover how this choice has affected them,.
3. Find or create a triggering event that produces strong emotional intensity. For example, if you’ve vowed to give up smoking, visit the intensive-care wing of a hospital to observe emphysema patients.
4. Whether your steps are big or small start acting on your conviction.

I have a belief that my destiny is to setup my own animal shelter to save and protects animals. To make this a whole-hearted conviction I’m now reading about how to setup a rescue. I’m also looking into 100% mortgages so that I have premises for my rescue. Not only this, but I’m going to get a hotel job or job that enables me to work hours that enable me to run business and create the finances I need to support my rescue, as it’s definitely not a money maker, it’s a purely passionate endeavour. I’m soon going to be starting at the RSPCA to raise my belief that this is what I must do. The conviction level that I need to raise is about getting a house. I need to talk to people who have a house and the benefits it brings and start pursuing this goal whole-heartedly.

I need to gain a conviction that I can be successful no matter what and make failure not bother me. I notice that I get so far, and then I sabotage my attempt at what I’m doing because I don’t want to experience failure. This is really destructive. From now on every failure is getting me closer to success which I’m certain of. I think the reason I fear failing is not because I’m scared of failure but because I’m scared of being humiliated by other human beings, telling me I told you so, I knew you couldn’t do it etc. If no one batted an eyelid when I failed then it wouldn’t bother me, its people’s reactions that I find humiliating. I need to overcome this. 7 years ago

Because of the passion they inspire in us, convictions propel us to action. Someone who cares deeply about the rights of animals has a belief, but someone who spends spare time passionately educating the public about such issues as laboratory testing and the consequences of eating a meat- based diet has a conviction.

Are there areas in your life in which holding a conviction would give you the added drive to push through all kinds of obstacles? For example, can you see how the conviction never to let yourself become overweight would compel you to make healthy lifestyle choices consistently? Do you realize how a conviction like “I can always find a way to turn thins around” could help steer you through the toughest of times?

Holding a conviction that I am a great sales person would help my business immensely, but I don’t practice it, so I need to start doing so. I have many healthy beliefs, I may consider turning some of these into convictions, like not drinking alcohol and not eating lactose foods as I do get horrible headaches and feel poorly, yet I still do it! I.e. Chocolate  7 years ago

What’s the purpose of a belief? It guides us in making decisions about how to avoid pain or gain pleasure more quickly. Because of our beliefs, we don’t have to continually start from scratch in making those decisions. Sometimes in our moments of greatest fear, pain or emotional intensity we look for relief in the form of a belief. Do you know, for example, anyone who has turned pain over a hurtful relationship into a conviction that he or she will never find love?

Some people with convictions will resist all information to the contrary; at their most extreme, they’d rather suffer excruciating pain- loneliness, depression, even death- than give up their beliefs.

Do you have convictions? Which ones empower you or disempower you?

Yes every time I come to the end relationship I feel like it’s the end of the world and that that person was the only person for me. It’s just fear of moving on I guess.

I have some really empowering convictions that I can achieve anything I put my mind too. I can turn any situation around to my advantage. I have negative beliefs, but I don’t have any negative convictions really. 7 years ago

Are some beliefs more powerful than others? Absolutely. There are three different levels of certainty: Opinion, belief, and conviction. Opinions can be shifted easily, as they are based on transitory perceptions. Beliefs are much stronger because they are based either on many experiences or on experiences with more emotion attached to them. It’s still possible to destabilize this certainty with new questions. A conviction, on the other hand, is buttressed by such high emotional intensity that the person holding it not only feels certain, but can actually become enraged and / or blinded to any rational discussion if the conviction is even questioned.

Convictions can be incredibly empowering or unbelievably destructive. Which of your beliefs are opinions? Which do you feel more strongly about? Do any of them approach the level of conviction?

What are my convictions? The things I absolutely believe with concrete certainty are that I am here to serve and protect animals. I also have a conviction that I will make my business successful and make millions, which will enable me to setup my own animal sanctuary. I believe that I am good at sales. I have an absolute conviction that I will be successful in the future. I don’t believe in abortion. That’s a conviction now after what I experienced. That I am a good loving person and that I have a destiny I need to fulfil to save animals and protect innocent children & people who are suffering. That Nick and I are soul mates. That I must donate to charity and contribute to society.

What are my beliefs? That my parents don’t really care about me as much as a parent should. That I am great at interviews. That Nick and I will get married at some point. That people are generally caring and loving. That I am not as academic as some, but much more business savvy. Animals are easier to get on with than people! That my friends will stand by me no matter what. That life is a give I should be grateful for everyday. That your physical body is re-incarnated once you die, but your spirit remains on a different plain or dimension and is accessible via clairvoyance.

What are my opinions? It’s my opinion that it might be a good idea to study counselling, that tarot cards might make me some money in the future. That it might be a good idea to set up a self help website. That a vegetarian diet is probably better than a meat diet. That I may have some inferior or wrong beliefs that need to be changed. That I am a good dancer. That I’m a bad singer. That you shouldn’t drink much alcohol. That there is a god. That the can be no such thing as utopia for always you need to experience the pain to feel and experience the pleasure, otherwise how would you know what pleasure was if you had nothing to gage it. 7 years ago

Beliefs drive all of our behavior. While some affect only one aspect of our lives, others are more pervasive. For example, a specific belief like ” john is dishonest” would influence your interactions with John, but believing ” People are dishonest” would have ramifications far beyond one relationship.

Global beliefs like this one are usually based on some generalization made long ago under extreme circumstances. We may have completely forgotten it, yet unconsciously we still allow it to guide our decision making.

The effect these beliefs can have on our lives is unlimited, but this does not have to be negative: Change one global belief and you can change every aspect of your life for the better.

One of my most dis-empowering beliefs was when i was in a meeting and got embarrassed. I thought to myself at the time, every ones looking at me! That’s expanded to the outside world, past that meeting room and invaded my life views. I now need to think more along the lines of nobody is bothered about looking at me. This way i can change my dis-empowering belief that causes me anxiety and panic in any situation where i feel trapped in by people, like in that meeting room that day.

The other dis-empowering belief my dad has encouraged me to take is that sales is the lowest profession that you can be in. I need to reclaim my power and realize that sales can be one of the most self empowering professions, highly profitable and i can still maintain my values and integrity whilst selling. I need to realise that my dad isn’t always right and i shouldn’t take everything he says as gospel. I need to empower this belief that sales is good because it will get me far in life. I will be able to make the money i need to run my animal shelter!

I need to think that the people i am selling to will only buy my products or services if they want to. No person can be forced into buying something they don’t want, except little old ladies, but I’m dealing with executive business directors! I need to be tough, realise they do exactly the same thing as me everyday to get business for themselves, and take the attitude of why shouldn’t i? 7 years ago

While an unshakeable sense of certainty can help you accomplish great things, it also has the potential to blind you to the very information that could change your life forever.

Have you ever met someone who, out of a need to stay certain wouldn’t listen to new ideas?

If you were to take a look at your own beliefs through someone elses eyes, what would you see?

I’d see that i ought to be selling a product that i love rather than a service which many times i have said to myself i don’t want to do because it’s too stressful. It’s only after burnout though, but i would analyse it abit more and think that maybe setting up a shop selling animal products or services would be more up my street than marketing, as i want to do what i love all the time. I’m working now on incorporating new ideas and stratergies.

I still think i should push ahead with any actions that i need to take, just be aware that the path i need to go down is one where i gain more knowledge about animals and eventually setup in business working with animals in some way or another. I’m sure there are plenty of ways to start small and make it big, i just need to find one! 7 years ago

We can turn any idea into a belief if we just provide enough reference experiences to support it. Which one of these statements is true?

1. People are basically honest and decent
2. People are dishonest and look out only for themselves

If you wanted to, don’t you have enough experiences ( references) to back up the belief that people are basically rotten? If you focused on other expereinces, couldn’t you just as easily find evidence that people are basically honest?

Which one of these beliefs is really true? whichever belief you construct is the one that will be true for you.

For me it’s the first one. I couldn’t imagine living by the second philosophy even though i have references to support me doing so. It just seems unfair to hold that mentality about the majority when to me the majority are decent and honest. 7 years ago

A belief is nothing more than a feeling of certainty about what something means. For example, if you believe you’re intelligent, then it’s more than just an idea; you feel certain you are intelligent. Where did that sense of certainty come from?

Imagine an idea as a tabletop. Without legs, nothing supports it. To become a belief, an idea-tabletop must have legs. These legs of certainty are provided through reference experiences. If you believe your intelligent for example, you’ve probably had experiences( references) of doing well in school, being told your smart etc.

However, were not limited to our past as a source of certainty like roger Bannister, we can use our imagination to create references for- and certainly about- things we’ve yet to even attempt!

This is certainly something i practice, dreaming about the future and focusing on it with vivid intent every single day! 7 years ago

Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destory. Because of their amazing influence on our lives, we must understand these three challenges:

1. Most of us do not consciously decide what we’re going to believe.
2. Often our beliefs are based on misinterpretation of the past/
3. Once we adpot a belief we tend to consider it gospel and forget that it’s only one perspective.

Do you have any beliefs you take for granted to be true? What are some contrary beliefs that might also be true? How would your life be different if you adopted the opposite view?

Well i do believe that people do care. If i was to adopt the generalized view that people aren’t bothered. Maybe i would spend less time catering to there needs and more time worrying about myself instead of what other people think of me. This could be helpful to overcoming my self conciousness. 7 years ago

Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning we give to it.One of the marvels of being a human being is our ability to fill any event with uplifting or devastating significance.

Some people have taken the pain of the past and decided ” because of this i’ll never love again or be complete.” Still others have shown the transformation that an empowering meaning can create: ” Because i was treated unfairly, i will be more sensitive to others needs,” Or “because i lost my child, i will work to make the world a safer place.”

No matter what happens, we all have the capacity to create meanings that empower us. Revolutionize your life by creating a new meaning for past experience.

I do tend to be optimistic. I look on things in a positive light regarding past experiences. It’s the future ones that i am negative about. 7 years ago

Whenever anything happens to you, your brain asks two questions: Will this mean pain or pleasure? What must i do now to avoid pain and gain pleasure? The answers are based on generalizations – the beliefs you’ve formed about what leads to pain and pleasure.

While such shortcuts allow us to function, they can also severely limit our lives. Some people, for example, have generalised that there incompetent because they’ve occasionally failed to follow up and unfortunately, generalisations can become self fulfilling prophecies.

Think of a limiting characterisation you may have made about yourself or someone else. Do you really have sound reasons for it? What exceptions are there? Is it possible that your generalisation is too general.

I think here when i said that i wasn’t a good friend i was being ab it too generalised. I am a good friend, i just sometimes let my friends down by not spending as much time with them as i should. If they need me however i am there for them and when i am with them i make them happy. I think this is the main thing. Also I’m a good friend in that i don’t hold grudges if someone makes a mistake, i don’t judge and accept people for who they are and i don’t try and change them, but i do offer advice to help them if required. I never turn my back on my friends, no matter what. I think this is a good quality also.So maybe i wasn’t being fair to myself when i said i wasn’t a very good friend. Maybe i was being too general. Now that i have acknowledged this i will change my perception. I will always be there to protect and care for my friends. 7 years ago

Why do people do what they do? It’s all a matter of beliefs. As amazing as it sounds, if people believe that drilling holes in their heads will cure sickness, they’ll do it ( and have!)whether that belief is welfounded or not- and if they believe instead that their happiness depends on others, they are equally driven.

Beliefs make the difference between a lifetime of misery and one of joyous contribution. Beliefs separate a Mozart from a Manson, causing some individuals to become heroes while others resign themselves to wondering what could have been.

What beliefs are at work in the actions of those around you? Which beliefs do you share with your colleagues? you children? your parents? which differ?

Ah well with me i differ very much in my beliefs from my family. My family believe that you have to work a 9-5 steady job and work hard until you retire to get anywhere in life. I believe that you have to leverage your assets and duplicate your efforts through effective use of strategy. I believe that you can have what you want in life. My family believes you are dealt a hand in life and have to play it and there is a limit to what you can achieve based on your environment, especially my dad.

My boyfriend and i have massive ambition. He believes that i can achieve my dreams, even though he doubts my methods sometimes. He has been doubted and achieved so we relate well on this front.

My friends believe in living a simple life, in loving and caring and spending time with one another. My friend Lynn believes we can be successful business partners as do i. I believe in spending time and nurturing my friendships, sometimes though i don’t show this due to my fear of losing my friendships. I tend not to get as close to my friends as i would like to. I don’t know where i formed this silly belief. Now I’ve written it down, I’m going to quash it! LOL.

I believe that my destiny is to protect and nurture animals and save children from suffering in third world countries, that there is a greater purpose that just me and my immediate family. That the world around us are our family too, that we should work in synchronicity, that there is an eternal bond between everyone of us and that there are great powers within us all for change and contribution on a massive scale. My family differ in this view, they believe in taking care of themselves and the immediate family. I donate to charity as a gesture and as a small contribution to society and as a guide for my brain to follow toward greater contribution. My family believe that you shouldn’t donate to charity until you have money yourself. However if that was the case, many people would never donate, and many never do, despite it being but the cost of a cup of coffee to contribute to saving the life of a child for example.

I believe that we all have a purpose to fulfill. For some, it is true, like the poster says, some people are hear to serve as a warning to others. I don’t want to be one of those people.I want to be an inspiring example of what the human spirit can achieve. I feel that self development is key. My family feel that self development is for people who will never succeed. No logic there in my opinion.

My belief is that money is abundant and easily accessible to those who want it. My friends and family believe it’s hard to make money come to you.

I believe in gratitude. I rarely see my family practice this. However this is one of my golden rules of life,and honesty. I believe that being authentic is very important.

link for me: http://www.boloji.com/individuality/06032.htm 7 years ago

So often people blame events for how their lives have turned out. Yet what really shapes our lives is the meaning we attach to events.

Two men are shot down in Vietnam, held captive, and tortured repeatedly. One man commits suicide. The other forges a deep belief in himself, humanity, and his creator, and his creator than he ever had before. Today this man, Captain Gerald Coffee, shares his story to remind us of the power of the human spirit to overcome any level of pain, any obstacle, any problem.

Do you or does someone you know allow a past circumstance to limit today’s happiness? What else could these events mean? Have they made you stronger? Wiser? Able to counsel others who may face the same challenges?

My mum has blamed her illness on her not being able to be successful. The fact lots of people have suffered with her illness and created an inspiring future. This is limiting her happiness now.

For me it’s really a case of experiencing fear due to past experiences with panic. Kind of reliving my experiences but in a different environment. If I thought the best about myself and the place I work I wouldn’t have to deal with this limiting pain.

The other thing i’m doing at the moment to eliminate my fears is yoga and dancing! Lots of exercise. This has worked in the past and i believe it’s the best prospect for improving my future. 7 years ago

For thousands of years it was known no human could run a four minute mile: It was physically impossible. Yet Roger Bannister shattered this belief when he a ran 3:59 mile. How did he do it? In his minds eye he repeatedly visualized his triumph so intensity that his certainty gave an unquestioned command to his nervous system, and he achieved physical results to match his mental picture. Following in Banisters stride and believing that they, too, could do it, within one year several others duplicated his feat.

What barrier do you need to burst through? What do you perceive as impossible today that if you were certain it was possible- and you did it- would change not only your lie but the lives of those around you?

I believe it’s ALMOST impossible to make a million pounds this year based on my current circumstances alone. If it was possible then I could donate more to charity, setup my own charitable projects, buy a house, setup an animal adoption agency. I need to burst through my fear that I won’t be able to gain the amount of clients required and persist until I do achieve. Think of it like a numbers game. Overcome my fear that I won’t make a good manager. 7 years ago

What is the force that determines what we try or fail to try to acccomplish in our lives? It’s our beliefs- about what were caperble of, about what’s possible or impossible, about who we are. In Haitian culture, a persons belief in the deadly power of the witch doctor ” pointing the bone” can indeed cause death. But the real killer is a sense of certainty- the belief, not the witch doctor.

In your own life, have you set negative expectations? What effects has this had on your life? What are some of the most empowering beliefs that have positively shaped your life? What new, positive expectations can you set for yourself and others?

Well for me the negative is about how people will react and me always putting up my guard when i’m in situations that scare me instead of going with the flow, thinking negatively about outcomes instead of positive. I am now working at changing this attitude.

The most empowering belief i have is that i am caperable of anything i want to achieve, that i am here to do something amazing in this life and contribute to society meaningfully. That i am here to protect animals and children from suffering.

From now on i am going to expect that i will get more clients, more money and expect that i will achieve my dreams, i’ll have a cushion, but i wont’ even let the possibility of not achieving what i want enter my head! 7 years ago

To travel the ” high road” from pain to pleasure, discover numerous positive ways to change your outlook. Consider some of these stratergies:

Sing along with your favourite music, read something that offers information you can immediately apply, laugh at a funny movie or show, swim several laps, share a meal with your family or with a freind, dance, soak in a warm bathtub, come up with five new ideas, get to know a stranger, tell silly jokes to your friends, knowing they will probably still like you anyway, write in your journal, hug and kiss your spouse.

Pick one of these and try it now!
Okay my choice is to make a meal for my boyfriend and i and share it together whilst we watch lord of war. Not exactly a comedy lol, but we do get to share the experience! 7 years ago