let go of anger

This is such a time waster and a strength zapper.Why do we do this?!

Sometimes in a flash of light I can lash out and be ever so angry. Something will just set me off that either hurts my feelings or hurts someone else. How do you deal with it? Even at home,I feel like I do everything and I just lash out when i get fed up.

This is a tough one.

I can’t forgive the person that made me angry. That’s out of the question. Some things simply cannot be forgiven. But I need to let go of the anger that I have towards this person, because it’s eating me alive. And as long as I am angry, this person is STILL controlling me.

There are a couple periods of time throughout the year that I am angry and sort of know why. But even when I am feeling at peace with the “thing that makes me angry”, I still have zero patience with the ppl living in my house – which include my husband and children.
After my youngest was born, I had all this peace. I didn’t yell, I didn’t feel angry…. the baby blues w/ her were opposite! I felt euphoric. How do I get back to that? Where do I start to stop being so angry with the ppl I love the most?

I’ve really been successful at adopting a go with the flow and don’t worry kind of disposition and this is serving me so much better than being angry. I can not control what other people do, I can only control me and my reaction. I’ve grown so much in this area that I’m almost tempted to take this off my list, but I think I’ll wait to year end or beyond to see how I do.

a lot of my goals all relate to the fact that I can not let go of things…and even that makes me angry.

Letting go is hard.

Anger is the only thing that I know so well. I feel safe being angry. I know its weird but I’ve been angry for so long that I don’t know how to be happy

Something silly comes along and sets me off. I do have to say, however, that it get less and less angry these days. It takes a lot to set me off, where in the past, the littlest thing would do it easily. I am aware of the triggers, and now if I could only steer clear of them, or just accept them when they happen, I know I can master the art of calm. I’m still actively working on this, but I see it soon moving to my completed tasks list. Exciting stuff!

If not its cousins loathing, dread, bitterness, regret? I noticed yesterday that because I had to do something I wasn’t exactly keen on doing, I felt dread. During that feeling of dread, I was so easily angered. I had to step back after the fact and take a look at how I was feeling, how I had let all of that negative emotion drain me completely, before I realized just what it had done for me. It wasn’t so bad what I had to do, but I made it into a chore, and because it was a chore I moaned about it. Now that I know that is what will come of behaving and thinking that way, perhaps I should rethink how I approach even the most begrudging of tasks.