my family fight like cats and dogs… they argue about everything and at every ocasion they open old cans of worms.. it will start with a family bash event and 2 people start fighting, then another joins in and then another and before you know it, there a war!!! and then old things get bought up and they fight over that.. in the end they storm out and the event is over or only a couple left.. every time this happens, so i never call or ask them for anything, i never do anything for them and i live in a different state.. cant be bothered with it, its negative engery and it sux but what can you do.. there is a huge history of violence and alcohol and thats the bottom line… so were just gonna end up like we have all grown apart and missed all time together.. oh well tough shit i guess!
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Are you?
FORMAL or INFORMAL?
In other words, do you feel more comfortable dealing with task, schedules, objects, projects, and results? OR do you feel more comfortable dealing with people, groups and peers?
DOMINANT or EASY-GOING?
Do you find yourself always wanting to be in charge, in the lime-light and finding things to take over? OR are you the more laid-back, relaxing, don’t mind, complying attitude?
NOTE: Don’t Think too much! Just take the 1st answer that pops up in your mind!
IF YOU ARE:
INFORMAL + DOMINANT, YOU have a PROMOTING STYLEFORMAL + DOMINANT, YOU have a CONTROLLING STYLEINFORMAL + EASY-GOING, YOU have a SUPPORTING STYLEFORMAL + EASY-GOING, YOU HAVE an ANALYSING STYLESTILL CAN’T DECIDE which categories you are in, ASK the person who spends the most time with you and chances are, you belong in one of the 4 styles above.
Our family is pretty much the poster child for dysfunctional relationships and the older I get,the sadder it makes me. The really sad part, though, is I have tried to reach out to people in my family (I have sisters) and they are so freaked out by it, and so distrustful of anything that looks like love in the context of a family setting, they simply can’t accept it. The biggest reaction I usually get is suspicion and a snarling, baring of teeth. And not even because of anything I did personally, just because of our family history. When we all became adults, we pretty much ran out of that house as fast as we could….
But i used Christmas as the best time to say it, it was not easy anyway but feels so good when u finally done it.
You should try!!!
She's freaky, but you like it. is going to call for her transcipts!
I’ve been doing pretty well with this one<3
I think if you have something to say, just say it.
She's freaky, but you like it. is going to call for her transcipts!
...an ass. This is not hard for me to do. So what is keeping me from doing it?
rochiegirl hoping for the best!
it seems as though this is just not going to happen. my family and i are not “like that” at all.. i tried.. one time before i bid my farewell goodbye on my home from palm springs, i blurted it out, and it’s like it fell on deaf ears..
why do i want this to happen so badly? maybe because i thought that was the only way they’d know i loved them. but maybe that’s not the way my family needs love.
I agonized for a long time over beginning to tell my step-son that I love him, because honestly, I just thought it felt weird. Of course, I do love him, but in my mind, it was weird to start after being around him for over 3 years. My wife was on me to start and my pastor was on me to start, and to my surprise, after I got it out the first time, it was so easy every other time. Now I tell him I love him every night before he goes to bed. I don’t think he knows quite what to say in response yet, but the important thing is that he knows how I feel about him. I know he loves me too. Anyway, I’m glad to have checked this goal off so soon in this change process I’ve committed myself to.
