stop being a loser

I’m just an average loser. Maybe a nerd. I’m in gifted classes, and everyone calls me an loser because I like certain shows, foods, and I usually don’t have a fight, even though I have dreams of being the strongest there is. I have a lot of cool friends who don’t like what I like, but sooner or later, they’ll turn their backs on me.I went to a gifted camp, so the pick on me. I like star wars,so they hate me. But I’‘m never intimidated….

The only friends I have are all losers like me. All on a downward spiral into nothing. Lets see where should I start.

Im 24. Live at home with Mom and Dad. Work Evening shift so I never have a Friday Night. Never Had a girlfriend. To poor to afford to move out, especially with the economy now. Whats worse you have other people telling you all the time how much of a loser you are. Its like wow go ahead and Re-Emphasize the fact.

I for just one day want to be special!! I just wish i didnt have to be a loser to be normal!! Why oh Why do i have to be me!!

...given to you by others and/or even yourself.

So to stop being a loser then change this label for yourself. Stop being a victim to stop being a loser. Think of yourself as a survivor. A true loser has lost the game of life. As long as some spark of life remains you are NOT a loser.

Only those who are six feet under have no problems. Even the rich and/or famous have their woes.

As for being the opposite (a winner) that again is up to you. For now though it would be enought to became a survivor. To continue your journey perhaps these 3 steps may help for modest goals:-

- Conceive it.
- Focus on it.
- Action taken towards it until achieved!

I have stopped being a loser because I no longer think of myself as one. You have that same power if you choose to exercise it.

Your choice. Your move. What will it be?

1. A loser gives in too easily in a dispute 8/10
   You should make a token effect at least if it’s worth it. Or win the arguement by not arguing as such – useful if the other party is spoilign for a fight.
   
   
2. A loser might be someone who is selfish. 5/10
   Find someone to love – even if it’s your mother!
   
   
3. A loser is possibly a person who is easily distracted. 10/10
   Build up self discipline. Typing even loosely directed stuff on here helps. Can do self administered course like I started now. Its ten days not counting the preparation and summary. On day four now.
   
   
4. A loser can be someone uncool/unfashionable 9/10
   Used to be quite bad but not so bad now now that I’m married.
   
   
5. A loser may be a person who is negative. 9/10
   Self-discipline course can help with this – currently doing this.
   
   
6. A loser is a “victim”. 9/10
   Even if you have been a victim in the past – try thinking like an ex-victim. Just as there are ex-cons (former convicts.)
   
   
7. A loser is made out as such by the cool crowd. 1/10 (I was never singled out as such.)
   High school isn’t forever. Move on.
   
   
8. A loser leaves things unfinished /doesn’t see them through. 9/10
   Self discipline course can help with this – currently doing one. Not very successfully so far. However I am doing it. That will make a repeat of it (doing it properly) easier.
   
   
9. A loser is poor or umemployed. 10/10 (Unemployed and liabilities outweigh assets!)
   I have been guilty of this. But I don’t have to remain so do I? No I don’t!
   
   
10. A loser may be clinically depressed.7/10
    The self discipline course will help though I don’t think I am clinically depressed anymore.
    
    

Well as a start for myself I shall maintain a struture – ablut, stay smart, keep my spirits up and maintain standard sleep / jobhunting hours and do yoga.

Got to make in-roads on my book-keeping course too.

1. A loser can be someone who loses in a specific instance. 5/10
   Some you win, some you don’t!
   
   
2. A loser can also be someone who consistently loses. 7/10
   No-one wins everytime all of the time. Everyone starts their lives as babies. Babies lose by wetting/soiling hemselves and vomiting. But gradually EVERYONE learns to do better.
   
   
3. A loser can also refer to someone who has geeky tendencies – intense interest in something that the majority of people are not. 9/10
   Hey if you enjoy it don’t go over the top with people who demonstrate a clear lack of interest in it. Do you need to keep it hush-hush and/or share it with other like-minded souls? Re-assess whether this thing has to the centre of your universe. Or is it time to step it down a gear or two or even eliminate it completely? How about replacing it with something else entirely that is not so demanding? What is important? On your deathbed, would you really be able to say “I’m glad I spent so much time with time with this thing!”
   
   
4. A loser can be someone with undeveloped social skills or who is positively anti-social. 7/10
   Can learn to be more outgoing and social. Start small by building conversational skills. (If you object that this is artifical then see the ‘baby’ counter above – no-one is born able to communicat effectively. It has to be learned one way or another.)
   The key is getting to the that first gathering and making a start and no being afraid and stuffing it up! Try something where you are not known and that you don’t actually care about. Then if you stuff up then it won’t matter so much.
   
   
5. A loser is single and sad with that. 1/10
   Either become happy with that (“Hey, great no-one to please except myself!”) or maybe you can upskill yourself. What could this mean? Well what is holding you back? It is rarely just looks. Maybe you need to make the most of what you have. For a lad, some girls go for the rugged look if you have a plain face. For a lass, well I know (when I was single) I was interested in girls who weren’t TOO pretty but used clothing, make-up etc. to enhance their appearance, not go over the top.
   
   Also maybe work on being able to hold a conversation. So maybe try keeping up to date with what is happening in the world. Have an interesting hobby or perhaps even change jobs!
   
   
6. A loser can also be someone who is not successful. 7/10
   “Successful” implies that there are those who “not successful”. If everyone did become successful then no-one would be successful! Without you the successful wouldn’t look as good!
   Also people have different ideas about what constitues ‘success’. To some it means passing your genes on – i.e. have a child. Well, I’ve managed that much at least.
   “Think like a winner”. Yes, I know this one as old as the hills but it has an element of truth in it. The first step in actively changing yourself for the better is acknowledgeing that want to change. Losers lose by either not trying or not trying hard enough or being defeated by chance. Refuse to be a ‘victim’ and rise above it. You’re better than that and you know it.
   
   
7. A loser may be someone with a bad attitude. 3/10
   Ask “why do I have a bad attitude?” Also ask “what is a bad attitude.” Is is it negative? Or un-co-operative and generally unhelpful? Probably. What made you this way? What can you do to positively alter this pattern of behaviour? Give yourself a break – you might start to improve then fall back. So try again – it is very hard to change yourself from within. Maybe try enlisting an ally.
   
   
8. A loser could be someone average with no ambition. 8/10 Well again not everyone has ambition – accept it. Or give yourself something tangible to aspire to. It is rarely too late to achieve anything of note. Indeed it may be your ambition to help others. You can do that now – your neighbours, friends, family, fellow townsfolk, people in need etc.
   
   
9. A loser can be someone argumentative. 2/10 For now, let’s consider that is is someone with a bad attitude (so see above counter).
   
   

OK – I have a list of things which may define a “loser”. Now, let’s see how I measure up to these things. On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being most loser-like, let’s edit the above list. Done! Now doing some counters to them.

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Okay, I really am a loser.
An ass hole.
Anything anyone throws at me, I deserve it.

All I ever do is argue with my mum. All over stupid things, and I don’t know why. It’s been getting worse as well. All I ever do is have a go at her, but it’s almost always unprovoked.

I’ve got her a ton of easter gifts which I had planned to give to her on saturday (I leave that day), but I might give them tomorrow instead, kinda to say sorry, since I has a massive shouting match to her today, all over a fucking dessert.

Got a one way ticket back to loserville.