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How to be more self-confident by munakkupi

"Definetely worth doing."

How I did it: I used to be painfully shy. On the rare occasion that I talked to someone, I was scared for my life that they might not like me. At the time, I suffered an anxiety disorder, which I believe had a lot to do with my sickening lack of confidence.

For years I read every book, website, and pamphlet I could get my hands on about developing confidence. I looked at other people strolling languidly and talking with friends and laughing, and I thought "There's got to be some secret ingredient."

There isn't. It's all what you make it. Confidence comes from knowing that you're an okay-person. It isn't based on anyone else. In fact, confidence is the ability to be yourself in spite of anything anyone else is doing. Confidence is the single most beautiful thing someone can have, and anyone can have it.

Lessons & tips: Get up in the morning, jump in the shower with some bounce in your step, comb your hair just the way you like it, look yourself in the eye in the mirror, and say "You're terrific."

Whatever you're into doing, dedicate yourself to it and get good at it. Be the best you can at it.

Carry yourself tall. Be aware of how you stand and sit and talk. Don't obsess, but think to yourself "is this how I want to appear to people?"

Fake it. Pretend you are the most confident person in the world until you are. Most people will be easily fooled.

Challenge yourself. Everyday, do something that slightly frightens you. Talk to someone new, walk to work instead of driving, sign up for a class.

Resources: There are so many things that can help you gain confidence. You just need to stay focused on it. Don't doubt yourself. Nurture your interests and realize that you are a unique individual.

Allow yourself to be fully yourself.


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