My boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple years now and we are extrememly happy and really love each other and just have the best time when we’re with each other. He tells me things and is more open with me than he is with even his best friends since they were little. Lately though he’s been going through a hard time with something and I’ve been going to a hard time with something, both personal and we try to help each other through it. Together we’re still happy but it seems like because we’re each so stressed out, and I’m not saying we haven’t argued about stupid stuff once in a while before, but it seems like we have a few more dumb arguments about things we both know don’t matter. Obviously most people don’t like arguing and we just enjoy each other’s company and just being happy with each other. Even though we know these arguments are stupid while we are having them, I just want to try and figure out a method to prevent at least most of these arguments. We tried a couple things like if we start to get irritated with something to talk about it instead of taking it out on the other one or trying to calm yourself down and think if it’s even anything that really bothers you or is a big issue before saying anything and things like that actually do help but sometimes we still have dumb arguments and it only adds stress. Are there any methods anybody can think of to help prevent those dumb arguments or not let them escalade into anything big? We stilla re happy with each other but obviously the less stress we have the better. Any help would be appreciated.
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3 years together… a sort of rivalry that took us together once and it might takes us apart now!
Is absurd how much we fight over stupid things… sometimes I think that we have got used to it, that is actually a Need to fight and stay upset at each other.. Like if it was a small play, each one trying to spit our best line…
Me, sensitive and explosive… him evasive and proud VERY PROUD… impossible to find a balance to “overcome” this situation… and to fix this “miscomunications” is always me the one to come and try to talk so we can solve it…
TIRED OF IT!
Steff69 is really really bored.
Working again.
I love having FUN again. Fxck the fights.
Steff69 is really really bored.
And then we slacked off and didnt try as hard to get on. So that meant more stupid fights and a temporary overnight break up. So I’m getting back on track now.
ugh weve been together 8 months, everything was fine until my birthday when he was in a bad mood and basically ruined my 21st bday and started a huge fight with me and we almost broke up. since then i’m overly sensitive and start fights about the dumbest things. i’m trying so hard not to hold a grudge over one stupid (but fairly big) mistake he made. He’s getting fed up with me getting annoyed so easily but i can’t really stop
At first i though it was me. he kept asking what my problems where and why i couldn’t wait for him to come home so i can pick a fight. i was just annoyed by all the little things he did well does. im 36 wks pregnant and i feel that i cant do anything around the house because i get tired, emotional, and frausted. i used to pick up after him and clean without complaining. we had a talk when we first got pregnant, that i couldnt baby him anymore, but i guess it didn’t go through his head. i need help arround the house and even with me! and i know i’m going to need more help when our baby comes home. and i keep telling him that i need his help and feel he just gives me more things to do. my mom tells me to be good to my man bacause this is very difficult stage but i feel that i could only do so much. i love him, but sometimes i feel that i hate him. i dont like that feeling because he is a great guy and i do understand him. he works to jobs just to support me and his unborn child but it feels that that is all he wants to do and leaves the rest to me. please help i dont know how much strength i have to put up with it and its really driving me nuts.
Jamie Hinds The Time to be Happy is Now, the Place to be Happy is Here.
Once we got into a pattern of things and how to do everything without getting in each others way, we stopped fighting. Sure there’s still the things you can’t avoid. But we’re better together… Happier <3
Jamie Hinds The Time to be Happy is Now, the Place to be Happy is Here.
“Forgive, forget, and go on loving” 
“Pick Your Battles”
The best thing is to pick your battles, decide what’s big
and what’s not so big. I fight about everything which
makes the little stuff as big as the big stuff, which in
turn makes the big stuff not as important as it should be.
So I need to work on ‘not sweating the small stuff’
I started looking on the internet for relationship advice (for myself as much as for Aaron) and I’ve found some decent tips. Everything I read and think is worth it for him to read is sent via email to him. I didn’t realize how much wrong I was also doing, nearly as much as him! With a little time and patience I know we’ll become a strong and happy couple.
