surround myself with good people

Since I started college, I’ve been surrounded by a lot of negative people doing harmful things to their bodies. Now that I’ve had some spiritual rejuvination over the summer, I’m prepared to spend more time with the people that I aspire to be like. I already had these friends all along, I just didn’t put effort into our relationship. I’m also going to spend more time with my temple friends. They inspire me. :)

I think everyone wants this.Although they really don’t know how to realise it until something has to smack you over the head, but it’s how we all learn. I am very aware now of what kind of people I want in my life. People with nothing but great intentions and a positive outlook on life. Nothing complicated,,,,,well unless you run into a very complicated person…..... eh no.

I go to a very small school [less than 80 kids K-12] so I really don’t have a choice about who I’m friends with. I also live on a farm in the middle of nowhere. I hope that when I move out I’ll be able to find good friends, because I’ve never really had one. I’ve had many friends but they come and go and are never really there for me. I just hope someday I can go to sleep knowing that, if nothing else, I at least have one good friend.

I met someone last Halloween at a party that really opened my eyes to the importance of surrounding oneself with positive, good people. I tend to absorb negative energies like a sponge and then let that affect the way I interact with others. I want to surround myself with positive people that are inspiring and supportive instead of negative and pessimistic about life. I’m halfway there. I just got a position working with some very warm, friendly people. My friends now are very supportive. Next step is to make sure the next person I date is not one of these eternal pessimists like I’ve dated in the past.

It’s worth it! Bad people only bring you down. I was so attached and didnt like the thought of letting go but it’s been the best decision of my life. I’ve almost weeded out everyone that i dont see as a positive influence

I love to have a good time and make the best of most situations. I’m really friendly and able to talk to most people with ease and comfort. As the years pass, people come into my life and leave for whatever reason. I’ve fallen in and out of love with ideas, music, art, culture, and PEOPLE. I loved that I could be so versitile and be with the best of them and the worst of them. Now, I’ve managed to see that not all people are good people for me and I need to look out for myself first and foremost.

I can never take back the experiences I’ve had nor do I want to. However, I have to concede to the advise my wiser elders gave me to surround myself with successful people who are like minded. I don’t like negative people who find fault in others or even me. I don’t want to have to defend myself or my pricipals with folks I call “friends”. I like to have a world of peace in my home,in my life. I even have stopped being around family that aren’t sucessful and like minded. I love them, but do not surround myself with them. Only a few family members are in my intimate world.

So, keeping it real today is just knowing who I am, shortcomings and blessings all together. Then, I stay true to myself best I can and surround myself with people who are similar and succesful. It’s like playing tennis….Always try to play with someone who’s equal to you or a little better than you so that you get better at tennis. If you play with someone who’s real bad, it’ll most certainly mess up your game.

I had a talk with my mom today and she gave me some heartfelt advice. She thinks that there are very few truly “good” people—most are just regular people who can be good/bad, depending on your interaction with them or the situation they are in. Hmmm…I don’t know if I’d like to believe that, but it sure seems true in my life right now. So how do I bring out the best in these “regular” people around me? When someone isn’t as good as I presume them to be, do I keep trying? How do I be as “good” as I can be without being a doormat?

I’m always good to people and kind, but forget about looking after myself.. I’m trying to find good people that I can relate to and who accept me as I am. A positive, kind, silly most of the time generous person.

I tend to like almost everyone immediately, and am quite a good conversationalist so make a lot of “close acquaintances” very quickly. But I have a very had time building real, intimate relationships, and this baffles, hurts, and confounds me. I’m baffled as to why I can’t do it, hurt that maybe there’s something wrong with me, and confounded regarding how I’m supposed to try establishing real relationships in the future.

I watch other people who maybe aren’t as easy talking to strangers as I am, but who have been able to create strong support networks around themselves regardless – and I feel so confused & inadequate. On the casual social bantering level, I’m pretty gifted. But on another, deeper social level, I’m so slow at developing. I have a best friend and a brother who’s basically my other best friend, and I can talk to them about almost anything, and feel very comfortable in their company. Problem is, I’m rarely in their company anymore because we’ve all scattered to geographically-far locations, and I crave a group of good friends that are within my reach.

Maybe this is just an awkward freshman-year-at-college phase, but I haven’t developed the social groups that everyone else has. I get along with everyone and am frequently invited to join in on any group’s activities, but I’m definitely not “one of them” and feel some discomfort about it. It’s like I have a wall up or something, and I don’t know what exactly it is – there’s definitely some fear getting in the way that I just can’t define or unknot.

Sometimes it doesn’t bother me because I’m a gregarious introvert and tend to thrive on having time for myself. But I’m also a human, and need close, intimate human interactions sometimes which I don’t have a network for here. I want it, but part of me thinks it’s too late (one month of school left), and part of me dreads hanging out with people sometimes. It usually includes having to occasionally act false or be negative about a person you actually don’t mind in support of “group think,” or establishing that you support your friend more – and I don’t feel right about it.

But I want good friends around me! The people I end up closest with are the people who go to lengths to hang out with me, but in my history that’s meant people who are not very good for me – people who tend to like glitz and glamour – and I want to harness my power to choose. Just, how?

it takes months or years to do this.
really, more like years.
but it can change the course of your entire life.
having people who support and inspire you is verrrry important!
and don´t forget to return the favour and also be good to the people around you..
(in fact you need to do this if you want good people to want to know you)