Meet a man that doesn't have "issues"

“I WOULD DO THIS 4 HER”
if your a nice guy.. read this
..if your a jerk.. learn this
ladies: this will make you tear up :)
fellas: read it, all of it! :)
1-touch her waist
2-talk to her
3-share secrets
4-give her your jacket
5-kiss her slowly
are you remembering this?
6-hug her
7-hold her
8-laugh with her
9-invite her somewhere
10-let her be with you when you’re with your friends
keep reading
11-smile with her
12-take pics with her
13-pull her onto your lap
14-when she says she loves you more, deny it. fight back
15-when her friends say i love her more than you, deny it. fight back and hug her tight so she cant get to her friends. it makes her feel loved
Are you thinking about someone?
16-always hug her and say “i love you” when you see her
17-kiss her unexpectedly
18-HUG HER FROM BEHIND AROUND THE WAIST
19-tell her shes beautiful!
20-tell her the way you feel about her!
oh, and on that last one… u need to show her you mean it too
21-Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurt to act like a gentleman
22-Tell her she means everything to you, but mean it
23-if it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means she doesn’t want to talk about it- so just hug her
24-make her feel loved
25-kiss her infront of other girls you know
we might deny it but we actually like and kinda want you to tickle us
26-don’t lie to her
27-dont cheat on her
28-take her anywhere she wants
29-txt messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school or work, and how much you miss her
30-be there for her when ever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you
are you still reading this? u better be, its important
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movie, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Dont ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If shes upset, comfort her
remember this next time you are with her
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, Link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you:banger: :jumper:

(what I’m looking for in a man)

Sensitivity, Imagination, Not materialistic
Honesty, Loyalty,
Practicality, Patience, Sense of Humor
Optimistic, Straightforward,
Determined, Passionate, Exciting
Easygoing, Romantic, Peaceful
Modest, Intelligent, Reliable
Generous, Creative, Faithful
Loving, Imaginative, Protective
Adaptable, Youthful, Communicative, Witty
Persistent, Patient, Protective
Adventurous, Courageous, Confiden

He is still a good guy and I value so many of his qualities. I like how he offers advice and support, gives me freedom, spoils me with affection, is relaxed and a hard worker at the same time. It feels really good. Unfortunately we aren’t in the same city right now. But, at least what I’ve seen, I’ve met a man who doesn’t have many issues, if any. I love him for it, and it has been healing for me in many ways…definitely when you’ve been hurt or insecure in relationships, being with someone stable and accepting is really wonderful.

And what led me to him? They say you attract like energies. I suppose I was learning to accept more of myself, and he was an old acquaintance, someone who I was always happy to see, who I always thought of as nice. While the physical aspect wasn’t there at first, I’m glad I gave it a chance because I admired him with my mind and heart first. Once I became aware that I was often physically attracted to the men who weren’t going to stick around, I was about to use this knowledge and explore being with someone who attracted me in different ways. And, the physical does improve and feels safe.

I think I’ve met a good guy, who doesn’t appear to have any major issues and it is a relief to feel I’m with someone who doesn’t need to be taken care of. I appreciate that he is active, has friends and doesn’t seem to get to worried about anything.

I have my reasons. The main gist of them is detailed here and I can’t be arsed writing it out again cos I’m lazy and it’s all been said. I met someone. I like him a lot. I can’t change who I’m attracted to, I can only change the way I act and how react to people. So that’s that. Job’s a good ‘un.

I have mixed feelings about it because I am seriously thinking of giving this goal up. I have my reasons. I will update at some point. Promise.

Does this exist? I’m worried now because I think I met someone who shares too many of mine. Maybe I need someone who thinks way less and is more carefree. I get a bit high strung at times, bending myself out of shape. Someone to diffuse the intensity or be soothing would be very nice.

..and finally put some stuff in my profile. Redid the OKcupid test too, and I’m now “The Playstation – Random Gentle Sex Master (RGSMf)”, which is better than last time when I wound up as Ghengis Khunt. I was feeling particularly brutal at the time.

Anyway. Within half an hour I’d got three emails in my inbox.

One from a bloke in Edinburgh making suggestive comments about vegetables – merely echoing my own comedy comment about my cooking, but rather more pervily – and about cheese, which is just minging. And he couldn’t spell “weak”.

One from a bloke ten years my junior in the Ukraine, who says he speaks very poor English, likes to drink vodka till he passes out, and wants to talk to me about racism.

And a woo from a fairly cute bloke 4000 miles away whose profile says he’s bitter, good at being miserable, and that lasses should message him if they’re gluttons for punishment.

::sigh::

They all sound just… dreamy.

On the plus side, though, before I’d even started updating, I got a message from a local bloke who used to be a journalist, likes “stretchy brains”, is good at telling stories and is into some of the same music as me. Hm. 73% match, 80% friend. Hm.

“never say NO to a date”. (well, use judgement!)

“always show up looking great, no matter who the date is, he’ll eventually introduce you to his FRIENDS”.

a little cold-blooded, but it kept me in circulation until I met Mr.Perfect.

Now, here’s the thing: you may not fall in love with a guy who is what you expected. The important thing is to understand the REASONS for your criteria in a guy.

Its the UNDERLYING REASONS for your GUY criteria that determine how suitable the guy is for YOU.

For example, I refused to date guys with power cars. Any guy who cares that much about appearances, it NOT someone with whom I care to spend my Life!

Know WHY you want what you’re seeking. Is it true, or just an assumption about who & what you want & what you think he can be?

You have to remember, its not WHO he is NOW, but WHY it is WHO he is. Nobody ‘changes’, they just become ‘more’ of what characteristics they were already.

YMMD.

I just got out of a way icky relationship with someone with a serious personality disorder and it was quite frightening and upsetting to find out I had dated a compulsive liar who really couldn’t meet my needs for a healthy relationship. I vow to be more aware of red flags, get away from situations that make me feel uncomfortable and always tell my truth and be assertive. The new me doesn’t put up with crap, and I will be be firm in having a clean break and not giving any more of my time to people who mistreat me, hurt me, disrespect me, no matter how much they try to play to my compassionate nature. I will not waste my compassion, love and sensitivity on people who don’t value me.

..cos one of the people I subscribe to was asking other 43thingsters to do it. Just for the tests, you understand. I’m not really into all that internet dating malarky. Anyway, I did the main okcupid test, and it turns out that my dating style, or whatever it is, is the Dirty Little Secret. That really explains a lot.