stop fighting with my husband

My husband and I are in this back and forth good days/bad days cycle that we just can’t seem to get out of. No matter how many good days we have (this past time it was over a month)...we end up having major throwdown fights over the stupidest things. Well, I should say it starts out stupid but by the time we’re done nitpicking on the past, it ends up being bigger and badder.
I know we need to get involved in marriage counseling because while we say the meanest things to each other on the bad days…we truly love one another more than we can express on the good days. It’s been a stressful time for us both (he was just laid off) and of course the stresses of life are coming down on us hard. Even still, we try to stay positive but I think the lack of communication in our relationship is really taking a toll on us. We definitely need to talk to someone, and sooner rather than later but I’m afraid to bring up the topic because I don’t know how he’ll react.
I want to save us. I just don’t know how.

So far so good. My husband had a few tiny arguements, and I tried my whole walking away and shutting my mouth. Works good, stops the arguement instead of escalating it and dragging it on longer than it needs to. Its not healthy for us to argue the way we were. We have one major arguement this past weekend, I dont even want to get into that and remember everything that happened. Let’s just say it wasn’t good. Anyway, Im back on track and again dedicated to making our relationship better. I know its not going to change over night…

Another day of not arguing :) It feels so great. My husband & I took our children to CinemaCafe tonight to see the new Ice Age movie. We got to watch the movie and order dinner, all without leaving our table. It was pretty neat. We had never been, so it was something different for us and the kids had alot of fun. It was nice to be able to go out without arguing or holding a grudge against eachother and actually enjoy ourselves!

By the way… the Ice Age movie was great. The kids thought the movie was funny and it kept their attention the whole time. They are 3 yrs old and 2 yrs old, so they dont have much there when it comes to an attention span, usually they are ALL over the place lol. My husband and I even laughed at some parts. Cute movie!

Cant stop fighting, i think he is imature and annoying and he is 26

My husband, myself, and our 3 children went bowling last night. We did not argue a single time about anything, or even butt heads the slighest bit. I must say, it felt GREAT! Im going to keep up what Im doing. Having more patience, leaving the room, and anything else necessary because I believe we will all be truely happier. It was one of the best days I’ve had in a LONG time!!

I also cannot seem to let things go. Every time we argue, I bring up the stupidest stuff from the day, week, or even month before. I dont know why I do this. I know I have a problem, and I know it hurts my husband. But some of the things he does just aggravates me. I need to place everything behind me and start fresh, but I just dont know how. I keep “saying” that Im going to. But an arguement starts and BAM. Im immediately saying stuff I dont mean. Stuff thats so pathetic it shouldnt even be brought up! Please Help, I need some advice!

I can’t seem to let things go! I let little things irritate me and what I perceive to be criticism from husband build up into a fight! I don’t know if this is due to the hormones in my birth control or if I am truely crazy. I miss the days of pure bliss and occasional “bickery” in the first few months of our relationship then after I got on the pill we would have fights. It takes so much energy and our whole day is wasted! He is trying so hard to deal with the new me but I am tired of saying things I don’t mean just to hurt him. I love him with all of my heart and want for us to fight less. So confused for my sanity and I don’t want it to affect my daughter’s life.

My husband just got back from basic training for the army about two months ago. Ever since his anger has been outrageous we fight constantly about the little things now. He is a weekend drinker per-say, and i don’t like the fact that he drinks only to get drunk, which causes us to fight b/c i have a bad past with family alcoholism. He just doesn’t seem to care or even try to understand. Please help… I need advise…

we can’t seem to spend a day together without fighting. we’re both reactionary. now we are both disconnected and defensive. i am so tired! we tried counseling but only went a few times. my husband says we already know what our problems are so we don’t need to pay someone to tell us what we already know. i feel helpless and confused.

i’ve just decided that it needs to be rephrased and merged into one of my other goals, “have a healthy relationship” or “have a successful marriage.”