get over my heartbreak

I always thought i was this tough girl till he came along and broke down all my defenses. I thought i had found love and even gave him my virginity. I went against my principles and family, just to be with this guy and what did i get at the end, my heart ripped to pieces. people tell me am beautiful talented, and a smart girl. I have no problems whatsoever attracting guys, but the problem is i am having difficulties moving on with someone else. we broke up in march and the wounds are still fresh. He cheated on me with this other chick. the funny thing is a few weeks ago he came back pleading and i foolishly took him back and even slept with him. And he’s gone again. I really need help cus my heart is tearing apart and I’ve tried doing something stupid a couple of times, but i think and realize he’s not worth it but all i need is for this pain i feel to just go away.

He kept telling me that we could never be anything, that he was too broken. We became really good friends, roommates, fwb. I fell so much in love with him-denying it all the time. Despite everything he said, I felt like he cared for me too, but when it came time for me to move out of state…he was heartless. I could have never imagined him treating me the way he did-the things he said were meant to cut me as deep as he could. What’s worse is that instead of being mad, I’m sad and worried and I miss him every minute of the day. Every song reminds me of what we’d sing, every time I go out to eat I think about when we used to do the same thing or when I go somewhere new I think about how I wish we’d gone together. I feel pathetic, stupid, hurt. I feel like I’m annoying everyone around me. I just want to forget everything about him, because after our last encounter I feel like he’ll have no trouble forgetting about me.

i dated this guy for 7 yerss and one day a few days before christmas he accused me of cheating on him with one of my friends. it hurt me that he thought that low of me, but i suppose its been 2months and my heart still bleeds. i dont have the energy to go out with other people, im so miserable. please help me, i want this pain to go away…

Im in the process of trying!!:(

When you have been with someone you really care about for a good ways over a year and you’re a teenager it’s really hard to change your life to fit just you in. I was doing fine up until he decided he had found someone new. Now, I’m just really out of it. Everything remenids me of something we did together and I miss him even more. I don’t want to have to get over him I just want him back.I’d have to say music has nice healing qualitites, BUT only when they about my situaton or something completely unrelated to love or anything like that,it only sets me back.. But, I have to be the strong woman I portray to everyone that I am.As much as I care about him, I can’t let him ruin my life. I’m young I should be having fun not sitting at home crying over him. I have to get over him. Man, I hate those words….

It’s a done deal. I’ve found someone new.

They’re taking me to homecoming:D

Okay, never done this before but nothing else seems to be working so I’ll give it a try. A week and 1/2 ago the love of my life told me that he didn’t love me anymore. He did this by leaving me a message on my parents answering machine even though we lived together. Funny thing is that morning when I left for work he kissed me goodbye and told me that he loved me. When I stopped at my parents after work there was a message for me, I serioulsy thought it was a sick joke or that he was messing with me, but the jokes on me. I got him to come talk to me in person that day while I packed my things, I wanted answers. He couldn’t even look me in the eye and he cried then would get mad at me a kick me out, then he said that he didn’t love me at all, took that back and said that he loved me as a friend only. It kept going back and forth like that for about an hour until he finally left. I of course call him the next day crying like a baby begging for him to hear me out and get no response. Finally a week later I had to go get my computer and he was there so we kinda talked. He still wouldn;t look me in the eye, he says he felt guilty for leaving a message like a coward and that it is hard and weird to talk to me since we are over. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but we had been through so much and made it that I didn’t see this coming. He said he wants space, but all I want is a chance to be with him. I know that we can make it work how do I get him to see this. I can understand where he is coming from when he say’s he needs space because we were kind suffacating eachother always together but that can change especially since we both wanted it to. I don’t want to call him and be that pathetic ex who can’t get a clue but I can’t stand the thought of him with someone else. He cancelled the home phone nad got a new cell but he gave me the # what does that mean. I hate this confused feeling and I miss my best friend. Everyone says it will get better and I want to beleive that but I am positive that we could outlast them all given the chance. I know I need to give him space and hopefully he’ll miss me, but when you are with someone for 5 years you get into a routine so life is of course going to be exciting when you are hanging out with different people not having to worry about the person at home and whether they will be mad, happy, sad etc.. when you get home. This also leaves me with a small amount of hope thinking give it time and he’ll come back. What happens when he doesn’t. I know that the breakup is fresh and that I am supposedly going to feel better in time and I’m sure I will but that doesn’t mean I don’t know what I want and love which is my ex. How do you get what you want without being in their life. I am confused and heartbroken and want him back. He has his faults and so do I but together we were amazing and of course nobody sees that now all they ever say is over the phone, what an ass, hes not worth it, but he is. I can’t seem to get the hope that he will realize he made a mistake and call me if I just leave it alone, but what if he finds someone else while I’m waiting for the right time to call him. I am very confused and need any advice on this.

me n my ex have been together bout 4 years, well not really we broke up in jan of 07, we have two beautiful kids, we r only 20 n 22..him being the younger one..we broke up bcuz he cheated on me for months, with only one girl, but he wanted to be with her, not me…after we broke up and i moved out, he didnt get with her, he started drinking alot and got with a crazy girl, that stalked him and didnt let him be around me or the kids unless she was there. throughout their entire 6 month relationship me n him were still messin around, he would tell me how he missed us and how if we were to b together again we’d have to change things. but when he broke up with her, we were still everything we were, he says we r together, just without the title…in april we moved back in together and he had the option of having his own room but chose to b in mine. after we moved in he started sneakin around with the crazy girl..after that stopped he started workin at a fast food place and his manager lives right by us, so he started hangin out with her, wich i thought was ok cuz 4 the 5 years i known him he always said he dont believe in interracial relationships, and shes a different race..but then he tells his bst friend, he likes her and that i will eventually figure out he wants more than just friends with her..idk wat to do nemore..we always fight n make up n he will pull somethin like this and i forgive him. i dont want to ne more. i jst want to move on and get over him. its so hard when u think you r gonna be with someone forever and they treat u so bad. i need all the advice i can get on how to get over him

So I’m new to this thing, just to let everyone know… I guess I’m just tired of venting to friends, because I know they’re tired of me having feelings for an asshole. My situation is this: I was with a guy for over 4 years, together for most of it… then, about 4 months ago, out of the blue I found out he’s moving out (from his best friend), only to discover he is interested in this other girl (a situation which I had called for 2 weeks)... so he packed up his stuff (took everything for me not to throw his clothes in the snow). His last words to me: “I need a break.” We live in a small town, so I put my big girl pants on and toughed it out.. I didn’t say a word to him when we were out, despite him and these “girls” that he was interested in finding ways to torment me (one actually tried to confront me…! I didn’t say a word back). Anyways, so I get this email about a month ago, asking if we could talk… I was shocked. I responded 2 weeks later with a fine… ended up talking to him for 7 hours, listening to how badly he messed up, how he was “scared” becuase falling in love wasnt his plan… he right then and there said he wanted to be with me, he knew the whole time he wnatd to be with me and any time another girl was around, he always thought about how she wasnt me. So we’ve been talking for the past few weeks, trying to get past things, when the other night, I found out he slept with someone else. They both say it was a huge mistake, he cried for hours about how he messed things up. From his side of things – she started it; from her side, he did. And each side’s story keeps elaborating – first he was just “nice” to her in the morning, now he was kissing her… I don’t know what to do or what to believe. Am I asking for it to keep talking to a guy like this? How do I say goodbye… again My biggest thing is this – I did some things while we were broken up that were huge deal breakers, too. We weren’t even speaking when they were happening, but is that a reason for me to justify what I did? I was never aware a heart could actually hurt and I don’t know what to do…

Man o man am I sad. The guy I am seeing will give me an answer next friday about what he wants to do about our relationship. I have already resigned myself to the fact he is going to end it, we have discussed it but I want to be sure he is sure. I just now have to wait seven days, which is really awful. I feel so sad. We havnt been together long (8months)but I feel about him the same way I did about someone I was seeing MUCH longer in the past (5years). He told me he didnt’t love me which I knew, but that doesn’t mean I can stop loving him. It’s so rubbish to love someone who doesn’t love you back. he is questioning whether its time to call it a day as he hasnt fallen for me in 8months, i dnt know what to say to him. I hope I get over this fast because I can’t keep feeling this way. It’s rather rubbish to say the least. Tips welcome lol.