be less judgmental

I don’t judge people because I am critical of them, I do it automatically. I don’t do it because I want to, it is more of a reaction.

It is something that I want to put to an end. It is not fair to people, and my judgments are completely unfounded. Judging a person by their appearance is wrong. It has nothing to do with what they think or who they are. It is not fair to assume something about a person based on what they look like. Associations and stereotypes are wrong.

It is something that I really dislike about myself. I wish I didn’t do it. It is a reaction for my, like showing me flash cards in rapid succession, it’s the first thing that comes to mind. I don’t like it and I plan to change it.

Try not to judge people. It’s not fair to them. It’s not fair to you when they do it to you.

Eric :)

i spend about 100% of my time with friends talking about other people. within a minute, my closest friend and i can completely bash in someone’s self-esteem (if they ever heard us) simply with complaints about how they look. then how they act. then who they hang out with. and it goes on.

it’s fun, and i think it’s one of the only things we have in common anymore, but sometimes i feel bad. i worry constantly what people think of me, and it’s pretty hypocritical of me to do that 24/7.

it’s hard though, because what else would we talk about. the weather and what happened yesterday can only be talked about for so long.

I constantly judge people, about their hair, clothes or the people their with. I can’t help it, and I do realize it is a really bad habit. I’m not saying I’m any better than anyone else, it’s just something I do. I guess now is the time to do something about it and stop being so judgemental..

I find myself judging people over stuff that i probably shouldnt. for example: almost every girl in my family is married and having kids(even the ones barely turning 18.) im 22 and constantly think stuff-well, stuff i dont even want to mention bc its so mean!!! and i feel horrible about thinking these things and im trying to be happy for them…its just hard on me. so im trying my best to be less judgemental on them, and others out in this world.

because I tend to judge in my mind, not telling anyone, but I think to myself things like, “he should know that’s not what he’s supposed to do”, etc.

to be honest, im not very judgmental at all… but when i do judge someone then people give me shit for it and it pisses me off because they’re more judgmental than i am and its annoying…

I have a new roommate who I adore and we are very good friends. However, she is racist and very judgmental of other people which makes it difficult for me. I’m someone who always speaks up if I hear the N word used and I did for the longest time with her, but now it’s quite a common thing for her to say and I find myself not even noticing it at times.

I’ve also found how easy and fun it is to make fun of people when I’m with her. Sitting down now and writing about it, it makes me feel terrible. I know I am a stronger person and I can stand up for what I think is wrong. Just because it can be funny and it’s easy to make fun of other people doesn’t make it even close to being right.

I view this as a major setback and something I need to work on right away.

“you are one of the MOST judgmental people ever and you use it to justify all of your actions.”

first – i’m not sure i understand how being the most judgmental can justify actions.

second – i’m not. i’m really quite accepting.

I try to judge people by their actions, not by what they say or how they look or anything like that. It’s not always easy but I do my best. Judgements can’t be made immediately because you don’t actually know the person.

Ok, so I’m a very religious person. The very stereotypical type of judgmental, right? I’m not a Bible thumper. I don’t get in people’s faces and tell them that they are going to hell or anything like that. I am judgmental in a more subtle way. I see certain situations or certain types of people and think to myself, “they can’t be up to any good at all.” I think I may be keeping myself from good friendships or relationships because of this. I think I need to broaden my horizons, but I think this might be hard to do without compromising who I am and what I believe is right.