think positive

I am very angry with life these days.

My goal should be not to pessimist for at least a week. I should improve my social skils and be optimist.

hi to anyone who is reading this, only a quick one for now as its getting late…
well im 21 years old and a single mum of 2 lovely kids, i have a 3yr old little girl and a 14month old little boy.
ive been to see a psychic lady 2nite and she has said to me that if i dont start thinking positive i am gonna keep going down and down and down and down1!! she also sed its gonna affect my kids lives aswell.

basically i have zero confidence, even down to the fact that i dont allow myself to wear nice clothes, or different make up or have a different hairstyle! im so worried about what people will think or say..at least i think its that! im bulimic and have been for 6-7years now, while pregnant i gained like 5 stone and im still trying to lose it now, im still breastfeeding so i dont wanna go mad with all the puking etc incase it effects my milk.
i get really ratty with my kids during the day and find it hard to stay in onmy own! i have no-one i can call my true friends anymore, have a few people i say hello to if i see them in the stret or whatever but nothing more!!
i really want to change as i hate feeling like this but i dunno where to start!
i was said to the psychic lady that i didnt even no where to begin and she said that by me saying that i was already thinking negative so didnt really help me much with that one.
i want to go to some mums and tots groups before my little girl goes to nursey in sept but i am terrified to go, i think im probs worried about who will be there and what they will think of me.
my aim with that one is to be able to go there and not give a toss about what anyone thinks…this seems like a long way off though!
i have alot of work to do with myself and cant keep putting it iff anymore.
thanx to anyone who reads this im so glad to get this off my chest..xxx

I’ve been doing this a lot lately.
Since I found a job, things have just been turning out in my favor. I’m sooo happy with life at the moment. I have a job, I’m meeting new people, making new friends, etc. I’ve just realized I was taking too much for granted there for awhile, also always thinking the worst in every situation .. but I suppose that is easy when you’re feeling all down and depressed.

I know that getting a job was just a small change, but it has made a complete difference in my whole life.

♥ At least 5 people in this world, love you so much they would die for you.

♥ At least 15 people in this world love you, in some way.

♥ The only reason anyone would ever hate you, is because they want to be just like you.

♥ A smile from you, can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.

♥ Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

♥ You mean the world to someone.

♥ Without you, someone may not be living.

♥ You are special and unique, in your own way.

♥ Someone that you don’t know even exists, loves you.

♥ When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

♥ When you think the world has turned it’s back on you, take a look, you most likely turned your back on the world.

♥ When you think you have no chance at getting what you want, you probably won’t get it, but if you believe in yourself, you probably sooner or later will get it.

♥ Always remember complements you received, forget about the rude remarks.

♥ Always tell someone how you feel about them, you will feel much better when they know.

♥ If you have great friends, take the time to let them know that they are great.

This is one thing I really want to be able to do, because it has been affecting me A LOT lately. I definitely have a pessimistic outlook on things, and get really down on myself easily which only makes things worse. I usually try really hard to keep my negativity to myself, but sometimes it slips out when I am talking to people, especially people I really care about and am the most comfortable around. This always rubs off on them, and seems to either ruin their day, or start an argument.

I was told by a therapist once to do the exercise where you recognize your negative thought, but say a positive one outloud instead. I’ve tried it many times, and couldn’t help but feel like I was just telling ridiculous little lies to myself all the time for months before finally giving up on it.

I really want to be able to think positively, but I can’t even think of how to start doing this in a realistic way.

This is another key goal for 2009. I want to make life as easy as possible for myself and thinking positive would definitely make life much easier! I’m already starting to worry about things, ‘what if 2009 is crap’, ‘what if things go wrong’ etc. It’s very stressful to worry about things that might go wrong and I really don’t want to go down that route again. I want to be an optimist.

I’m going to use affirmations and visualisations to create a more positive outlook and also do my best to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. I’ll also continue reading positive books. I think I’ll read the seven spiritual laws of success next.

in the last week, I’ve not paid much attention to my thoughts, so I don’t actually know if I still have more negative thoughts than positive. I’m going to observe my thoughts better next week.
I’m totally bored with my affirmations. I guess the ones I was doing for some time, which were very powerful and helped a lot (I could feel them working every time I did them), have taken me as far as they can and I need to find new ones. I’ve tried a few new ones, but none of them really feel right. However, I do spend some time each day saying positive things to myself, just whatever comes to my mind – I don’t know whether this is right or wrong, whether it makes much difference, but it’s nice. I also really enjoy doing visualisations these days. Or it’s more like day dreaming, but isn’t that the same thing? Definitely gets me excited and boosts my confidence a little every day.
At the moment I lack some structure and tend to do all these exercises when (or if) I remember. So next week, I’ll aim to set some sort of positive thinking routine for myself. Would be nice to do something first thing in the morning, then some during the day and again in the evening.

I am much more positive today than I was five weeks ago. Of course I still have negative moments, even days, but overall I’m making a big effort to be positive most of the time.
Doing affirmations every day has helped a lot. At the moment I’m a bit bored of my affirmations, so I should probably try to find new ones or even take a little break from them. I also find myself talking positively and saying little affirmations to myself throughout the day. I quite often automatically replace negative thoughts with something positive, which is nice. It’s actually quite a relief to stop negative thoughts and think happy thoughts instead.
I’ve also been trying to do some visualisations, which always make me feel happy. It’s more daydreaming, really, but it’s still nice and makes me feel more positive about my future.

So, pretty good so far, but I still feel I have a lot of negative thoughts in me and in some situations I find it difficult to be positive at all, so I still have a lot of work to do.

i know whats wrong
i am so negative because i compare things
i want things to imitate or be the same as a happy situation i’ve already known
that’s why i’m so negative because i expect the way things ‘should be’
i should just be happy about whatis real..
this is how it really is
and happiness and what I want and falling in love again will proceed