Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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Milky MarlaFarewell and massive thanks to the Robots at 43things.com...

...I have absolutely loved this site for six years and have learned so much from the 43T book and all my fellow 43T’ers…! I am beyond shocked that the site is shutting down (I only learned so a few days ago since I posted mostly via the APP and have not been using it daily). I have come a long way in beating my depression and perhaps I’ve already beaten it since I’m seeming to function pretty well these days hence I’ve been busy living my life and not so much online and wasn’t on 43T so much any more recently. However, whenever I went through rough patches again I found great help, support and stability @43T…I never thought it would suddenly disappear…! I regret not noticing the humans behind the site more and the dilemma of users using the site less the more the site helped them, as in my case. I would be online daily when in crisis and when back on my feet I would not check in for weeks or months at a time yet the sheer existence of 43T has given me much hope, strength, stability and joy. For that I’m very grateful and wish everyone from 43T and all the robots the very best! I loved how accepted I felt among the other users and the wonderful cheerfulness and helpfulness of the users on 43T! Really the most lovely crowd of people interacted here. Bless everyone of you! Thank you for helping me get up when I was down and for giving me a sense of direction all of you very special people! And thank you Robots for providing the idea, structure and the safe and spam free environment I so appreciated! Thank you for reassuring me of the kindness and goodness of humans. 43T has had a very positive and strong impact on my life and wellbeing! Much love and eternal gratitude! Warmest regards from Milky Marla with tears in her eyes❤️

P.S. To my 43T fellows&friends: I’m trying out Popclogs for now to keep up with my goals though will miss 43things.com very much http://www.popclogs.com/user/1254/milkymarla 3 weeks ago


lemonwaterVictim-like thinking

I have been in a frame of mind where things appear to me to be set up to cause me to fail. Past week has been very hard. So, dear Victim card, I’m going to have to turn you in. You no longer serve me. 4 weeks ago


lemonwaterFor no reason

I am feeling depressed, anxious, and nauseous for no reason. I have been trying to plump myself up by looking at pictures of Gigi Buffon, who is my favorite player. I find all the emotion displayed in soccer to be very funny. Possibly in this photo #1 is looking at some play gone wrong. 1 month ago


ccardlin 1 month ago


LipglossKiller 17 months ago


lemonwaterDisappointed

I am disappointed that 43t will not be around anymore after Aug 15. I liked making posts about my goals and reading others’ progress or struggles with their goals. I struggle with depression and anxiety and I do think 43t has helped me. I wonder if there is another place (tumblr? instagram? not facebook) where we can meet similar people but still be anonymous and speak freely. 1 month ago


eMJerkUntitled

what a confusing life.

i come to this goal on 43t to feel less alone in this fight, but since i found out about the site closing, i reluctantly click the link in my bookmarks expecting to find a 404 error in place of the small comfort i find in the community of others with depression. sad.

i just read through all six years of my past entries in this goal. i don’t know what i was hoping for, maybe some sign of improvement over the years, but no such luck. just a log of unending hurt. i’m very sad, always.

here’s to all of you other 43thingers fighting any sort of uphill battle. though i will no longer get to share with all of you or receive your support and cheers, i hope that each of us can find some relief in another form. 2 months ago


lemonwater-1 to +1

My mood has been in the middle more days than not, like between -1 and +1 with -5 being worst and +5 being best. At least not feeling like a train wreck right now. I guess if I were in a train wreck, I’d be dead, or maimed, and I’d just have to focus on getting better. 2 months ago


LipglossKiller***

I’ve been eating clean for the past two months. Entirely healthy, homemade food. Stopped drinking except for the occasional glass of wine with dinner. Work out five times a week, give or take. Sleeping as consistently as I can help.

This is what I like to do. This is what I need to do. It helps.

Saturday night we went to a party. And I drank. And drank. And did not stop. Quite literally, almost accidentally killed myself.

Two days later i am still sick.
Why can’t I stop this?
I’m more upset that I hurt him than anything else. More upset that I keep hurting him because of this. He doesn’t deserve this. He’s wonderful and beautiful and caring and understanding beyond belief. He deserves better than this.

I promised him I would stop. Maybe if it’s for him, not for me, I can do it. 2 months ago


Amarete 4 years ago


DracoStill not dead.

OK. Maybe not the “best” title for an update entry… but knowing how dismal some of my entries have been through my road to recovery here, I just want everyone to know (albeit bluntly) that I am still alive and well.

Still living on my own, and yes, still using the library computers for my Internet (no, I don’t have a laptop and I can’t get to 43T on my phone). So, once again, sorry for the infrequent posts. Not a whole lot has changed since I last stopped by.

My depression has diminished tremendously over the past twelve months. I’ve been doing a lot better since I fired my therapist when he told me the reason I wasn’t being hired to be a parole officer is because I come off as “too gay” and should try to sound more “straight.” I was appalled. It is extremely empowering to fire your therapist—not saying he did not help me at all—but the empowerment is knowing when it is legitimately time to stop taking other people’s advice and trusting that you are healthy enough to begin following your own.

Speaking of my pursuit of a job with the state department of parole, yesterday I found out I am still being considered and have been moved to the next stage of the hiring process: the background investigation. There is an “investigator” who is working with me to collect information about my background, family, and former coworkers. I’m not worried. Whether I get the job or not, is not really within my control after all. All I can do is be open and honest. I have nothing to hide. That is the definition of confidence, to me anyway.

I’ve stopped putting my hope and faith and dependence on the idea of finding any one employment position. Currently I work two jobs to make ends meet. I am doing all right financially, but my youthful and naive perceptions of the adult world and economy are long gone; I have learned to lower expectations, be realistic and content with anything I get that can at least kind of pay the bills. The excitement I used to feel when getting called for an interview has died, and attempts for higher paying employment have become normal and routine, along with the belief that something will eventually come along.

I realize I am more mature than I have ever been at any time in my life. I have become wise. I have gone through enough trials and tribulations, enough depression and hopelessness, and come out on the other side as an independent young adult with a stable mind and confident self-image. I have reached a point in my life where encountering people who do not like me because of what I am (a gay man) is no longer a shock or outrage—it is just a reality I have learned to cope with, and previous experiences have given me the tools. I have dealt with peers at school rejecting me, my own mother rejecting me, the community not supporting me, and have watched as the national and state government have slowly begun to allow homosexual couples some equal rights. If there is one thing I’ve learned to wholeheartedly and fluently ACCEPT, it’s being misunderstood, despised, feared, loathed, and challenged. I expect it. All of those things are terrifying prospects to a young gay teenager who is just realizing he is gay. How overwhelming it is, and how hopeless it must seem, to consider those plights at the first awareness of one’s own homosexual identity. I don’t blame anyone, including myself, for having experienced suicidal thoughts and depression when emerging as a young gay person without any support system.

After all I have gone through, I now have confidence that I can overcome anything that comes my way. Nobody can break me, and anymore, nobody can frighten me or make me feel bad about myself. At times it seems absurd to do anything less than love all of who I am, because I realize now that I need to be my own protector. I need to be unafraid, and face the world bravely. I need to stand up for myself in the event nobody else will. My mother taught me that, when she did not stand up for her child. I’ve finally been able to heal from those phases in my young life. I am a survivor. 2 months ago


strangelings 2 months ago


Gho-s-t

Gho-s-t

Gho-s-t 4 years ago


aliise 2 years ago


triiiinu 2 months ago


Eden 幻想

Eden 幻想 3 years ago


♥loverr girrl♥went back on my meds again

facing stressful situation. had to go back on them. 3 months ago


eMJerkUntitled

I was on the verge of checking myself back into the hospital the day after my last post. I was overcome with a sort of hysterical depression. But ultimately I decided against the hospital and was granted a two week leave of absence by my boss, who is so very understanding and helpful.

The time off helped. Last week was my first week back and it went really well, but I got super anxious and sad yesterday afternoon and it carried over into today, lots of crying. Before work this morning I got online to seek support here on 43 Things and saw almost immediately the rumors/news about the site shutting down. This made me much more sad. I don’t like to think about losing this community, I’ve been using the site for years.

Then at lunch my psychiatrist’s office called to tell me my appointment for this afternoon had been cancelled. I had been waiting patiently to talk to her about my recent crash – she has limited availability – and to discuss whether my recent med changes are to blame, so I’m pretty upset that I have to wait even longer in this pit to be able to change anything.

Then right after lunch, my boss told me she’s quitting. This is terrible news, she’s a wonderfully compassionate person and a fantastic boss, I am not looking forward to losing a superior who has been so understanding of my mental illness. This caused me to cry for pretty much the rest of my work day.

Feeling deflated.

Just copied and pasted all my entries from this goal into a document to save. 3 months ago


salsera01 3 months ago


Taqwa_Salah#5

There is something deep down, constantly trying to float up to the surface, and it cant. You cant really identify what exactly it is, sometimes it is an old memory, suppressed tears, screams, questions. It is pretty annoying and it keeps buzzing you every once in a while.

You write, cry, ignore, seek distractions, you just dont know what to do.

sigh

I have like set with myself, ensuring to myself how ridiculous the matter is, and that I should just simply start to ignore thinking about those things/experiences/events/people that irritated me in the past….But no one ever say that it would be this haaaaaaaaaard.

What’s wrong with me? What do you call it when you have that constant urgent desire to scream your lungs out! and to just have the less interaction with people as possible as you can? And why the old beautiful things dont mean a lot to me now as they used to? Two days ago I was staring at an old vision board, where i have visualized my dreams and written about them with colorful pens and doodles…I made it three years ago and hung it to my closet. Now wonder where that old version of me who made that board passionately have gone? 3 months ago


rolyUntitled

many say that i have a great life (and i’m conscious that it’s true), but sometimes i can’t help feeling bad for no reason. i don’t feel happy / content for what i have, and what i do. i don’t bother smiling to my girlfriend, calling a friend just to talk about nothing, appreciating a show that’s happening before my eyes. i feel like i’d rather stay home and do some programming. i’m not sure whether or not this “depression” is a way to achieve something important with my programming, if it’s a kind of procastination from living in the real world. i don’t know if i should embrace my introversion, of i should make some effort pretending to like what most people do: hanging out with people, even for doing nothing significant. 3 months ago


roly 3 months ago


Dia Ventrelli 8 years ago


zeroidUntitled

I feel reluctant to post anything now, because, what’s the point? If the site is shutting down, why bother?
I do feel sorry for some people who don’t post often. How will they know what happened? 3 months ago


brontaleah 4 years ago


danidee27May 2014

Trying to stay afloat.
I’m hopeful, but hope is all.
Very alone and I’m trying to stay positive, but it’s not easy. I’m fighting the urge to just sit back and let it be, to wallow. That’s not what I want, but it would be all to easy.
I don’t like change. I don’t like the unknown. There’s a lot of it in my life right now.
Need to get back to my happiness goal. 3 months ago


Meridia 22 months ago


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