stand up for myself

Standing up for myself is, I am realizing, about doing exactly that. And I need to keep this more top of mind than I have been doing, because I do have a habit of rolling over and playing dead, just to avoid the bother of conflict and confrontation – which I don’t fear, but which strikes me as pretty pointless, for most part. However…standing up for myself has nothing to do with fighting, or asserting myself, or being aggressive. It’s just a matter of standing up, for myself, at all times, no matter what – and if I do happen to get knocked over, thrown off balance, or end up on my ass in any other fashion, I will remember to stand up. Because it is my right and my responsibility to do so.

Why does it feel so unnatural?

People push me around because I am ‘nice’. I’m done, I want to start standing up for myself and what I believe in. I am a 26 year old woman, and the co-workers at the office are gossiping about me. This is BS.

well, finally, huh? i’ve been pushing myself into it for more than 12 months already. i’m really starting to put myself in first place and don’t mind about what other people may think. afterall i’m the one living my life, not them.

the key is to listen only to those who you think that really care about you and pay attention to those who really irritate you, because if it irritates you, it must be something that you deeply want to change too.

i think i’m finally getting there.

Boy, if only it was as easy as “standing up” – however, dealing with difficult people often requires sitting on your hands when you most feel standing up and smacking the fool who is causing you greif. Anyone else have the experience of having to tone down their assertiveness to placate the insecurity nit wits in positions of power and authority?

This will come in handy especially at work- I feel that I always get walked over and let people who are equal to me tell me what to do. If I want to make it up the latter it is time that I start to “stand up for myself!”

finding out what i really care, so i can be able to stand up for what i believe, no matter what people may think.

what keeps me away from that is that i’m not really doing everything i know i can be able to do. and that makes me not really proud of myself. there’s not much i can stand up for.

will power and achieve some of my goals here should be enough.

I’m like that, way too passive. I want to be respected, treated as an equal, I want to be someone.

I don’t want to be pushed again.
I don’t want to loose to myself again.
I don’t want to fear rejection again.

But one of the things that I really want is to “Stand up for myself”.

means not taking the bait in the first place. The bait: learn it, recognize it, deflect it. Like with those Wonder Woman bracelets.

I thought this meant asserting myself, so far as other people are concerned. I’m beginning to realize it means asserting myself so far as I am concerned. I need to change my attitude at a fundamental level. I need to stand up for my own self, because no one is going to be doing and standing for me, or they should not do any standing for me, because I am entirely capable of doing this for myself.

i think the key for this it’s been finding myself, my true self and what i really believe, what i really stand for and overcome the fear. why should i fear? i’m intelligent, i can take care of myself.