Be someone's maid of honor

can someone get married already!?

And both times the dress was yucky!

Since I have been to nearly 60 weddings, it would have been hard to avoid some form of participation – readings, bridesmaid and yes – maid of honor. It is an honor and a big responsibility – much more than holding a bouquet or rearranging her dress when she is at the altar.

I am my best friend’s matron of honor. She is getting married tomorrow and I can say I really enjoyed it. Planning everything and PAYING for so much did take a toll on me though. You end up spending money on so much more than what you think you will, and I split some of the costs with the other bridesmaids. Paying for the shower, the bachelorette party, dress, alterations, shoes, hair, nails, many gifts since you will be attending all of the showers, are some of the things you will be paying for. I really loved being my best friend’s matron of honor because we are such good friends but I would only do it for someone extremely close to me. You spend a lot of time with them!!

I was maid of honour for my sister-in-law last year. We had a lot of fun planning the wedding together, going shopping, dress fittings, dealing with difficult bridesmaids, and family troubles. Definitely a unique experience that has brought the two of us very close. Make sure you know what you’re getting into when you agree to be maid of honour, and be there for the bride, she will depend on you like nobody else.

it was by far, one of the most memorable weddings in my life, other then my own.

i had such a great time! i felt honoured to have been the maid of honour as we’ve known each other for almost 20 years back then (now 25 years… wow!)

Its worth doing, if you truly believe in the marriage. Many folks forget, as MOH you are standing up there in front of God, family and friends, vouching for the bride, the groom and the marriage. That makes you accountable for the marriage (as is everyone that witnesses the marriage, you aint up there alone, girl). If you don’t like the groom or dont think the marriage will last, then don’t dare approach that alter as a witness. When I got engaged, all my GFs wanted to be my bridesmaids. They dressed up in beautiful gowns, drank and danced at the reception and toasted my marriage that fateful wedding day. Well guess what. The wedding day lasts for about 4 hours. Then you have eternity to deal with the marriage. When my marriage finally went pear, each of them came to me after the divorce saying, “well, I really didnt like him anyway”. WHERE THE HECK WERE THEY BEFORE THE WEDDING??? It didnt matter if I didnt recieve what they had to say, I just wished (hindsight is 20/20) that someone had said something. If they didnt like my future husband, what was it that they saw that I didnt because I had on my bifocals of love? Those bifocals are a trip…you wear em and you cant see anything…

the first few times I was asked to be in a bridal party either BM or MOH, I was so happy! I was even happier when I kept catching the bouquets! But now I’ve been in more weddings than I can count, have dresses that I will never wear again—no matter what the bride says, you never wear that dress again, I’m done. From now on I’m going to respectfully decline. Its nothing against the bride, its just so much work!

My mother has decided to make me her MOH for this, her second marriage. It’s a bit awkward as I’m not exactly crazy for her fiancee, and I’ll admit there’s a little jealousy poking through. She wants to keep it small, thank goodness. At least I get to choose my own dress.

I was the Maid of Honor at my Dad’s wedding to my step-mom! If that was the only experience I had with M of H I would probably check NOT WORTH DOING! That was a nightmare-ish experience.

But luckily I go to do it again!

I was my cousin’s Maid of Honor as well. She was going to be mine, but then I didn’t get married, she did. So I was her’s. It was fun and it made me feel loved that of all her friends and sisters and stuff, it was ME that she wanted to be M of H!! She did good and bought us the cutest dresses!

((I’m the tall one))