realize and understand - once and for all - that my mother is just NOT going to change and stop getting angry and nervous about stupid things she always does and she'll always do (and say)

After an accomplishment at work, I remember complaining to an older friend about what my mother had said and what I wish she had said to me. My friend told me to take from my family what is good and to leave the rest behind.

I remember putting a stop to my mother’s antics by telling her that I would not tolerate ANYONE putting me down, trying to manipulate or take advantage of me. She got kind of scared (I think she thought I would cut her off) and really made a turnaround. Even my sisters commented on how “well-behaved” she was around me. It felt like setting limits with a two year old. Once that was clear – I really enjoyed her most of the time (95%). She was really fun to be around when she wasn’t being critical and mean.

but not completely. I’m going to forgive myself now for continuing to feel weird with all the interactions I have with her. I’ll just have to continue to deal with it. An example- she seems to think that if I work with the severely disabled, mentally retarded or disfigured in my new career, that it might reflect somehow on me negatively by association. I can grit my teeth when she says something like “I certainly hope you won’t be changing any diapers – that would be ghastly!” And I can not ramble on and on here about it – I certainly have better things to think about (right?) :)

Well, im going pretty good so far, I’ve lost over 30 pounds, and my complexion has completely cleared up due to the food ive been eating (mostly fruit). It’s great i’m feeling allot better about myself, but i still have a long way to go.

My mother… I give up.

This one, I think I”ve done.

Mom always pushes one step too far, and when she did this last, I just laughed and thought, there’s that last step – too far again.

I just need to understand that my mom is who she is. She can’t help being the way she is, that’s just her. Maybe she mas mental problems and she can’t help herself? Maybe she’s just phyco? Either way I need to realize there’s nothing I can do to help or stop her she isn’t goint to change.Just acept it.

Not that her not changing is a problem, but I need to learn to adjust, cause she is who she is.

...so why bother ?
I’m really working on it, and i finished taking things the hard way. Anyway, i know she won’t change, right ? ;)