seek and meet individuals whose outlooks and passions will add value to my life

My friend was so happy to see me that she stopped the show to give me a big hug and tell everyone, “This is my friend from forever and she was gone but now she’s moved back and I’m so excited!” It was so good to hang out with her and her boyfriend and the other performer, whose boyfriend turned out to be from the part of NC that I just left. We went to The Riptide in SF, which has become ironically hip and was playing Evil Dead 2 on the TVs while a dj spun vinyl. We talked about everything and had a great time. These are the kind of positive, artistic, loving, thoughtful people that I want in my life.

Tomorrow night I’m going out with a friend with whom I haven’t had a real conversation in ten years. She can drive me a bit mad, but she’s also very passionate about her work and life and always full of ideas. She runs her own well-regarded non-profit and knows a ton of interesting people. I’m looking forward to getting to know her again.

I’ll be going to a friend’s gig with Mr. Needsaname this weekend. It’ll be GREAT to reconnect with her.

where I’ll see some people who were friends in my old CA life and find out if we still have anything in common. I’m hoping to meet some interesting new people, too. I may also be going out for a beer on Friday with a new friend. Tonight I feel like hiding in my shell until I become a dried out little husk, but it’s the sleep deprivation and prospect of another job search driving that.

I invited a new friend and an old friend out to the movies Saturday night… it’s really cool to see onld friends with new people, because they reveal different sides of themselves sometimes!

And every time I hang out with the new guy, I learn a little bit more about what we have in common!

I drove up to his town, and, in between visiting friends and attending meetings, I had coffee with the fella I’ve been e-mailing.

His outlooks definitely have value to add to my life, and maybe his passions do, too… more will be revealed.

I attended my first meeting last night, and had a great time!

Can’t wait for next week!

I went, I networked, I had a good time!

Looking forward to going again sometime!

Last night, I attended a play reading directed by the OBF. It happened to be with a theatre company that I belonged to ten years ago.

They practically slew the fatted calf for me! Well, they invited me to join a writers’ group, so I’m going, and I’m looking forward to reconnecting with some of my old friends!

but I want this one staring out at me every time I log on. I’ve had a bad habit of using the friends-of-friends approach to adding people to my life. Sometimes, as in my NC life, this works well. I met some artists and musicians who introduced me to some other artists, musicians, outcasts, rebels, etc. But often it means that I end up with a large cast of acquaintances who are nice enough…I guess…but who don’t inspire me or spark anything in me other than “I guess I could go to (event) with (interchangable friend).”

Some friends tried to set me up with someone recently and I can’t imagine what they were thinking. He was a nice enough guy, but full of “everybody should” statements and very outdoorsy and athletic. Um, hello? Shoulds and shouldn’ts spook me and while I could think of some uses for his overly developed forearm muscles, they wouldn’t involve sports.

On the other hand, my sister and b-i-l know a guy that they think I would get along with well in a non-romantic way. He teaches tai chi and apparently has a very calming affect on people. He’s interested in massage and energy work, which I do. He seems like someone with whom I could have great conversations. That’s the kind of person I want in my life.

The big challenge is going to be the “seek” part of this goal. In the past, I would grab a journal and head out to a bar or coffeeshop and write and observe and eventually meet people. That’s easier with a car, obviously, and this suburb is short on coffeeshops and bars that aren’t meat markets. I’m thinking of asking my sis and b-i-l if I can keep the car a little longer on Wednesdays and spend some time in Oakland or Berkeley after work. I also need to make an effort to hang out with my San Francisco friends on a regular basis.

Once again, the Empress brings a great goal into my life. Thank you, O Fine One!

Blech!

Last night, I was at a party for a friend who got her American citizenship yesterday, and there were a couple of people there who were really bitter about our country.

Now, I think everyone’s got a right to their opinions, and views, but we were at a party for someone who worked pretty hard and went to great expense to become a citizen of this country, and I’m thinking that celebration probably wasn’t the best venue for these people to unload their political disgust.

Their outlooks and passions, and the way and place in which they were presented, didn’t add one bit of value to my life, and I was out of there as quickly as I could be.

I’ll take my friend out to lunch sometime to celebrate her new status, instead!