kevflamme has a bird caged
2 months and i still do not have any ‘wet’ dreams you guys are talking about. when will it happen? I am desperately in need in one or i will voluntarily FAIL!
but here is what i realise:
1) there will be a ‘breaking point’. Understanding the vicious cycle of your habit will give you a clearer picture on WHEN to really not give up. Myself, for instance, I will start to have a hell lot of lusty thoughts in my mind (and all of those old porns’ images will project themselves ever so clearly on the wall of my brain) every 3 days. That is when you really feel like you must must must do it. BUT. if you hold on a second longer, a minute longer, an hour longer, and yes, a day longer, it will fade away, and on, say, 4th day, everything will turn normal again. STUDY your breaking point and do not submit. My new breaking point is every 5 days.
2) to combat breaking point, i have done and participated in a HELL LOT of activities i never thought i would do. I joined a local jiu jitsu club and when it is time to do sparring, i will just lash my frustration on the other guy as if i would kill him (haha). and i came back to swimming which i abandoned for a very long time, and improved my butterfly stroke tremendously. I joined a chess competition (urggghh nerd!) and a scrabble competition. i took french and spanish languagers classes. all that, sometimes, dont make any sense to me. in the end i do not know what the hell i learnt from all that, and i realise i have forgotten masturbation!
3) force yourself, at once, to be disidentified with yourself, be like, i dont know, someone who isnt you, but really is just you – go out there, be hungry about wanting to do a lot of stuff you never imagined you’d be doing, but dont GO TO CLUBS where there are damn hot chicks (LOL). Change your attitude about women. It’s like the same attitude you have for your mother or sister. etc. Women are mysterious human beings and exciting to get along with IF you dont objectify them.
4) i have a problem though. it is exam season, and many of my so-called activities are taking their breaks, for the purpose of the exams. So far, 8 days have gone with me staying in library, lectures halls, and my own room without vigourous activities.
huaarrgh. help me!
