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Horatiusvictory!

hey guys, thought it might be fruitful to give an update.

as it stands now, the Lord in me just beat back a wave of temptations. all i needed to do is rest and trust in his love. also just took communion.

approach therapy is also going well. my fear of strangers in my current setting is now almost gone… any less and i fear i may be a zombie. but god is not done working yet. i will learn to rest in his love more and more as the weeks and months roll by. glory to the father who changes the hearts of his servants.

i now enjoy a level of freedom and peace i never thought was possible. as for all the socializing, it makes one less sensitive to old triggers, and more sensitive to meeting new people, and having adventures. it hasn’t all been a walk in the park, but totally worth it and totally in alignment with my life’s purpose, which is to know intimately the love of god and share his love with others.

the variety in my life has also helped me to keep my diet under control… apparently all the emotional eating that i was doing before was because i wasn’t expressing my heart’s desire.

oh yeah… one thing i’d like to mention is that i now have much more faith in my own goodness. so now when someone doesn’t like me, it doesn’t phase me much anymore! i am very thankful to jesus for surrounding me with this bubble of peace and love. it is getting more powerful.

wow! a lot has changed in eight days of approaches. what a wonderful gift that god has given me.

and i might as well state my aspiration to reach 100 days without porn… i can do it so long as i believe it! that will be in early July.

“for it is god that works in [me] both to will and to do for his good pleasure.” 1 week ago


Horatiusthe flesh profits nothing... only god can deliver.

hey guys, it’s been too long. i was in another country without proper access to wifi and quite frankly, haven’t seen much purpose for this forum considering that it’s almost dead. but now, i’m on vacation for the next three months here, and in that time desire to permanently alter how i see the world around me. for one, i’d like to see a greater healing come into my life. i’d like to see, for instance, a total elimination of those dreaded mindsets:

shame
fear
lust

you see gentlemen, i know what the will of god is for me in this area, and i know that most Christians are selling themselves short.

the shalom peace that god promises us, for instance, is total peace and wholeness of being. it implies healing on every level.

and when it says that christ died for our salvation, the word used also means healing. so jesus died not only to save us in the next life, but also in this one. and that means the end of sickness and disease, and sickness of soul.

no Christian should be sick of soul, but that’s all i see. a people that perish for lack of knowledge.

anyway… my journey towards healing has not been as straightforward as i would have liked it… there ‘ve been failures sprinkled along the way for sure, and a return to my old emotional and spiritual pacifiers. porn being one of them.

that age has come to an end though, and the holy spirit is now birthing something new in my life.

i’ve kept on trying to beat this “addiction” (it’s really a sickness of the soul) by just abstaining, and living as i always lived when i was younger. for truth about the future, i frequently found myself looking to the past. well, quite frankly i can’t do that anymore. it’s suffocating, and the more breaths i take of this new freedom that god has arranged for me (from the inside out) the more i am beginning to find how i lived even a few days ago… a totally suffocating and unbearable prospect.

god did not create wild stallions to be locked in cages. but our cages are not physical – they are the self-imposed cages of mental and spiritual oppression, and until they are removed, we cannot be who we were intended to be. no wonder then that we are drugging ourselves. or at least that’s how it was for me.

so now that i am on vacation, i’ve got 90 days to spare and full access to wifi. that’s a lot of free time on my hands, and i’d like to spend it out on the street socializing with strangers, and making new connections. is there fear involved in this? you bet. is there failure and rejection? you better believe it. but god has been working on me, gentlemen. i’m not the scared little boy i sometimes still think myself to be. those monsters that fear and rejection used to be are just nagging little pains. i can smile in my anxiety. i know it’s there but that’s okay. and every day by the grace of god i am getting more skilled at managing it, and using it to propel me forward. and the more i continue down this exciting path, and the more i see the fruition of the dreams that god has put into my heart, then the less interesting porn and m’bation become as an escape for me.

so i have four goals for this season of my life:

goal no. 1
walk in the spirit every single day. i’ve actually created a chart for this, and like to rate how close i feel to god on each day. this chart ranges from red (totally in the flesh) to light blue (much in the spirit) and dark blue (very much in the spirit).

gentlemen, it’s no surprise that porn became an issue on those days that were red or yellow. but nothing was further from my mind on blue days. my aim now then is to have around 90 blue days in a row.

goal no. 2
force myself out onto the streets and approach people for a period of 90 days. but now approach is not enough – i’d like become more strategic and sensitive about how i do.

goal no. 3
abstain from porn for 90 days. if i masturbate a few times here and there that’s fine, but let me tell you how weak i am: all the vows in the world don’t matter one iota unless i am first a spiritual man, and live in a new way as god has shown me. otherwise the flesh profits nothing. i might be able to drag myself along in the flesh for a few extra weeks, but eventually i’ll just go back to my old ways unless i start living in a new way. what i’ve outlined above is that new way.

goal no. 4
live healthy.

i’m on a diet. my calorie intake is now around 1500 and will fluctuate, depending on how much food i need.

why? because pleasure receptors that have been satiated by rich food (and too much food) make the brain vulnerable to self-destructive temptations. why even bother having to fight a temptation when you can avoid it altogether?

and of course, exercise when i an manage it.
this might seem like a lot, but all of these goals strengthen and flow into each other quite naturally.

so today is day four for prayer and day three for approaches. i was scared but excited leading up to this, but now i am less scared. when the enemy strikes me i deflect his blows and fight back with the word of god. he doesn’t stand a chance if i have my spiritual armor on.

“No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.”

notice it says: “their righteousness is of me, saith the lord”

saith the lord.

says God about you.

God says that your righteousness is of Him. it does not depend on your own human effort. how much more so now that we are under the shed blood of christ?

so the lying voice of shame will come and say: you are not worthy. you can’t approach that person. you are not good enough.

now come into agreement Living Word and say:

I am the righteousness of God in Jesus. and you, lying voice of shame, are telling me that i am not good enough? get out of here.

now ask yourself: what does it mean to be righteous? i mean really think about it.

do you know what god says about those who are righteous in Him?

“And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.”

this is a promise that the righteous shall have peace. so rest now in the perfect righteousness of god and know that the lying judgements of Babylon shall no longer hold you in bondage.
so! through the lenses of pure love, and the lenses of the great I AM who has declared you righteous and holy, what is true about you? regardless of what the world might think about you, what is actually true, and what do you know about your own goodness?

if jesus thought you worth bleeding and dying for, then what power does the opinion of a mere man have over you? less than you think, and that is what i am progressively discovering more and more every day as i not only profess belief and trust, but also act as if those things that i profess are true. some matters in the heart can only be healed through doing, and not just saying.

it’s one thing to believe something intellectually, but another entirely to believe that same thing on a heart level. and it is the will of god that all who know Him be free!

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

anyway… i’ll keep you guys updated on my growth. i’ve got a long road ahead of me, but if can just consistently show up with a good attitude then success will be inevitable. (showing up is half the battle, as they say…) and as for the lord, He has already chosen me and picked me out for victory. Now i must choose Him. and not just once mind you, but i must re-choose Him every single day. anything less than that is not true love. and the inevitable result would be a wasting away of who i am. 2 weeks ago


freshstart123Day 0

Does anyone have some advice on how to avoid touching while in bed and not being able to sleep? 3 weeks ago


newlifebegins1992Untitled

hello guys Im back but with a different perspective Ive understood that i was somehow dreaming a nightmare and tonight Ive been awakened. From Right now i am awake and ready. guys i know how could you quit masturbating just whenever the urge comes before doing it say I seek Gods help. may this be helpful.I will come and say how many days im clean 3 weeks ago


nourthepancakeRestarting, Day 1 again

Failed again, and lasted only 1 day. 3 weeks ago


freshstart123Day 5

Feeling good. Nothing can stop me. 4 weeks ago


nourthepancakeRestarting, Today is Day 1 again

So far I’ve lasted 3 days only, but I’m assuming it’ll get better 4 weeks ago


freshstart123Day 3

No way back. I will finally be myself again after 13 years of fapping and 11 years of pornography. It’s motherf*cking gone!!! 4 weeks ago


nourthepancakeUntitled

I just started, lets see how long i can last. Goodluck everyone! 4 weeks ago


nourthepancake 4 weeks ago


freshstart123Day 1

So I just accidentaly formatted my hard drive while installing Linux Mint and that means all of the nude pics/vids I’ve collected are gone.
At first I was panicking, but then I thought, this is great!
This means I can finally stop watching that shit.

Day 1 of a new life! 4 weeks ago


k4170suicide denial

I love the Lord, and I fear Him
but my flesh is weak, and my mind is puzzled
sometimes my lust overcome my sanity

O Lord, can you please take me away?,
I am so sad that I becoming hypocrite too;
say that I love you, not prove with an act.

How can I get over with this cycle?
How can I understand every situation during the battle?
my body is getting weaker, because I fell so depress
lunch is not important for me anymore;
because I failed to be a good servant of God.

I lost 3 kg, I wasted 3 weeks
and I still not wake up from my dream
what should I do when the trials come, when I feel proud about myself
that I can do it in a week?

Lord, forgive my sins, for I have no more to say about this
you yourself examine my heart, you know the best for me.
perhaps, Can you take me with you when I won the battle? 1 month ago


change13Rollercoaser-Day1

I really pray for a week of victory for each and everyone of us! It’s tough few months and past few weeks not even being able to commit,but change starts now so here’s to getting off this cycle. 1 month ago


AryangorFebruary results:

M0 = 86%
M1+ = 14%
Times MO’ed: 4

It was probably the best result I ever had. I am very grateful and positive. Seriously, a year or two or three ago I had no idea I would be doing so well. But I just kept pushing, believing in myself and in my God who encouraged me. And look where I am today! Yay! 1 month ago


freshstart123Day 2

I will not fail this month. No PMO. 1 month ago


AryangorBreaking personal best

Just wanted to share the news with you!

I am on day 20 tonight and have broken my personal best of 17 days. I am very happy, grateful to Jesus and feel so blessed!

Victory, here we come! At any cost! 1 month ago


cause_and_effectRadical Measures

No computer + no smartphone = no internet access (for 18 days yet!)

I am writing this from my father’s computer.

This radical measure has helped me a lot. Not only does it keep me from giving in in diffcult moments until I am strong enough to handle them better. It has also improved my quality of life in general. I learn to appreciate the small things of everyday life. I am more focused on my goals – and I have more energy and motivation to work towards them.

For all of you who have struggled with this for too long: consider taking this step – at least for a few weeks. It’s not as hard as you think, and you will not regret it! 1 month ago


AryangorFebruary progress:

M0 = 60%
M1+ = 40%

Today I woke up with an urge, but nothing I could not deal with. IN general, the more I say NO to myself, the better I am at saying NO to myself. Practice makes perfect.

Yes, I do still fap occasionally, but I am moving forward, I know I am and my stats are a proof of that.

Going away for about 3 weeks – should make me even more busy and distracted… (as if I can get any busier!!) 2 months ago


Intothelight 91Day 0!

Damn! Started of to the year so well but I’m really struggling at the moment. Caved in after five days. Although I’m no longer doing it on a daily basis it’s not the point I want to completely quit masturbation, not do it once a week, once a month. I’m not going to let this relapse set me back. New day tomorrow, good luck and Godbless 2 months ago


AryangorFebruary progress:

M0 = 40%
M1+ = 60%
MO’ing: 6 times

The months began with a lekker binge! Today is day 2 for me and I don’t want to MO any more – depart!! 2 months ago


FreedomAwaits20Day 7

Alright made it to a week ! Now to week 2. 2 months ago


FreedomAwaits20Day 4

Minor Goal: 7 days
Major Goal: 2 weeks

Staying alert, week 1 here I come. 2 months ago


Intothelight 91Day 2 Coming back into the fight!

My aim is to reach 30 days and beyond! Once I pass this milestone I’ll feel so much better in myself. 2 months ago


savitabyri 2 months ago


luiszzz72011January 30/31

I miss one day :( but Here goes to a 28/28 on February! :D 2 months ago


FreedomAwaits20Untitled

Hey everyone. I thought I’d share an excerpt from an essay written by a friend of mine who was a former addict If you ever began to lose hope, maybe you can relate to it as well.
” I don’t know if I’m the only one who experiences this,if you are someone who also does, maybe this will be of some help to you. So I noticed that each time I would have a setback or relapse, I would lose a little bit of hope that I could quit this habit. Pretty soon, I had lost nearly all hope and began to believe that I was never going to quit this habit and to keep on trying was futile. Fortunately, a friend of mine showed me an exercise which restored my belief in myself. He told me that I needed to learn how to crawl before I tried to run. He said I needed to start with baby sets to build my willpower. He advised me to start by practicing with little things like giving up or limiting intake of junk food, going to bed at a certain time, going for a jog every day,etc.
These activities themselves seemed trivial, but they had a strong effect on my perception. Although I wasn’t able to quit immediately and relapsed several times after that, I never stopped doing those little habits. I would do them religiously and gradually my willpower began to grow stronger as well as hope and belief that I could quit. As a result, I never lost hope that I could relinquish this habit and I was eventually able to quit forever.Thanks to his advice, today I am a free man.” 2 months ago


FreedomAwaits20Untitled

Day 1
Minor goal: 3 days
Major Goal: 7 days
So I unfortunately had a little setback due to a careless mistake I made. I accidentally came across an inappropriate website and fell prey to the desire to MB. However, I have taken care of that. I’ve installed multiple web filters which are very strict and maybe even a little over the top(better to be safe than sorry). I also placed randomly generated passwords and emails on them and then purposely lost them rendering them very difficult if not impossible to retreive. So my computer is now pretty much harmless. The only way to get around the filters would be by doing a fresh install of the OS, something I have not time nor the equipment to do. I know the strength to stop should be derived from your will, but having some assistance certainly doesn’t hurt and greatly increases your chances of success.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford 2 months ago


freshstart123Day 5

Not much to report. Just living my life. February will be without mb. 2 months ago


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