be a better boyfriend

Self explanatory.

I have the greatest girl anyone could ask for and though i know this i do not show it. When we first got together over eight years ago I was the best b/f she could have those were her words. Now it seems I have lost touch with myself and have no clue how to be me again. I make this great girl feel insignificant though it is not intentional it is easy to avoid and yet I don’t. She is on the verge of leaving me and I truly dont know how to stop it. I remember how i used to be but find it very difficult to do. I try to do these things that women love so much but it makes me feel akward and less of a man. I really hope I can figure out how to fix this and what caused me to become the arsehole i am today. She deserves much better then this and frankly if i cant give her the love, time and support she needs I am being selfish by continuing to stay with her and keep making these empty promises.

i have been with my girl friend of 4 years an damn things have changed she is such a sweet heart she has been so verry good 2 me we had a child after 2 years en that has been great i used to be a real ass hole i never showed her the same love that she has showed me i realy dident like dooing things with her it was almost like i just had her around 4 some thing to poke on en talk 2 when i had no one else around i have made her feal like shit the past few years….. But now i look back at all the thing i have done an realy wished i could have done things difretly i feal like the tables r turend en now she is me when we started going out idont know i just want to prove to her that im a good man im 27 years old en i want 2 make good mories im not geting any younger an im realy fealing like we r falling apart what the hell do i do….from the dick head.

I have just realized I had a 43t account so i thought I would come and see what has changed. Since I last used it my girlfriend and I have split up (she dumped me!) so I thought I would share my thoughts in hindseight on how to be a better boyfriend.

Things started to go wrong in September. She was starting off at university and I was helping with the welcome week at my university (helping freshers get into the swing of uni life). Unfortunately this meant I wasn’t there for her. The people she was living with all knew each other and didn’t take any effort to try and get to know her. She felt alone, she needed someone, she needed me but I wasn’t there. She ended up getting rather close to another one of our friends (the guy she is with now).

After this things just weren’t the same between us. We always seemed to be getting each other upset. It didn’t really help that we didn’t tell each other our true feelings. Anyway, a few weeks later she said she wanted to go on a break…

All of my friends here at uni said that I should forget about her and move on – can I just say that this is the worse advice to give! We tried to stay friends but things just weren’t the same, we kept getting each upset still. We needed some proper time apart. I now know that what she really wanted was for me to go and say I love her. To tell her I was stupid and that I wanted her to take me back. I wanted to too, but I took the advice not to.

I hope this helps someone to not make the mistake as me. I have now got to ‘make up with my ex’. In summary:
- If she needs you be there, no matter what anyone tells you
- If she says she wants to go on a break then let her settle for a few days. You will both feel really bad and need some time to be alone. Remember why you need each other and then go and meet her. Tell her why you need her, tell her you love her and appologise for letting your relationship getting like this (even if it isn’t your fault!)

I have tried my hardest at this goal and have failed miserably. About a month and 1/2 ago my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years and I broke up. He already has a new boyfriend too. Which is awsome. I am heart broken, of course. But am slowly beginning to date and feel what it’s like to be single. It’s strange but awsome.

We broke up, she’s a bitch, I found someone new, she’s amazing, fuck whats-her-name.

No girlfriend means I can’t be a good boyfriend.

So I was reading mondonachos entry and it sounds like my relationship with my gf. We have been together for 4 years and we had some troubles at the beginning of our relationship which has always made her doubt my feelings for her. Now, I love her, I love her more than anything and I know that for certain. The problem is that I dont show her that I do anymore. In the beginning, I was good, very romantic… a good boyfriend. Now, all I do is make her feel horrible. She has told me that she is thinking of taking a break but I don’t think that that is a good idea and I don’t know if I can take not being with her. She means so much to me and I don’t want to hurt her anymore. Like mondonacho, when we fight I turn into the different person who wants to “win” the fight and I say all sorts of things that crush her. I need help, I need to change because she is incredible and gives me so much love that feels so good but I am ruining it. I need help.

This picture of her is a few years old but it sums up how magnificent she is to me.

This was one thing I thought I was doing well on, drinking more water, having better posture, these are weak efforts at best. I was improving as a boyfriend though. The reason I am giving up is not because I couldn’t hack it, but because in the end it didn’t matter. She broke up with me for reasons beyond my control. So without a girlfriend it is hard to be a better boyfriend. Maybe I’ll pick it up again in the future.

I feel like sometimes I dont deverve to have my girlfriend. I feel like I need to do more in this relationship. She has done alot for me. I haven’t dont that much for her. I am a lazy boyfriend. I need to commit more to this relationship. And make her more happy. SHe deserves it.