not get annoyed by rude people

It’s been, oh, four or five days since I gave my notice. She hasn’t even acknowledged it. I know that she received my letter, because one of my coworkers mentioned something back to me that I had written in the letter to my boss. But I have yet to receive any kind of reply from the boss herself. She’s basically been refusing to communicate with me for the last several months, for no obvious reason. How unprofessional can a person get?!

I just keep reminding myself that in only a few days this will all be behind me.

Met a real rude chap at the airport day b4, he was blocking the exit busy chatting with two other people. I said ‘excuse me’ several times over (a little louder before the other two noticed and moved away). As I was walking past, this chap said somethign extrmely rude I was almost out but dunno why I turned back and confronted him…I asked him if he just said somthng to me and he repeated the insult…I pointed out that he was at fault for blocking the exit but he only got worse with his comments, he was ranting nonstop. I stood shocked, just too shocked to even say anything to him. I just wanted to abuse him right back but just cdnt…I just stood there like a moron while he continued on – even now I am hurt and upset and wondering what i shd have done differently. One thing is for sure, I could not have traded insults for insults, I dont have it in me to get to the level of rude people. The only option left as I see is well..to take this ‘nonsense’ (which thankfully is infrequent and rare) and keep trying to ‘not get annoyed’. I tried everything, but I somehow wish that chap ill – this helplessness and illwill is smthing I have never ever felt/wished in my life b4 with any other rude fellows. Dunno if all this make any sense to neone…

Working in customer support helped here. But I won’t bring this out of my workplace.

Get annoyed at them. It’s not the rude people who deserve our sympathy, it’s the dim-witted ones.

Some people are born dim-witted. They can’t help it. Drive wide circles around them.

Rude people have issues. It’s annoying when they put their issues in your face. It’s like they’re asking for validation of their issues from strangers.

Dim-witted people deserve our patience. Rude people deserve a smack.

inviting two friends to a music night and then they just talk to eachother throughout the whole thing, ignoring me and everyone else even when i performed. just listened to the music instead. wonder what lesson that taught me?

So maybe I’m not as good at this yet as I thought I was. Was slam-dunked by some a**hole’s major rudeness yesterday. It affected me way more than it should have. I don’t want to explain the situation so I don’t have to re-live it… Nasty. But, it showed me that I still have a lot of work to do on this goal.

From the book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (and it’s all small stuff)” I have learned a new technique for coping with rude people: imagine that everyone was put on earth to teach you something useful. Then when dealing with annoying/rude people, ask yourself… what is this person trying to teach me?

Let’s say you are dealing with a slow cashier at the supermarket… you could say that s/he is trying to teach you patience, or to empathize with people who have boring, unfulfilling jobs. Or when dealing with your mean relative, you could say s/he is trying to teach you to accept family for who they are rather than trying to make them the way you’d like them.

I’ve been practising this for a couple days and it’s really making a difference in how I see the world. Everything is so much more pleasant when you don’t have to see others as your personal nemesis.

What can I say… this is a hard habit to overcome. Though I do notice some improvement. I’m definitely more conscious of how I react to other people’s rudeness, and I would say that I am more relaxed at least most of the time. Every once in a while I laugh rather than get upset, because the absurdity of the situation just calls for a laugh. That helps tremendously. I also apply the “May the fleas of a thousand camels infest your armpits (...)” curse to rude people which, again, makes me laugh. I can’t remember the last time someone else’s rudeness ruined my day like it used to. These days I mostly let it roll off my back… though I do get upset with stuff of course. Just not nearly as much as I used to.

While driving I have found that listening to comedy is a good way to keep your cool. It’s much more fun to laugh at someone’s jokes than to pay attention to the weirdo who’s bullying you (or bullying someone else, as the case may be). Oh, also… I now have a smiley sticker on the back of my car, I figure maybe it’ll break up someone else’s pissy mood, thereby making driving safer for us all.

Oh and to all you tailgaters and pushy drivers out there… you may not have noticed it but on average you arrive at your destination around the same time you would have arrived if you had driven more considerately. Trust me, I have seen it happen over and over again… I see you approach in my rear view mirror… many freeway exits later you may be a car ahead of me or you may be ten cars behind me. But, in the process you’ve wasted gas and made life unpleasant for everyone including yourself.

I figured…some people are dumb. Many people are smart, many people are rude. It’s the way of life. I used to make comments in my journal about people being rude to me, now I thought that’s not the right thing to do. It will just give everyone stress. I’m going to learn not to get annoyed by rude people. :)

Some dude decided not to let me get over into his lane—I was trying to get off the freeway and he kept changing his speed to match mine and keep the gap in front of him just small enough not to let me in. Why do people act that way???

I did eventually get over but it was at the very last second. Hmmmm… I definitely need to work on not letting that kind of behavior bother me, just not sure how.

I get so frustrated by those rude drivers who use every onramp and offramp as a racetrack to pass those already on the freeway; who tailgate me or cut in front of me, causing me to slam on the brakes/speed up or run into them. I HATE when others put me in danger just so they can get into my lane and “get there” 10 seconds earlier. I get so angry that I can feel my blood pressure rising and I know I don’t drive safely when that happens. Sooooo… I need to work on keeping my calm regardless of how stupidly others act around me. First step: check out http://www.drdriving.org/articles/testimony.htm and read some.