But how?
How to get my husband to do his share of the housework- without it turning into an argument every time I bring it up
How I did it: I try to keep it lighthearted yet let him know how grateful I am for his help. We're silly together so it works. Sometimes I ask him in a Donald Duck voice, other times I just say "Hey. You. Come here!" When all is said and done, I am always sure to give him a big squeeze and tell him thank you. If the chore was particularly sucky (like getting the hair out of the tub drain and then scrubbing the entire shower down), afterward I'll rub his shoulders or cuddle for a while. Or I'll walk by later and be like, "Damn, that shower looks good" and thank him again. Everyone deserves a pat on the back. I think maybe it makes him feel good to help me. Or he just likes his shoulders rubbed :)
Lessons & tips: Make sure you're doing your best as well. I help him when he needs something; and he thanks me just as sweetly as I thank him. It keeps bitterness from ensuing--neither of us feel like we're being used.
Resources: Resources? I dunno, I just know my husband and our relationship. This might not work for everybody.

