Enjoy both my Grandmothers and see them as much as I can

We went to PA over Thanksgiving to visit Grammy & the rellies. It was a great trip and I’m glad we went, especially in light of my cousin’s recent death. It was good to see some of my relatives that I hadn’t seen in many, many years and of course to get in some good Grammy time. She will be moving into an assisted living facility and I would like to write and call her even more often, even though I’ve been doing better since I put up this goal.

They changed the time. :) Yippee.

We are going to visit my grandmother and other family in PA over Thanksgiving. But now I am worried because I just got off the phone with my mom (who is already out there) and she kept talking about what kinds of sightseeing we can do! We’re only going to be there 2 days! We want to see our family! We don’t care about sightseeing. Bah.

So I need to just keep reiterating that to her, but also be ok with whatever happens. Like, right now they are planning on eating Thanksgiving in the afternoon before we arrive (we’ll get in about 4:00). That’s kind of frustrating, knowing that if they could wait a few hours we could join them and likely if they’ve already had their meal they are going to be ready to go home and be done for the evening and we’ll stuck sitting in our hotel room twiddling our thumbs. But if that’s what happens, there is nothing I can do about it. I’ve said my piece, which is that I’d prefer if they could do it a little later and we could join them. If my mom can’t finagle that, well, so be it. I have to just recognize that it is out of my control and that tradition is sometimes stronger than logic. Or maybe I’m getting worked up about nothing and we will do it in the late afternoon and all will be well. Maybe I think we’re a lot more important than the rest of the world does ;) But then, don’t we all?

My mom is planning to order food to their hotel on Friday and have everyone come to the party room there and if that’s the only time in the two days we see rellies, well, there is nothing I can do about it and it will be better than nothing.

So basically, I need to chill out.

So lilyfairy if you’ve heard nothing about what the plans are, now you know :) By the time you read this they could have decided something totally different!!!

Called my MN Grandma today and plans are in the works to visit PA Grammy over Thanksgiving. My Grandma is funny. I think she is really lonely. I’m always amazed at how happy she sounds that anyone has called her.

My grandma called this morning wondering if I would be in town for Father’s Day. I told her I didn’t know, which at that moment was the truth. But then I did end up going, and didn’t call her. That wasn’t good . . . I also could have stopped to see my brother at work and didn’t. Not sure what got into me today. At least I will see my Grandma next week and the week after that.

Need to get on the phone to my Grammy in PA. She is not making her annual visit for health reason and I keep just “not getting around” to calling. Well, I didn’t have the number, but got it last night. Would call right now except it’s after 10 p.m. in PA. Maybe tomorrow.

And she was as loopy as ever. But I asked if she was lonely since hubby has gone to the nursing home, and she said she was . . . she said she had been dreaming he was sleeping with her in her bed at home. Sad. I have to be very dedicated to this goal and be sure to call.

I sent my local Grandma a Thanksgiving card and am waiting on one photo in order to get one off to my distant Grammy.

I spoke on the phone with Grandma for a record 7:55.

My aunt and cousin removed 7 feral cats from her property. There are about 10 left. This is how the conversation went:

Me: “Well, do you feed them?”
G: “No, I don’t eat them!”
Me: “No, Grandma, do you FEED them?”
G: “No, I don’t need them around.”

Yikes. She was happy, though.

at the airport. It is always kind of an anti-climactic goodbye because she is so wrapped up in the whole airport get-to-my-plane-and-wait thing. But at any rate we had a chance to chat and I got to say goodbye. Maybe we will need to plan a long weekend out to her this year sometime. She was talking positively about next year’s visit but she is 85 and in declining health, so we just never know.

As far as my other Grandma, I have been doing dismally. Her hubby had a stroke and is now in the nursing home, so she is alone at her place. I haven’t even been to visit him and haven’t called her since it happened, though I saw her once at my sister’s bridal shower.

I feel bad that this goal has to be so overt and that my grandmotherly connections don’t come naturally, but they don’t. So I will just keep working on it. This week I will call my Grandma one night and she will be tickled pink.

at a bridal shower for my sister. However I didn’t get to really spend as much individual time as I would have liked because of running around. Plus, my Grammy, who is leaving back to PA in three weeks, isn’t as deaf as my Grandma, who is very vocal about when she can’t hear (!) so I had to sit next to her to be available for the “what?” after every sentence. Oh well, that’s ok. She needed that to be engaged in the party (and not be a pain in the rear). Plus, I should make an effort to call her more because her hubby had a stroke last week and likely isn’t coming home. Really should go up each of the next two weekends because I can’t see Grammy off at the airport in three weeks (other plans that day) and who know if she’ll be back next year.