find my dream job

Maybe i am close to the job for me, but as of now, i am not sure this is it. I thought i wanted to personal train, and i think i still want to, but my attitude has changed since i first got hired. I recently got hired at a very nice and exclusive fitness club and I used to love being at there, and talked to everyone in the club to try and build my clientele. Now its been 2 months, and i can’t seem to find that same energy that i had when i first started. I used to go to work, using it as an outlet for the rest of my life, now i just go there because i have to. I like training people, but its the building my clientele that is hurting me and putting down my self esteem. I know i am a great personal trainer but i feel that because i look younger that people may not take my seriously. I am also a really friendly girl, but at times, i wonder if my lack of confidence when approaching the members is making me look like i may not be a good personal trainer.

I look at some of the top personal trainers at my gym and wonder if they even like training because they are never smiling, yet here i am always smiling and having a great time with my clients that i do have..while still giving them a good workout of course! I do love training, but how can i build my clientele so that i feel like i have a position as a personal trainer at the gym? It doesn’t help any that every few weeks, our manager puts our ranking on display for all to see, and low and behold, my name on the bottom, while the other two trainers who i got hired with are already deep in the mix of the rest of the personal trainers, building their clientele happily.

I am fresh out of college, no money, and can’t run to my parents for help. They’d love to help me, but they struggle themselves. I work constantly and have nothing to show for it. I try to build my clientele at the gym, but it just isn’t working. I want to talk to my manager to try and get help, but I have tried, and it doesn’t do too much, plus i’ll probably start to get emotional and then she’ll just look at me like what is wrong with her? I already want to go back to college just to find another job which i can enjoy and be financially stable, but i can’t because i have way to much loan money as it is to pack on more loans.

Is it bad that i am tempted to go back to dancing? At least then i am way more than financially stable. I am also so much more confident in myself in and outside of work, which is a great feeling

Have been studying and working in different companies and in different positions…still I don’t know what I want to do. I want to feel it has a meaning, stimulated and inspired. Or maybe it’s just the way it is. I think I am on the way at least as this was something I promised myself last year. I thought about what i like in life and what kind of company would suit me…sport/fashion and international company with young enthustiastic people.

My biggest interest is something else – animals but I don’t have the skill or brain to become a vet som what can i do – volontear? At least it’s a start.

... lies in using your skill(s). Seeing as we spend so many hours at work, wouldn’t it be wonderful to combine the two?

I accepted a job offer at an ad agency and I start on Monday.

When you’re doing what you love to do, it doesn’t feel like work. Go after what you love…even if the money doesn’t come right away. It will come eventually and you’ll be SO much happier in the end.

After being out of work for a year, I found a job as a Web Designer for a cable company. It’s a normal 9-6 job, but I can work from home twice a week. I have creative freedom and the people are amazing. I’m really blessed to have this job.

I spent a lot of time thinking about this and Ive narrowed it down to a few things.

1. Creative self expression
2. Mental Stimulation- I want my job to make me consider things in a new light on a regular basis. I want it to have an inherent sense of discovery about it.
3. Flexible schedule- I dont want to be working so much that I miss living. The little things in life like developing and tending to personal relationships with the people I care for- family, friends, etc. It cant be work work work all the time. I dont want the best of my time and energy consumed by that skulduggery.
4. Decent pay. Buy my bread and butter it too.
5. Travel- My job doesnt have to take me wild places so much as give me a schedule flexible enough so that i can go there myself

Im thinking a writer on social issues, relationships etc might be good or maybe a fashion writer. Working at a publishing house would be good in general. Editor maybe but something writing related…

I’m good at working a non-leadership position where my emediate supervisor doesn’t lean over my shoulder.

I”m good at working out issues in a leadership position where there is a definite level of respect for said position, and I don’t have to fight for respect because the nature of the job. (When I taught martial arts I earned the respect of my students and never had to fight to keep it unlike with a public school teaching position where I have to argue with children just to get them to stop talking.) I do well with macro-concepts and the connections between things, relationships and seeing different sides of the issue without judging any of the points of view. I do well under preasure and with strenuous situations where decisions have to be made quickly, but not life and death.

Talents-
Academia
Empathizing
Conflict resolution
People say I’m wise…but wisdom doesn’t pay the bills
Athletic
Understnading

I struggle with:
Being detail orriented
The idea of being a therapist because I have hated mine
Wanting to be realistic and practical but still live a life I love
Fear of making a bad decision
wondering if I should settle for something that’s good enough

I’m afraid of
Not living my life to the fullest
Going Broke
Not being able to take care of the people I love
Screwing up really badly
Not bieng in control

What I look for in a job
People I get along with
Challenge
Being proficient

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. I don’t want to be a therapist, or a counselor unless it’s with a spiritually minded but non-denominational group. I can’t be a secretary for the rest of my life. I love art, literature, and philosophy. I Love spychology but it’s so rigid. I want to help people and to teach them but all I want to teach is love and how to love ourselves. Where is there a market for this?

I love my job I have. I would have never saw myself doing this, but I really do love it. I know what I want to be doing with my life now.

My advise to others:
Search high and low.
It’s could be a hard, hard road if you’re not willing to relocate.
Unless you must have the job, don’t be afraid to say no to a job offer if it doesn’t feel quite right “(I don’t mean the difficult feeling of impeding change, but that of the “this could be it, in a year and some getting use to it” feeling.

This is hard.

The job market is crazy.

I have my resume on every site known to man and I’ve been to every career fair in the DFW area.

I would love to find something in my field that doesn’t involve cold calling or selling cars.

This goes hand in hand with my owning a business dream. I have no idea what my dream job is. I studied photography in college, so you would think that would be it, but I think it burned me out. I’m going to start volunteering at the Aquarium soon and I’m hoping that will lead to something else!