stop blushing

i have had this problem for as long as i can remember. i’m 24 now and its only getting worse. i go red, and i mean bright red, all the time in social situations. there appears to be nothing i can do to stop it. even simple, everyday things like standing near a good looking girl or being in a lift with people or walking down the street or walking into a shop..i go bright red! i’m sure i come across as being very rude at work becauase as soon as i can feel myself going red, i avoid eye contact and try to end the conversation as quickly as possible.
at the moment, i can’t see how i can stop this. and its getting really depressing. i feel that if i can’t stop this, then i’ll never have a girlfriend, never get married, and never be happy.

i need help.

I’m sure work will be much better this fall.. As I asked cute guy at work out, and he said the f-word. Friends… This in itself isn’t that bad, but my response to his suggestion that we could hang out (f-word) was “yeah, well, I’m going back home, so..”

Great work! And new reasons to go tomato.

As a child, I used to get embarrassed over ANYTHING. No lie, it was horrible. But as I got older, the sweaty palms, the blushing.. it all went away. I haven’t blushed since I don’t know when. I guess my more recent go with the flow attitude works this way. I do know instead of blushing there are times when I get annoyed and my breast start to itch. I think that’s worse, but rare.

my face is always red!!! hi i as wondering if anybody could help me, i need some tips to try and stop going red at everything such as being asked if i want help ina shop. Its getting so bad im starting to go red towards my friends. It only just starting to happen. i used to be confident but im just losing it bit by bit. Im so paranoid everytime somebody says something to me i think “IM GONA GO RED” then i do but i cant stop this somebody please help!!!!!!!!!

I am nearly 53 – gawd it sounds so old but I relate to everyone here so much. The only difference is that when I was young there was NO place to go and talk about it like this venue here on the Internet. The Internet is such a tremendous place to realize that you are not alone.

You may not want to hear this but age does not cure blushing. I used to think it was confidence and self esteem issues but I have learned that it is in fact a gene of sorts. People who blush are usually more sensitive to their environment, other people’s thoughts and insecurities and of course their own. When I had a son it was the one thing I hoped he would not inherit from me. Unfortunately he did and I know he is suffering like you all are. The only way I have learned that you can deal with this is to stop giving it a place of importance. Blush away and ignore it. This is terribly hard to do but hating your life and staying away from situations will only cause you lost opportunities. I know how terribly hard this is. I don’t honestly think that anyone understands this “disorder”. Only those who have endured the ridiculousness of it would understand how painful it is. I too blushed with my family growing up and all the other situations mentioned here. Reading all the comments here from young people, my heart really goes out to you as I kept hoping that age would fix this – but it does not. Does this make you feel better or more hopeless? I hope that it makes you realize that accepting it as part of who you are is the one and only place to get to. I know that the only reason we care about this so much is that in our culture we are supposed to be in control, confident and self-assured and for some reason blushing is perceived as the opposite. But why? Who said this is true? When I blush now I just ignore it and continue on as if nothing is happening. Look people right in the eye and do not miss a beat in your communication. This way the phase will leave faster and you will maintain your self esteem. I wish you all the courage to accept this part of who you are and most likely your sensitive nature makes you one of the good people on this planet.

the only time i ever get better is when im wearing makeup. but then i feel it hides the fact that im blushing and someone so rudely points out im turning bright red. ugh i just want to stop worrying about it!

im totally sick of blushing, i find that i avoid situations so i wont blush, or if i think of that i might blush it seems to make me blush more, it can be anything that caused it, and coz i know im gonna blush i kinda talk myself into it, its almost as if my body is sitting waiting for it. i feel like i compromise myself by avoiding situations and not being brave and standing up to it,so in turn i risk expressing myself and end up showing people half of my personality. the only way i know how to handle it is (apart from freaking out)i hold my breath and hold tight or i try and squeeze my finger or something to take the focus away..which works sometimes but i do end up with a hurting finger…lol
by reading about this online it seems that i need to be brave and take the bull by the horns- so to speak and accept it and it will get easier…...yeah….better said that done….there has to be an easier way right?

Normally, I won’t blush. But then I realize I’m not blushing, and might blush at any time, which then makes me nervous and blush. The fact that I’m blushing makes me even more nervous which makes me even more red.

AAHHH

I turn completely red whenever I have to present or give a speech in class. I want to get over this!

It started about last year, I think due to my self esteem getting lower and lower.
It sucks because I don’t even have to be embarrassed…I’ll still blush, which THEN makes me embarrassed.
It’s horrible, it can happen anytime, anywhere with anyone.

Hope I can cross this off one day :)