get over the love of my life

We were togheter for 3 years, but i know him since 8 years ago and i love him since the fist moment. He lost his job last year and he havent been abble to get another and he said i put too mane pressure on him. That wasnt my intention, i just wanted to encourage him a little cuz he was so depressed. And the we start having problems cuz he never had a cent and we were so restricted in the outs and everything. I didnt care that actually, i just want (still) to see him ok and succesfull. I told him that but he said that he dont belive me.
Then he broke up with me and we still talk. For me is hard, i wish sometimes not to talk to him, but if i dont i feel like a big hole is opening in my chest and i have trouble breathing, it is horrible. So i keep talking to him. He said he still loves me, but he dont wanna be with me cuz i “dont love him”. He doesnt matter what i said. Then he blames me for eveything bad. He said that i hurt him on purpose and that when he did was non intentional.
It sound horrible, i know…. and it sounds like i shoudnt love him anymore. But i cant help it. I love him more than anything. I try with all my heart and soul not to think about him and do anything else. But now im having problems to focus on my things. He is in my mind all of the time, even if i do try really hard not to.
My friends live so far away and i cant go out that much. Im trying to read, study… wherever. But i dont know what to do.
Can someone give me some advice plz???. Thanks so much.

I am ashamed to say I love a man who I only knew two days. I haven´t seen him for over a year. I don´t know why, but I had never been inlove until I saw him. I met him somewhere in a dark room far away from my home. My heart exploded everytime he looked at me and touched me. I felt as though I had met the lover from my previou life. Being held by him was like a religious experience. Never have I felt like I belonged to somebody as then.
But he is such a typical guy, an average person, a nobody without dreams, it seems. He does not care about foolish romance or my yearning heart. I still wonder why in the hell I ever met him. The scent of his clothes and his skin still haunts me, like a nightmare. It won´t let me be. I remember the way he would bury his head behind my neck and sniff my skin, like a puppy who wanted closeness. And the times he asked me to come back to him, So he could see me again. I promised that I would, but I couldn´t then. It was impossible. Yet in my heart I made a deal to go to him as soon as I could.
But now he has forgotten me. Even though I wrote to him (oh what a stupid thing I wrote…!) It´s like I was nothing but a dream and now he´s back in reality. I wish I hadn´t sent him that supid letter, cuz now he thinks I´m a pathetic psycho. I wish atleast I could have lingered in his memory as something beautiful and etheral. But I really screwed up. Boy have I screwed up… And yet I am stuck in that feeling of looking into his misty eyes. It hurts so bad to listen to lovesongs and see happy couples kissing. I just realise I will never be kissed by him again, and so I never want to be kissed at all.
I´m used to the pain by now, cuz I´ve lived with it for over a year. I guess my only comfort is knowing that atleast my heart is healthy, cuz even if I feel really dead, I´m not dead, cuz I love someone with all my heart and that is the best sign that I´m alive I guess.

I’m trying to move on. I’m trying to set goals and live. I’m intelligent, talented, and personable. He made a mistake by leaving me, and it ripped out a bigger part of me than I ever should have let him get ahold of. The love of my life left the country 3 months ago. He left me 4 weeks ago. It’s been a month, and my heart is holding onto this love every bit as strongly as it was while he was still here, still holding me. He says he wants to be friends. I can’t handle it. He says he doesn’t know how he feels about me anymore. I want to die. I’m killing myself slowly through starvation and sleep deprivation. I need to let him go.

i miss my joe. i was so in love with him & maybe i STILL am.. we have gone thru SO many things i dont even know where to begin. i KNOW he loved me once upon a time..i know he was MADLY in love with me, but i also know that he no longer is. I love him so much still…it tears me up inside when i thnk of what we had..but it tears me up even harder when i think of all the fucked up shit he’s done to me. he has moved on to other people, other things, even another “lifestyle” but he is still the love of my life & always will be. He was my everything…my best friend, my family my lover, my life. all of that is dead and gone now..and now, im all alone. I mean nothing to him & it really sucks. theres not a single day that goes by that i dont think about him & miss him. im so lost & so depressed. I dont know how to move on i really dont know. my life has been on pause since the day we broke it off for good :( i need help

she was 21 and im 15…. it was like nothing i have ever felt, i knew i was in love, still am, but she said she cant do it cause she has to come home and talk to me then go out to the world and act like we dont even go out because shes studyin to become an elementary teacher…well we agreed to be just friends but we barely talk…shes also my bestfriend, i never felt so alone in my life, i have no one to talk to about anything, i lost the greatest person on the world, i missed school cause i couldnt bare to go, i feel so badd…i already feel like a pussy because i never opened up to anyone like i did her and well now she left me, i dont know how to get over her, i know im only 15 and i dont know what true love is, but with her i felt it, i just want her, want her forever and now i cant have it…i dont know what this is suppose to do for me but i guess knowin theres other people out there that are hurt helps…i wanna get over her and help other people to get over this death like feelin that bears the soul and heart.

My boyfriend of five years, who told me that he was the only one who mattered, who said we were going to get married, who helped me pick out names for our future children, who broke up with me because he ‘grew up’ and we ‘fought too much’ and because I went away to a college program and can’t see him everyday. Five years of nothing are looking me in the face and I don’t know what to do. He told me to just try to forget. HOW THE FUCK CAN I FORGET THAT? I’m so lost and I don’t know what to do. I’m only fifteen so people don’t take us seriously or think that I loved him or his family. I lost more than just him,I lost my second family. His family replaced my own. They were so nice and excepting and I just am so lost. I don’t know how to bring up to my mom that I need some anti-depressants because I think about killing myself all day long. If I’m not thinknig about Ethan than I’m thinking about killing myself. I’m so distracted from my damn school work that I can’t think about writing the two papers that are due tomorrow.

Four days ago, the love of my life split up. It all started with me having a bad day, and it escalated way beyond the point it should’ve. I threatened to post obscene pictures of her on her myspace, knowing damn well that I would never.. But she took that as a “last straw” of sorts.. She won’t pick up the phone when I call, won’t answer my messages on myspace, and even blocks me. We were madly in love for a year and a half, I was going to propose on our anniversary ( valentine’s day) but I have no means to contact her.. Her parents don’t want me anywhere near her. And when I tried to walk to her house, I end up in the hospital I’m in now.. So I have this ring, this broken heart, and so many empty dreams now that she is gone. I can’t stop thinking about her and not talking to her just kills me inside..I can’t dream of moving on without her, and thinking that she will move on with someone else just eats at me even more. I guess I’m just writing this to vent, but any advice is welcome..

We were together 6 months, and i know it doesn’t seem that long, but to me it was special, the most special a relationship has been.
We seperated as it was quite a long distance relationship and it was to hard on both of us. There was constant suspision from both of us. It didnt mean that the feelings werent still there.
We talk constantly and there have even been ongoing exchanges of love, him saying it, and i being reluctant at first and then agreeing that that is how i felt. But – he doesn’t want to get back together, he decided that it is too complicated and he cant go down that road again, but o how i want to. I would do anything for him to walk through my door and anounce his undying love. But it’s not going to happen. And even if it did it probably wouldn’t be for the best. We would still have the ongoing problems that we previously had.
So I want to get over the love of my life, because if i dont i will never move on. No one understands how seriously i feel about him, and how much i adore talking to him for hours on end. He feels the same, but there is somehting holding us back. Im not willing to contemplate understanding what that is, so i need to move on. Say good bye.

But one last question… How?

well my girlfriend of five years left me. so

Right now I’m dead in the middle of it. I have talked about it left and right, am going to therapy, and I’m trying to get my life back together. I lost all sense of self in the relationship, and I know she loved me, I know I love her, I do still, but she blames me for breaking up. I know I made mistakes, some of them repeatedly, but I was never unfaithful or made her second in my mind. I just let my insecurities get the best of me and took it out on her. But she never resolved that with me. She never gave me a hint she just decided one day she did not want to be with me. Right now she’s getting on with her life. I could not be happier to see her happy. And at the same time my heart shatters to think she will be THAT happy and share it with someone else. Because that is what I woke up to do every day I was with her. I was just too slow to realize how.
But after all, and though I still blame myself a relationship is made of 2, and it cannot be all m fault. I just hope that time heals this wounds, like it has hers, and I hope one day I am proud of who I am instead of blaming myself. The career can wait a bit. I need to be ok alone first, I keep qworking hard every single day, but I need to find joy in life again. I am lost because I forgot what that was when you’re on your own. I thinkof happy moments as something to share, and to have no one special to share those moments with tears me inside.

Time will tell, and I understand fully what you’re talking about. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you and wish you peace and happiness. If you have gotten over it and have any advice feel free to let me know. I could sure use some.