get over the love of my life

i miss my joe. i was so in love with him & maybe i STILL am.. we have gone thru SO many things i dont even know where to begin. i KNOW he loved me once upon a time..i know he was MADLY in love with me, but i also know that he no longer is. I love him so much still…it tears me up inside when i thnk of what we had..but it tears me up even harder when i think of all the fucked up shit he’s done to me. he has moved on to other people, other things, even another “lifestyle” but he is still the love of my life & always will be. He was my everything…my best friend, my family my lover, my life. all of that is dead and gone now..and now, im all alone. I mean nothing to him & it really sucks. theres not a single day that goes by that i dont think about him & miss him. im so lost & so depressed. I dont know how to move on i really dont know. my life has been on pause since the day we broke it off for good :( i need help

she was 21 and im 15…. it was like nothing i have ever felt, i knew i was in love, still am, but she said she cant do it cause she has to come home and talk to me then go out to the world and act like we dont even go out because shes studyin to become an elementary teacher…well we agreed to be just friends but we barely talk…shes also my bestfriend, i never felt so alone in my life, i have no one to talk to about anything, i lost the greatest person on the world, i missed school cause i couldnt bare to go, i feel so badd…i already feel like a pussy because i never opened up to anyone like i did her and well now she left me, i dont know how to get over her, i know im only 15 and i dont know what true love is, but with her i felt it, i just want her, want her forever and now i cant have it…i dont know what this is suppose to do for me but i guess knowin theres other people out there that are hurt helps…i wanna get over her and help other people to get over this death like feelin that bears the soul and heart.

My boyfriend of five years, who told me that he was the only one who mattered, who said we were going to get married, who helped me pick out names for our future children, who broke up with me because he ‘grew up’ and we ‘fought too much’ and because I went away to a college program and can’t see him everyday. Five years of nothing are looking me in the face and I don’t know what to do. He told me to just try to forget. HOW THE FUCK CAN I FORGET THAT? I’m so lost and I don’t know what to do. I’m only fifteen so people don’t take us seriously or think that I loved him or his family. I lost more than just him,I lost my second family. His family replaced my own. They were so nice and excepting and I just am so lost. I don’t know how to bring up to my mom that I need some anti-depressants because I think about killing myself all day long. If I’m not thinknig about Ethan than I’m thinking about killing myself. I’m so distracted from my damn school work that I can’t think about writing the two papers that are due tomorrow.

Four days ago, the love of my life split up. It all started with me having a bad day, and it escalated way beyond the point it should’ve. I threatened to post obscene pictures of her on her myspace, knowing damn well that I would never.. But she took that as a “last straw” of sorts.. She won’t pick up the phone when I call, won’t answer my messages on myspace, and even blocks me. We were madly in love for a year and a half, I was going to propose on our anniversary ( valentine’s day) but I have no means to contact her.. Her parents don’t want me anywhere near her. And when I tried to walk to her house, I end up in the hospital I’m in now.. So I have this ring, this broken heart, and so many empty dreams now that she is gone. I can’t stop thinking about her and not talking to her just kills me inside..I can’t dream of moving on without her, and thinking that she will move on with someone else just eats at me even more. I guess I’m just writing this to vent, but any advice is welcome..

We were together 6 months, and i know it doesn’t seem that long, but to me it was special, the most special a relationship has been.
We seperated as it was quite a long distance relationship and it was to hard on both of us. There was constant suspision from both of us. It didnt mean that the feelings werent still there.
We talk constantly and there have even been ongoing exchanges of love, him saying it, and i being reluctant at first and then agreeing that that is how i felt. But – he doesn’t want to get back together, he decided that it is too complicated and he cant go down that road again, but o how i want to. I would do anything for him to walk through my door and anounce his undying love. But it’s not going to happen. And even if it did it probably wouldn’t be for the best. We would still have the ongoing problems that we previously had.
So I want to get over the love of my life, because if i dont i will never move on. No one understands how seriously i feel about him, and how much i adore talking to him for hours on end. He feels the same, but there is somehting holding us back. Im not willing to contemplate understanding what that is, so i need to move on. Say good bye.

But one last question… How?

well my girlfriend of five years left me. so

Right now I’m dead in the middle of it. I have talked about it left and right, am going to therapy, and I’m trying to get my life back together. I lost all sense of self in the relationship, and I know she loved me, I know I love her, I do still, but she blames me for breaking up. I know I made mistakes, some of them repeatedly, but I was never unfaithful or made her second in my mind. I just let my insecurities get the best of me and took it out on her. But she never resolved that with me. She never gave me a hint she just decided one day she did not want to be with me. Right now she’s getting on with her life. I could not be happier to see her happy. And at the same time my heart shatters to think she will be THAT happy and share it with someone else. Because that is what I woke up to do every day I was with her. I was just too slow to realize how.
But after all, and though I still blame myself a relationship is made of 2, and it cannot be all m fault. I just hope that time heals this wounds, like it has hers, and I hope one day I am proud of who I am instead of blaming myself. The career can wait a bit. I need to be ok alone first, I keep qworking hard every single day, but I need to find joy in life again. I am lost because I forgot what that was when you’re on your own. I thinkof happy moments as something to share, and to have no one special to share those moments with tears me inside.

Time will tell, and I understand fully what you’re talking about. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you and wish you peace and happiness. If you have gotten over it and have any advice feel free to let me know. I could sure use some.

i was with my boyfriend for almost a yr and a half i love him so much but i broke up with him and it wasnt the first time, i regret it so much i wish i didnt do it but i felt like he drove me there, i never get to see him he was always either working or getting drunk with his friends and i got angry now he wont take me back because he said he was sick of getting hurt and hurting me. i feel like i hav lost everything, i dont know who my friends are anymore because they like him more and i haave nothing to show for myself. i want him back so badly i dont know what to do and i dont know how to move on and i dont think i want to.

I have been with the love of my life for about 8 yrs. he is a really good guy but I had to break up with him yet again because he is not Jewish and I am. For some reason this time it hurts much more than any other time we have separated. I was fine the first couple of days and then I realized that I have no friends. No real career to speak of so I have nothing to really look forward to. The friends I do have are all codependent on me and right now I need someone else to lean on.

I keep imagining him with someone else. I know he is not the type to jump into bed with the next pair of legs, but I know it will happen. I broke up with him to give him his freedom. There is a big gap in my life and its weird I feel empty inside, and I have no real appetite. What if I will never find anyone who will love me the way he loves me?

Last night after work I sat in the park and cried for a good hour before I went home. I called him pretending that it was an accident. All he said was ok I’ll talk to you later. I sit at work all day begging that the next call is him,

I have no idea how to live my life without him. He is the only man I have ever been with and now I have to live without him. Sometimes I feel that I may never find someone and that I will be the old lady who cries all the time.

Hi i have been married for 4 years and had bn wt him for 10 year. I am 25. we had brooken up two years ago for three months .I was pregnant wt our daughter. second child. I dnt understand wt happend. He was the one buggn to have another kid and i had refused for 5 years. Then i got pragnant and things changed. We got back together after the three months off and on. He is always the one coming back. And I kno he has been with other women.But Ialways thinkhe is going to change. Since then my self esteem has DROOPED!I AM NOT FAT OR UGLY. I KNO but now that I have two kids , I feel Like I can never be with any one else. Like no one will take me seriouse. Today he told me that he didn’t have a girlfriend bt was chilln with some one else…..? I feel like I cant ever go back to him , but I cant let go of him. I am scared that if he comes back i will fall again. Can any one just help give me sum advice or something?