It’s not that I am afraid or feel inferior to anyone; quite the opposite actually. I just don’t like strangers and I think that if I make eye contact with them for too long(more than a nano second) then that gives them permission to harrass me with small talk. I really hate small meaningless conversations. Well, apparently except when I blather on to my husband. Eye contact seems to give people the opening they need to treat you like someone they know and then you just can’t get away until they run out of steam, which is usually ten minutes past the time where I have gone completely insane and have under great stress astrally projected myself to a far corner of the room in order to mentally survive the verbal onslaught of the present stranger. Why do people just think that it’s OK to do this. IT”S NOT. Just stand still in line(or wherever you are) and keep your comments to yourself. It’s OK fo your lips not to be moving for a few minutes. Surely there is some important issue in your life that you need to be turning over in your mind! I’m not a mean person, honest. I just want to not feel like I have to be on guard against some busybody everytime I go out in public. Hmmmmm, what was the goal again?
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OppositeofWar wishes we could all say what we need to say.
I’m fine with making eye contact with people in one-on-one conversation, but when it comes to strangers walking down the street I get scared. I always feel like someone is going to laugh at me or think that I’m a freak. I think from now on I’ll set a daily goal of a number of people to make eye ontact with. I’ll start today with one.
Breathing slowly, deeply and letting the other person see you just as you are, forgetting what judgements they might be making of you helps hold eye contact.
This is a must!! ever since I started makeing strong eye contact that results have been amazing! For one, I usually never get ID’ed for things anymore, and I believe the reason is strong eye contact creates a feeling of confidence! also, this is a very very powerfull flirting tool! it is amazing what your eyes can say, they can often create a feeling of trust and contentment!
Eye Contact = Confidence… DO THIS!
I’ve noticed that I’ve been having trouble making eye contact with people again lately. I went to a very small private middle school where I was bullied so much that I had to change schools and became a completely different person—an extremely quiet, anxious, frightened kid. I really came out of my shell during my last years of high school and was very, very confident most times, but now that I’m in college, I feel like I’m being beaten back in again. I’m extremely insecure to begin with, and I feel so different from everyone else here, so I’ve started looking down at my feet again or looking away when I speak. THEY WON’T BITE, DAMMIT.
