Stop overanalyzing everything

I think I’m worse now than I ever have been. I over-analyze every interaction that I care about. And I over-analyze every decision I have to make until I am completely paralyzed by it and unable to choose one way or the other.

I don’t understand why I need constant reassurance that everything between us is ok. I feel like a self-confident person. But I feel lost and directionless at the same time.

I think just knowing what I wanted would solve most of my problems. If I knew what I wanted, I’d know where to start.

I seriously feel that my constant over-analyzation of every single situation in my life since i was 14 is killing me…my brain is tired. My mind swims with endless whys and hows, trying to figure out why things are the way they are…while most people seem to just flit around without a single care in the world. It pisses me off, and i’ve given it a lot of thought ;>

I haven’t mastered it – but I’ve also forgotten about it. I take that as, “It obviously is not an issue if you forget to worry about it. You must be doing something right.”

Fuck off for a bit. Have some ice cream or something.

i’ve decided i don’t want to stop. i like to overanalyze. it helps me feel better about things when i’ve gone over every possible aspect

I really want to stop with my over analyzation of every relationship. I feel this is the reason i cannot keep a longterm relationship. I will start out from the first date…if not before… asking everyone i encounter..stranger on the elevator, b estfriend, sister, coworker.. what their opinion of every single step i take or my boyfriend takes, every email sent.. every phone conversation….every arguement… Then i freak out..and overanalyze.. and i forget to form my own feelings..and i have this mixture melting pot of everyone elses feelings.. its a panic… it is just part of who i have become as the result of being hurt several times in my past..scared to be the stupid dumb girl in the end again… but i can see now that this is a major issue and i want to stop before i lose my current guy.

One of my hugest problems. It causes me a lot of stress. I feel like I have to pick apart every situation, behaviour, thought, action. Not just of me but of everyone so I can always have an explanation or “better understanding” for something but usually it just freaks me out more. A lot of times I get upset as well because generally assumption follows overanalying. If I don’t understand something, then maybe I don’t need to understand it. I need to let somethings just not occupy my mind and in time it’ll make itself evident. I don’t need to figure out everything. Some things are fine being the way they are- not understood.

I am probably the biggest analyzer, worrier, overthinker, extremely paranoid person out there and i wish i wasnt. Last week i spent my spring break in boston with my cousin and she kept telling me i analyze everything too much i overthink and blow things out of proportion, and she isnt the first to tell me. I just want to stop this!! Its ruining my life and potential relationships with people, but its not something u can just switch off it is a big part of who i am. i believe it has alot to do with confidence at least for me. If i wasnt so worried about what people think I wouldnt analyse every little thing they say or do. I know that i will never stop analyizing evrything and im not sure id want to stop because it is as i said a big part of me. I just want to get it under control and not let it be an obstacle in my life.

It’s who I am. I like to think things over a lot. I don’t really mind it, but at times it can get really annoying. I do think it gives me an advantage over some. A lot of people don’t do it and it doesn’t help them in the end. I don’t know, I see it being more useful than not.

if you could redesign your self and start your life over right now, maybe you could stop ‘overanalyzing’ ‘everything’; but you can’t. this is something you’ve probably learned (or taught yourself) as a method for adapting to your environment. if you’ve spent many years, especially formative, in an insane or confusing environment, it is likely that your mechanisms for surviving and feeling ‘safe’ are pretty hardwired at this point. analyzing what we take in through our many senses and impossibly complex minds is something we do in order to feel that we have some control over what happens to us. sometimes what we do in order to FEEL in control in certain aspects actually ends up making us IN FACT out of control in our actions, especially those which we feel have feel potential to alter our lives significantly.

RD Laing and Alan Watts inspired this entry.