get self confidence

I don’t know how to do this. My “humility” is so ingrained.

why do i assume my inferiority so automatically… must work on this.

I had a performance evaluation at work and I was a little worried about it but it was pretty interesting and made me feel good.

Basically it was all kind of nice compliments about my skills and wisdom and flair (!! YAY!!) and then suggesting I become more confident in my self so I can speak out more and share my views more widely with co-workers and stuff.

I am going to try to take it to heart.

At the same time, I am making a few new friends lately, which is rare for me and am trying to be a little more fearless and open with them. It is hard though.

Why is it so ingrained for me to shut my mouth and defer to others?

I have such trouble with this getting self-confidence thing. Why am I so scared?

I am doing a new assignment at work, where I am being supervised with by someone who really believes in me, and empowers, me, etc. She is also quite fearless and confident in the face of her limitations—maybe I can learn from her.

I think I grew up with an inferiority complex, so it is prettty ingrained.

This is holding me back both personally and professionally. Funny how it is not enough to just recognize the problem – I know my lack of confidence is what is making me ineffective at certain types of relationships and work tasks – but how to cure it?

I gave a public talk on a daunting subject and it went pretty okay! I need to do this more to feel confident.

I never used to notice my lack of confidence. I think maybe I am noticing now cos I am surrounded with people who are sure of themselves. Also I am going through some weird internal turmoil, where I can’t believe it but I am still getting mental fallout from the apartment fire… anyway, I am changing as a person as I heal slowly and it is making me not sure of who I am, etc…

I should get a self help book. I wonder if you have a recommendation?

when i am doing something in a crowd(like playing guitar with my band,or playing tennis match in front of a lot of ppl),i start to shake,i dont feel so good ,and i cannot do what i ussually do when i am alone…i really hate this problem,and it’s killing me,if someone can help me, please say somethin :)

It is silly little thing but, I went off to a conference on my own and I feel like I did a good job. I came home feeling a little more knowledgeable, capable and confident! MORE OF THIS PLEASE!

I spoke out at a meeting. It was okay.