stay in love

the title says it all about me. why is love so confusing?!

Haha that would also help to a good start I guess. Although it’s not my issue! maybe I should rather put down “want women to know what they want” HA! Too bad that’ll never happen right?! I smell somthing burning… Hopfully NOT the building I’m in….

I’m 17 and I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and to tell you the truth, there have been many times in which I’ve questioned the sanity of it all, so
tip 1: Keep the bigger picture in mind and never forget what’s important to you.
We’ve been ‘separated’ by an ocean (literally), mistrust, unfaithfulness, personal issues, so
tip 2: If you’ve got a long distance relationship, send REAL letters, care packets and keep in contact often. Talk things out when your distance is not physical. Practice patience.
He is my best friend and the man I want to start a family with. Despite everything, we’ve always been there for each other and would be empty without out each other.
It helps to have common goals, that way, you’ll never lose sight of what the hell you’re doing.
Instead of just acknowledging his flaws, find them cute, that’s what I do. It just comes naturally, but you never know how things might turn out if you just change your perspective on things.
One Last Big Tip: No pain, no gain :)

It’s so much easier when you’re starting out. Oh how lovely it is…those first kisses, holding hands under the moonlight, romantic walks on the beach, camping together for the very first time, sharing a bottle of wine, these are all memories I cherish fondly of me and Bri.
4 years down the line though will have you seeing things other than romance however. Fighting, arguing, crying, cursing him out, kicking him out, frustration, geez!!! Sometimes I wonder if it’s all worth it.
But should we expect perfection from our significant others? No. I know I’m not perfect. And relationships take work to make them work. I’m happy where I’m at.
When you’ve been with someone for this long, it takes a little more work to keep things alive! But that’s why we do a lot of things together to bond over, like staying up late at night baking cupcakes from scratch, or like sitting in front of our fire pit on a nice night, talking all hours of the night. Somehow we’re making this work. And we’re doing alright.

I might give up on this goal. Should you have to try to stay in love? I’m not so sure nowadays. I’ve rolled with enough of the punches of this relationship, so now I think I might prefer just to… See how it goes, or something. I’ve come to the conclusion finally, that much as I love this person, if it ends, it’ll be for the right reasons, I will have done my very best, and most importantly of all: I will be okay.

It’s so easy for me to fallout of love. This guy is amazing and I’m still in love with him 6 months down the track. He makes me so happy I don’t want to give up on us. Now I just ride out the feelings when I get bored or feel trapped and they pass being replaced again by the intense feelings of love and desire for him. It’s about riding out those moments went I might want to leave, knowing they are only temporary feelings brought on most often by stress and other situational factors and not him.

I really dig him and hope it lasts a long time.

Well I have come home for Christmas, and left him in London until he (hopefully) visits at the end of the month so we have New Year together. I’ve never fought so hard for a relationship before. But then similarly, I’ve never felt like this before. I wish it wasn’t so hard sometimes, but then I suppose you have to remember that without the down times, the ups would either not exist or not feel so special.

It’s actually pretty scary how well he knows me now. Hmm.

<3 i love my boyfriend so much, everything is perfect and exciting and wonderful even after all this time. he is my best friend, but however much time we spend together, i still feel butterflies. he treats me like an absolute princess - i didnt realise boys like him existed! we both have huge ambitions and are only young, but for now, i am completely in love. i hope we stay that way because its the best feeling and i feel very lucky to have it.

The last month or so have been the toughest yet. I’m realising that we’ve both changed, and though we still love each other, staying together in an adult relationship is hard sometimes.

What hurts is that he lied to me for the first time recently and I’ve been finding it very difficult to forgive him, and have found myself preoccupied with whether doing so demeans me. How many times can you forgive someone before you end up degrading yourself? I don’t know. But i’m still working at it. I’m either an optimist or a fool.

If anyone has any thoughts I’d be interested to hear them?