How to let go of perfectionism
How I did it: Until I was about 36 i thought that there were creatures on earth who always got it right. When I was in school as a kid I had my share of hundreds on tests, so in life I thought I was supposed to go for hundreds. I also bought into the idea, which is put forward by so many companies to try to get a huge amount of performance out of people. By delivering what are really expectations that are not in harmony with life's purposes. Most people on the earth are not put here to be a super achiever. Since companies can make a ton of money if they can get everybody to believe they're a super achiever,that idea is put forward. I know this for a fact because I have managed a business with five employees, and I have also been involved with situations where high performance was desired. The fact on earth is that not everyone is a super achiever. If you just think about it a minute,it is easy to see that it must be that way, in fact must be that way. If everyone were a super achiever and super achiever level was simply be the norm. So it's not surprising if in the workplace. You are surrounded by people, especially in management who are attempting to quote get your best out of you. So basically to let go of perfectionism, you let go of people outside yourself who are driving you to perfection. Then you look back over your life and you see who those people were who shaped you and foreign view in your early years and put an emphasis on protection. Then you look around at who is in your life now and you ask yourself. Will they love me if I am not perfect? Can we have a perfectly wonderful relationship, if I am not a Barbie doll and Ken and G.I. Joe, and Hulk Hogan and macho Man
and Pamela Anderson? Will I not be love, if I am less-than-perfect? For me at least I would run not walk out of a relationship like that, because in the long run. We have to make mistakes and a lot of them to get out the true potential, which is within side of us. So if I have to be perfect, I cannot do that. Does this mean you should run around on your husband or your wife or beat your kids or do drugs? Of course not. Some things we must get right. We put the emphasis on those things and get them right. That is not perfectionism that is making sure that you do not do people in love you and who are close to you. That has to be done right. After those serious real and important things are nailed down right, then perfectionism is only a block. But I did too was asked myself why is it that they want me to be perfect? It was usually because they wanted to exploit my energy, or talent, or in some cases it was so that they would have a certain appearance in front of their peers are other important group. Obviously those are not good reasons for me to be perfect. I guess the important thing... the most important thing... is to simply realize that to be perfect is an absolute impossibility because of the nature of life itself. On the earth immersed as we are in a material reality.... it just flat-out can't be done.... I want to get my hundred percent grades on a couple things are three things are so in life that really count.... in Latin. That phrase for that sine qui non..... which roughly translated means that which not..... in other words that without which you do not have it.... you hold a few important things in place with all your might. And then realize that the winds and rain are going to be on the rest of the things... not perfect but good enough. Good enough is good enough...... somebodies demanding that you be perfect. You can bet that you are being used.
Lessons & tips: The lessons are pretty well stated above. I guess if somebody is demanding that you be perfect. I guess the tip I would give is, you better find out why and fast and get that straightened out. If they need a Barbie doll. You probably need to send him to Toys "R" Us.
Resources: I think the resource is in realizing that you absolutely can find plenty of people to give you all the love you need and you do not need to be perfect to have that happen. If somebody at work needs perfection. Then they better get a machine to take your place. I think one important thing to be aware of is that if you actually try to do this. You could lose a boyfriend or girlfriend or two, and definitely he could be fired a couple times because there are prices to pay in life for actually being who we are. No matter how nice you are, some people are going to try to, do you in. Ignore that and keep going. Here is a good questionto ask:
Are you willing to love me and accept me and help me to grow into the person that I need to become?
The next question is this: if they answered no or if their actions show that the answer is no. Even if they said yes. Then we have to ask ourselves why in the world we would we want to be with this person??...NOT....
