that I am starting to feel much more comfortable with clearing things away that I no longer need.
It takes a certain amount of confidence to say that you don’t need a pair of shoes, or a stack of old clothes. It isn’t easy to give yourself permission to give away something sentimental, or something that was a gift.
You have to have a strong enough sense of self to know that you’ll be okay without it, or that you aren’t giving away a part of yourself, or that your happiness is more important than carrying around things.
You have to get over that strange sense of responsibility you can have for objects, like somehow you have to preserve them. That means all the endless work of storing them, cleaning them, sorting them, and from time to time, moving them.
It isn’t easy, to change your mindset about objects. I grew up without a lot of extra money, so you almost worshipped anything you owned. That’s fine, when you don’t have tons of stuff, but once you do, that mindset has to change.
Now I am more comfortable getting rid of something old when I buy something new (like pots), or things I’ve outgrown, or worn out things, or things I’ve taken out of obligation.
I’m not finished,(I likely never will be) but I am working hard to establish a new habit of regularly clearing things out, and trying to see objects as just useful, to help recognize things that are holding me back.
At some point, I want to have my home clutter free enough so that I can truly decorate, as in have an actual deliberate look to my home, instead of having piles of crap everywhere. 6 months ago