stop negative self-talk

Ok here is my positive thoughts: life doesnt totally suck 100% of the time

when things are as bad as they can get, they can only get better

I am not the most worthless person in the world..and infact nobody is worthless because it is enivitable that they will do one thing that will affect the world in a positive way

even though i have not achieved my dream yet, it does not mean that the situation is hopeless or that i am hopeless

even though i cant afford tuition fees, a car or to live in a nice home, it does not mean I am the poorest person in the world

just because I am not at my ideal weight, it does not mean I am a fat slob

just because I am not a supermodel, it does not mean I am ugly..

i know that i am having problems at the moment, but i know that the answers will come if i am there to greet them :)

AHHH…THAT FEELS BETTER!! :):):):):):)

My friends keep telling me “stop talking nonsenses about yourself”. Okay, I’ll try.

I haven’t had confidence since I was super little, like 8 or 9 probably, maybe before. I always felt inferior to the other girls and people told me I was ugly. It didn’t help growing up with a mom who always brought herself down and called herself ugly, fat, etc. But I am working on this and I really want to achieve this, and I know I can.

Some days I can catch these negative judgements, see them for what they are and dismiss them, other days its a little more difficult and it can be like taking two steps backward. I just keep reminding myself it is an ongoing process and not going to happen overnight. I am more able to forgive and be kind to myself for the days I ‘slip up’, learning is about making mistakes, if there was a little kid trying to learn something you would never condemn them, you would show them kindness and patience, so I apply this to myself.

I had a very stupid lunch today…with my boss and workmate..
then i realized i have this goal in my 43things…i should stop negative self-talk! I told myself that everything in the past just presented whatever happend and I have no way to change it although I want it to change desperately but still, it’s just there. What I only can change is today and I should learn more, keep fit and give myself confident, that’s the only choice.

Okay well I might have a messy room but that doesnt mean I am a slob
I might forget people’s birthday but that doesnt mean im unkind

This is such a hard habit to kick, especially since I’m mildly OCD so negative thoughts (or ANTs- Automatic Negative Thoughts) just pop into my mind and repeat endlessly.
The good news is that I’ve taken a lot of positive steps to help stop these ‘ANTs’. I have this positive mantra I created that specifically corresponds to goals and qualities I’d like to develop, so whenever I get stuck in a stream of negative thinking and can’t stop the repetition, I just start singing my mantra in my mind over and over again. It seems like a good habit to start, and repeating positive thoughts is a good transition—even if I still have trouble quieting my mind.

be more self aware how i talk to myself because if i slow down i realize i am only one that is so tough on myself.
time to give me, a break.

I have sabotaged myself so many times by not knowing when to stop picking at the scabs of my psyche. I believe all my worst press and can’t always accept the good things. That sets me up to be a very unhappy individual, and I don’t want to be unhappy. I figure I have 35 more years of active life left, and I don’t want to waste time proving to everyone how bad I am at everything.

I’m not bad at anything. I’m not ugly. I’m not terrible. I’m not anything other than what I want to be, and I don’t want to be bad at anything.

Does it help if I tell myself compliments? Let’s say 3 compliments a day?

I need a system and have no idea how to start!