stop negative self-talk

I feel I’m trying to fool myself with positive self-talk. It doesn’t work with me (yet?). Right now I just try to think about myself less. Nowadays I try to think of things I like instead: I’m crooning songs while doing housework or having a shower, I’m wondering about the book I’m reading while getting ready to sleep or preparing my breakfast. Maybe positive self-talk will be the next step.

One more tip: Instead of “I must handle this!” I could say “Let’s handle this!”. (I hate forcing myself to do things, I must trick myself into them.:) Easier said than done, but let’s try!

Step 1: Keep distracting yourself by positive thoughts.
Step 2: Read articles about the problem.
Step 3: Put the ideas in practice. (Keep trying.)

I haven’t had confidence since I was super little, like 8 or 9 probably, maybe before. I always felt inferior to the other girls and people told me I was ugly. It didn’t help growing up with a mom who always brought herself down and called herself ugly, fat, etc. But I am working on this and I really want to achieve this, and I know I can.

Some days I can catch these negative judgements, see them for what they are and dismiss them, other days its a little more difficult and it can be like taking two steps backward. I just keep reminding myself it is an ongoing process and not going to happen overnight. I am more able to forgive and be kind to myself for the days I ‘slip up’, learning is about making mistakes, if there was a little kid trying to learn something you would never condemn them, you would show them kindness and patience, so I apply this to myself.

At first, I have to notice myself using negative words and thinkings not simply trying to change words…it sounds fake.

Being realistic sometimes means an excuse of hiding from challenging.

It’s absolutely necessary to confront what I am to do this.

I think it’s a long way to go and don’t know how to count this like I do in other goals…counting to motivate myself doesn’t mean anything about this I guess.

But I don’t want to avert my eyes from my negative side any more.

Let’s face and conquer this.

Achieving this goal is definitely important in my life.

I’ve been trying to wear light colours recently.
I suddenly noticed that I have too many dark colour clothes.
Today my skirt was red.
Being passionate and positive, some say this helps.
It may sound funny but I believe that these small things change a lot.
Colours and habit are really important.

I had a very stupid lunch today…with my boss and workmate..
then i realized i have this goal in my 43things…i should stop negative self-talk! I told myself that everything in the past just presented whatever happend and I have no way to change it although I want it to change desperately but still, it’s just there. What I only can change is today and I should learn more, keep fit and give myself confident, that’s the only choice.

Okay well I might have a messy room but that doesnt mean I am a slob
I might forget people’s birthday but that doesnt mean im unkind

This is such a hard habit to kick, especially since I’m mildly OCD so negative thoughts (or ANTs- Automatic Negative Thoughts) just pop into my mind and repeat endlessly.
The good news is that I’ve taken a lot of positive steps to help stop these ‘ANTs’. I have this positive mantra I created that specifically corresponds to goals and qualities I’d like to develop, so whenever I get stuck in a stream of negative thinking and can’t stop the repetition, I just start singing my mantra in my mind over and over again. It seems like a good habit to start, and repeating positive thoughts is a good transition—even if I still have trouble quieting my mind.

be more self aware how i talk to myself because if i slow down i realize i am only one that is so tough on myself.
time to give me, a break.

I have sabotaged myself so many times by not knowing when to stop picking at the scabs of my psyche. I believe all my worst press and can’t always accept the good things. That sets me up to be a very unhappy individual, and I don’t want to be unhappy. I figure I have 35 more years of active life left, and I don’t want to waste time proving to everyone how bad I am at everything.

I’m not bad at anything. I’m not ugly. I’m not terrible. I’m not anything other than what I want to be, and I don’t want to be bad at anything.

Does it help if I tell myself compliments? Let’s say 3 compliments a day?

I need a system and have no idea how to start!